Things You Shouldn’t Say to a Bride

Things You Shouldn’t Say to a Bride

September 28th, 2011 @ 7:21 am by Miss Petit Four
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Since Mr. PF and I have been engaged for almost two years, you can bet your bottom dollar I have heard a lot of wedding talk. Needless to say, nothing surprises me anymore, so I decided to put together a silly list that I’m sure we can all relate to.

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1. I’m invited to the wedding, right? Or even better…I’m gonna be a bridesmaid, right?

I have heard both of these, and they both took me by surprise. I was left with a deer-in-the-headlights stare and somehow stumbled my way out of it. I totally understand that people are excited for you and they want to be there to share your day, but it puts the bride in a really awkward position, especially if you aren’t close friends.

2. Your ring is so cute!

OK, your bunny is cute, your new cardigan is cute, Hello Kitty is cute, but my ring is not cute. We can’t all have two-carat sparklers on our fingers, but I like my ring very much, thank you.

3. Anything about why she shouldn’t get married

I never really understood this. A bride is planning one of the most exciting days of her life, and in the midst of best wishes and congratulations you hear a voice shouting, “Don’t do it!” Most of the time it comes from men thinking that they are being funny, but it gets old real fast.

4. I know you have a small venue, but would it be OK if I brought my friend?

Bonus points if you have never met said friend before.

And last, but not least…

5. Do you have a baby in your belly?

Oh yes, my friends, I heard this special nugget yesterday from one of my first-graders. She did follow it up by saying that it’s probably a really cute baby but, nevertheless, I was horrified. I don’t think I really need to explain why this is something you shouldn’t say…haha.

What crazy things have you heard while wedding planning?

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49 Responses to “Things You Shouldn’t Say to a Bride”

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utcalgirl (message) 148 posts, Blushing bee

This is soooo true!!! I have had a long engagement also and hear a lot, “Aren’t you married yet?” and “Still not married??”.

9/28/11 @ 7:38 am (reply)

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kappasweetiepie (message) 73 posts, Worker bee

Oh, thank goodness someone else gets irked by the “oh, your ring is so cute” comment. Because you know what that does to me? It makes me feel like my ring isn’t nice enough. I love it, don’t get me wrong, but “cute” just is NOT the word for .75 carats of pure beauty. Thanks for sharing

9/28/11 @ 7:39 am (reply)

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MeganTacky2247 (message) 686 posts, Busy bee

This is hilarious!!! I love it!!!

9/28/11 @ 7:41 am (reply)

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queenfrostine07 (message) 29 posts, Newbee

We aren’t planning on having the wedding for 3 years (I want to be done with law school) so I really won’t start planning for 2, and I’ve heard a lot of “are you going to be able to wait that long?” which is silly because I wasn’t expecting to be engaged yet, so why not wait until we can commit the proper time and energy to having a wonderful wedding? Thanks for sharing (and the warning)!

9/28/11 @ 7:46 am (reply)

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Miss Fox (message) 859 posts, Busy bee

Amen, PF. The one I hate the most was “why such a long engagement?” - it mostly happened the first year or so , but literally everyone would ask it. And it got old real fast.. it just felt so.. judgy. And don’t even get me started on the whole “why are you getting married” thing. I had an acquaintance go off on me about that, and I just wanted to slap him. If you don’t agree, keep your mouth shut, yes?

9/28/11 @ 7:50 am (reply)

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PinkPinstripes (message) 1,654 posts, Bumble bee

My personal fave, “So you’re going to diet before your wedding, right?” or “I bet you can’t eat this because you’re on a wedding diet!”.

Um no, I’m getting the dress to fit me, not me to fit into the dress, thank you very much. and I’m not overweight! What are you trying to say exactly??

9/28/11 @ 7:56 am (reply)

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Future Mrs. Huban (message) 155 posts, Blushing bee

I’m sick of my coworkers telling me not to get married! I’m sorry that you’re not in a happy marriage, but that doesn’t mean we’re doomed as well! And I’ve had my fair share of friends asking if they can invite their friend/new significant other. Ummm, can I get back to you?

