The Unexpected Calm Before the Inevitable Storm

The Unexpected Calm Before the Inevitable Storm

September 28th, 2011 @ 5:12 am by Mrs. Seal
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Well, we’re in the final countdown. (You have permission to hum the song if you’d like.) On top of life being completely crazy right now, I am totally suffering from “I don’t wanna do nothin’ wedding-related” syndrome. Don’t think it exists!? GOOGLE IT, PEOPLE.

Apparently it happens all the time. Basically this means that, despite actually needing to hunker down and get stuff done, I just plain don’t want to. That’s not to say I’m not enjoying the (unfortunately light) trickle of RSVPs, I think it just means that I am absolutely ready to be married and done with doin’ stuff. I honestly never thought I’d be affected! Not me. I loved being engaged. I looked forward to writing vendor emails and sending in deposits and payments (sick, I know).

Fast forward to now—we’re a little over a month out. Though mostly everything is in place and capable of being paid off, I just can’t bring myself to do all of the things I’d previously looked forward to doing. Wedding programs? Meh. Do we really need those? Out-of-town bags? Yeah, I guess I could buy the stuff for those now, but those can wait, right? My hair and makeup trial? Sure. I should probably do one of those.

It’s kind of funny how relaxed I am about it all—Miss Seal here is not a naturally calm person while under pressure. I freak out about everything. I suppose there’s still plenty of time for that. Though I’m obviously not welcoming a panic attack, I know this sense of tranquility will be short-lived—the ceremony won’t get planned on its own and that gown of mine won’t get altered if I don’t take it to a seamstress.

Sigh. I guess I should go take care of some business.

How are you guys doin’?

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16 Responses to “The Unexpected Calm Before the Inevitable Storm”

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marisol729 (message) 58 posts, Worker bee

OMG!! I can totally relate to that!
I am also a little less than a month away and although everything is figured out for the most part, I just cannot bring myself to finish any of the DIY projects!! I know I know, they are not going to get done by themselves, but I have everything designed and ready to go… I just need to assemble the rest of the menus, ribbons on the bubbles, printing the thank you notes for the OOT bags, assembling the tags for the favors… trial hair/make up? well, since this is happening up north 3 hrs away from where we live, we are just going to wing it… I’m sure it’ll be okay, I’m bringing pictures PLUS my style is more “lax” rather than “perfect”… You see, we have been “married” for 4 1/2 yrs… yep, we kind of “eloped” in Mexico (where I’m originally from) so this is like the official, “hey everyone, we like each other enough to tie the knot in public” event!
So in a way, I think since we are already married, I have heard enough stories from past brides saying “if I could change anything, I wouldn’t fret sooo much about the itty bitty details, or anything being -perfect- b/c it never is…. I would just have fun and enjoy MY wedding”, so I’m trying to remember that and not to panic over the little details…. So yeah, that’s where I’m at!
You totally nailed it girl! thank you for this post!

9/28/11 @ 6:00 am (reply)

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Miss Sunhat (message) 865 posts, Busy bee

I hear ya. I kinda wish someone would just handle the rest of the details for me, but then I’d be upset I didn’t do it myself! You spend so much time planning and doing that it definitely gets to you after a while. The month will be gone before you know it though!

9/28/11 @ 6:11 am (reply)

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Miss Petit Four (message) 556 posts, Busy bee

Ah, yes. It’s probably like senioritis. I’m kinda glad you brought this up though! Maybe I should get started on our menus and programs now while I still have some desire

9/28/11 @ 6:12 am (reply)

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Miss Porcupine (message) 428 posts, Helper bee

I don’t know what my excuse is- I still have 6 months to go! And tons to do. I’m like you I have no idea why I’m so calm about everything on the list. I usually BUG out about everything. I’m sure I will start freaking out before I know it.
@Miss Petit Four: Haha, yes senioritis is exactly what this feels like.

9/28/11 @ 6:19 am (reply)

Bee

Miss Ladyfingers (message) 1,119 posts, Bumble bee

Yes! I haven’t really done anything wedding-related lately except pack up a box of stuff for the reception. I keep telling myself that my next few weekends will be so jam packed I won’t be able to do anything, but I cannot force myself to be productive! Right now, though, there’s really nothing to do but favors, escort cards, and programs, and I can’t really do those until I have a better idea of who’s coming.

