Weddingbee Blog

This summer, Bossyboots and I started a new tradition… “Sundays at Starbucks.” We are well-aware that Starbucks does not have the best coffee, but we are addicted to the green straws and morning buns. So, there you go. People with low standards—that’s us.

Again, if the vast number of calories shown above isn’t an advertisement for marathon training, I don’t know what is. It’s like there’s a tapeworm in my stomach. Trust me, sometimes the thought of a morning bun and an American-oversized Starbucks drink is the only thing that keeps me going on the treadmill.

Anyway, Bossyboots and I found that our wackadoo schedules have really been affecting our relationship. We both work a ton, and the weekends are often full of errands, succeeded by laundry, succeeded by marathon training, succeeded by washing dishes. You get the idea.

Saturday night is date night for us. We’ll usually go out to dinner, grab a drink—just hang out. We were finding that somehow “big” conversations were making their way into our dates. Sometimes tense convos, sometimes convos about decisions we needed to make—the nuts and bolts stuff. In my opinion, dates serve a purpose all their own—they’re for emotionally reconnecting to your partner, and just having fun. In the wise words of this poster:

(Image from Sapling Press via Bricolage)

For this reason, we instituted our weekly Sunday Starbucks time. We wanted to take some of the pressure off of our Saturday dates so that we could just have fun with each other. Having a set time to talk about things that we’re concerned about, big plans we need to make, or businessy type stuff has been really great. We’ve also noticed that it’s felt good to know that if we want to bring up something that’s difficult, having that designated time really helps create an easy opportunity to do so. When one of you leaves the house by 6:15a every morning, the other doesn’t get home until 9p every night… scheduling dates for fun, and then dates for talking things out is great. I recommend it!

Do you and your partner have to make extra efforts to schedule things that are good for your relationship? What are the little things you do to connect to your partner when you have conflicting schedules?

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