9/28/11 @ 8:15 am (reply)

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soontobeMrsEschberger (message) 346 posts, Helper bee

“Everything is going to change once you’re married.”
omg. Thank you, I have only heard it a million times! We have been together for 4 years, living together for 2 years, and engaged for a year. I know it will change somewhat once its official, but don’t try to talk me out of marriage.
My FI best friend (and best man) got married 2 years ago & they are trying to convince us not to spend too much on our wedding & saying we will regret it & how it just isn’t worth it.

How rude!

9/28/11 @ 8:25 am (reply)

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Mr.Smithsgirl (message) 547 posts, Busy bee

Ugh ppl are so tacky w their dumb questions! Good list

9/28/11 @ 8:29 am (reply)

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kappasweetiepie (message) 73 posts, Worker bee

@soontobeMrsEschberger: OMG, I know! My fiance and I have lived together for 3.5 years, dated for that long too, and I’m pretty sure whatever makes your first year “the toughest year,” we’ve already ironed all that out. All he’s doing is putting a ring on it. Nothing else will change.

9/28/11 @ 8:32 am (reply)

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Mrs. Hyena (message) 1,882 posts, Buzzing bee

“Are you excited yet?”
Hello, dumbest question ever.

9/28/11 @ 8:35 am (reply)

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pinktwilightt (message) 58 posts, Worker bee

We were engaged with out a ring for a long while. Our engagement was more or less a Decision we sat down and talked about there was no purposal ect. I know people ask “How did he do it’ and when i tell people its like they are totally discussed in the way we chose to do go abouts getting married..

Also.. When it comes to wedding Planing.. I HATE!! When people say we have Plenty of time.. When they have never planed a wedding before.. They think you can do everything at a drop of a dime!

9/28/11 @ 8:37 am (reply)

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sammie

Thank you PF! I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard #2. Really people?! My fiance being financially responsible while he’s in law school and getting me a beautiful ring he can afford right now is not CUTE, it’s AMAZING!

9/28/11 @ 8:42 am (reply)

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Miss Doe (message) 540 posts, Busy bee

My favorite was “oo what a cute little starter ring.” Uh, really? Thanks. Not.

9/28/11 @ 8:49 am (reply)

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anna4041 (message) 226 posts, Helper bee

Top 3:
3. You have lots of time!…no I don’t. My last experience with someone who said that was me staying up until 11 pm the night before their wedding putting together the fake flower bouquets!
2. Excited yet? I’m with Mrs. Hyena on this one. Dumb question.
1. So when are you having kids?…umm can I get married first?

9/28/11 @ 8:57 am (reply)

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beachykeenbride

“Why didn’t you pick me for MOH?” — from a text from a bridesmaid. Couldn’t make it up if I tried.

9/28/11 @ 9:06 am (reply)

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Amber

My Man of Honor and I have a mutual friend. I have not talked to said friend in about 1 1/2 years ( we were never really close) since he has moved off to college. My MOH said oh yea I talked to so- and- so and he will be in town for your wedding! I had not thought about inviting him, but if he is wanting to travel so far to join us for our special day, I feel like I should include him.

9/28/11 @ 9:13 am (reply)

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Miss Ticket (message) 475 posts, Helper bee

I’m so with you on these. The ring one really bothered me. And Mrs. Hyena added an excellent one. I’m so freaking sick of people asking me that.

9/28/11 @ 9:18 am (reply)

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JD193 (message) 43 posts, Newbee

Agreed. I had a friend call my ring “dainty” - now maybe she did just mean dainty - I mean it has a narrow band and is not gaudy - but I couldn’t help but wonder if she really meant small (which, it’s really not!). @soontobeMrsEschberger I recently had a 23 year old who married his high school sweeetheart last year tell me the first year of marriage was going to be a lot of changes. Uhhh, I don’t think so honey - I’ve lived with my fiance for about twice as long as you’ve lived with your wife. We’ve got things pretty well figured out.

9/28/11 @ 9:21 am (reply)

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Ashley

Ah, yes. The first grade tactfulness. I have heard that from my second graders on occasion. Once I was wearing a new dress that I thought looked really good. As one kid was saying goodbye for the day, she takes time to mention that my dress makes me look like I have a baby in my belly. All I could do was stare at her, slack-jawed, and say “really?” Oh well. Love that list! Amazing.

9/28/11 @ 9:27 am (reply)

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