9/28/11 @ 6:41 am (reply)

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FutureMrsEdwards420 (message) 81 posts, Worker bee

Hahahaha…I have a little more than 6 months to go and I already don’t want to do anything wedding related. I have no clue what it could be. I just keep telling people that I want the wedding but I don’t want the planning. Hahahahaha…

9/28/11 @ 7:17 am (reply)

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Dee

Nice to hear that. Me, too. I cannot bring myself to do anything else because I’m so tired of wedding stuff. It’s on my mind, so when I get on the phone with my mom, it’s all I talk about until I stop and ask if we can stop talking weddings because I’m excited and sick of it at the same time! I can’t wait to be married, though! Only 32 days left for me!

9/28/11 @ 9:16 am (reply)

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PeacocksAndCandy (message) 158 posts, Blushing bee

I have a WHOLE bunch of half started projects. I am about 2.5 months out from my wedding and I am totally MEH about a lot right now. I don’t want to finish my flip flop bin, i haven’t stuffed the bridesmaids gifts…i just want to watch TV.

9/28/11 @ 9:25 am (reply)

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Viviana

i’m starting to get that feeling too. My wedding is in a little less than 2 months and those looming DIY projects in my living room are staring me straight in the face and I just can’t get the motivation or time to really do them…not to mention now all of the shower thank you’s I have to write! I just wish the wedding fairy would jump in now and take care of the rest…this is why I still believe that even 1 year of wedding planning is too much for 1 person to handle. Best of luck!!

9/28/11 @ 9:36 am (reply)

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Mrs. Parasol (message) 2,132 posts, Buzzing bee

I had the “I just want to be done already” feeling while I was still running around doing everything. Don’t worry, you’ll get through it! And you’ll have an awesome time at your wedding and then can go back to just enjoying life as it is.

9/28/11 @ 10:09 am (reply)

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pookiepie (message) 317 posts, Helper bee

I have 8 more months to go, just booked all the important vendors for the wedding, for now, I’m still on relaxing mode, no stressing yet for all the details that I want to incorporate into my wedding. Looking at my long DIY list, I don’t really know how and when to start. I’m staring at it right now

9/28/11 @ 10:24 am (reply)

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Mrs. Pony (message) 4,171 posts, Honey bee

I definitely got that way before the wedding, just wanting to be done but not wanting to do it. In the end it was worth the work and late nights. Hopefully you’ll find some motivation and enjoy the last few weeks.

9/28/11 @ 11:24 am (reply)

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soontobemrsjohnnyb (message) 229 posts, Helper bee

LOL I HAVE TEN(10!!!) DAYS LEFT!!!! I am done, for the most part, but I am also OUT OF STEAM!! LOL

I am kind of so overwhelmed, I’m just not too concerned about the final touches. I know I have to get on my out-of-town bags, put together 250 throwies (this weekend!!) and finish up last minute DIY decorations, but all relatively easy.

I AM FREAKING OUT underneath, but for some reason I just keep pushing it aside and it’s this amazingly weird feeling of calm………
So I hear you LOUD & CLEAR! LOL

9/28/11 @ 4:38 pm (reply)

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lainsayssup (message) 42 posts, Newbee

Totally feeling the same way. About a month out and I feel like I should be doing something wedding related 24/7, but….I just am not totally sure what I need to be doing. I have plenty of checklists but just can’t really bring myself to put things in overdrive!

People keep asking me “so, is everything pretty much done?” I feel like it’s the most ridiculous question! It’s not going to be done until the wedding is over!

9/28/11 @ 10:16 pm (reply)

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Miss Kettle (message) 909 posts, Busy bee

I’m feeling like that now, and I’m four months out. I dont’ wanna talk showers or bachelorette parties or florists or DOCs. The only thing I still like talking about is invitations, and that’s likely cause I don’t have to say anything but, “I love it! Let’s go with that!”
I hope you feel better soon.

10/1/11 @ 9:05 pm (reply)

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Miss Cucumber Sandwich (message) 569 posts, Busy bee

I completely know what you mean! The good news is (at least for me) was that I got a second wind about 2 weeks ago and starting knocking stuff off my list like crazy. You can do it!!

10/3/11 @ 10:44 am (reply)