You and Me: Our Private Dance

If I had to choose just one moment from our wedding day which left me reeling emotionally, it would be our private dance.


Image via Amy Nelson-Blaine Wedding Cinematography

I first heard about the idea from fellow bee bloggers, Mrs. Fro Yo & Mrs. Elephant. I fell in love with the thought of spending some personal time with my brand spanking new hubby during the precious last seconds of our wedding day and the idea worked perfectly with our event conclusion. After our last moments partying with our guests, our MC cleared the room for us. Our bridal party gave us a few final hugs before heading downstairs to get our send-off ready. The only people left in the room were our videographer and our photographers. And us.

It was easy to choose a song for this dance. We wanted one that we loved. One that was as romantic and as sappy as we wanted. One where it didn’t matter if our guests would ”˜know’ it, or would care what it was. This one was just for me and my husband.

The lights were dimmed. The piano acoustic started. Mr. Jaguar and I held hands, and we danced. Press play and follow along in pictures, if you’d like:

‘Til my body is dust, ”til my soul is no more ”“ I will love you, love you


Image via Amy Nelson-Blaine Wedding Cinematography

‘Til the sun starts to cry, and the moon turns to rust ”“ I will love you, love you.


And I need to know, will you stay for all time, forever and a day?


Then I’ll give my heart,  ’til the end of all time, forever and a day.


‘Til the stars fill my eyes, and we touch the last time – I will love you, love you.


Image via Amy Nelson-Blaine Wedding Cinematography

It was around this point that the tears started. And soon, after some snuffles and some laughter, our private dance was over.

I remember looking around at the room, filled with all of our carefully planned decorations and projects, looking beautiful but looking ”˜used’ ”“ with half drank glasses of wine on tables, chairs untucked, and napkins unfolded. The party was over, but the marriage was just beginning.

All photographs by the team at Follan Photography unless otherwise noted.



Mrs. Jaguar

July 31
Wedding Date:
June 2011
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  1. Member
    Mrs. Red Sox 60 posts, Worker bee @ 5:56 am

    I haven’t ever heard of this before but I absolutely LOVE the idea! To take the last few moments together to enjoy all the hard work and just appreciate each other in the moment. I might have to add this to our special day! Thanks for all the amazing recaps and ideas! I have had a wonderful time following along and feeling like I was actually there! :-) Best wishes to you and your new hubby!

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    MrsMaine 2837 posts, Sugar bee @ 6:04 am

    This is so totally beautiful, twinny! I wish I had known about it because I so would’ve done it. How precious to have those last few moments to yourself and to really be able to absorb everything. Wow.

  3. hyena Member
    hyena 2537 posts, Sugar bee @ 6:06 am

    What a beautiful last dance! And great sentiment — the end of the wedding, and the beginning of your marriage. Cheers!

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    organizedbride11 5147 posts, Bee Keeper @ 6:08 am

    I have never heard of this, but I absolutely love the idea. I am so glad you and your husband got to share these last moments of your party together, to start your life together. That is awesome!!

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    KatieJean 384 posts, Helper bee @ 6:11 am

    So sweet! I got a little teary 😀

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    firebugj16 113 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:17 am

    This is such a great idea, and such a moving song! We weren’t planning any sort of sendoff, but now I might have to think of something just so we can do this!

  7. barrettes Member
    barrettes 913 posts, Busy bee @ 6:18 am

    Jags, I danced to this song every night in the show I was in for 2 years here on Guam. So happy this is your song! 😀

  8. aardvark Member
    aardvark 1129 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:22 am

    “The party was over, but the marriage was just beginning.”

    That line is so beautiful! Made me tear up a little. Just perfect.

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    mrsbowieii 704 posts, Busy bee @ 6:44 am

    LOVE IT!

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    guest, Guest @ 6:52 am

    LOVE IT! That was our “Last Dance” too!! Such a BEAUTIFUL song!!

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    moosey 273 posts, Helper bee @ 7:02 am

    Wow, that’s a beautiful song!

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    vintagemodernbride 437 posts, Helper bee @ 7:40 am

    ok you totally made me cry just reading this post. it makes me want a private dance too. i may suggest it to my honey. i loved that you said “The party was over, but the marriage was just beginning.” Ugh made me tear up! so good!

  13. elephant Member
    elephant 6339 posts, Bee Keeper @ 7:58 am

    Such a special time, beautiful shots of your last dance!

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    ssoblit 54 posts, Worker bee @ 8:14 am

    Last picture is angelic! I wish I had a spotlight to get a nice picture like this, beautiful!

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    queenfrostine07 5 posts, Newbee @ 8:32 am

    wow such a beautiful moment, what a great idea.

  16. gazelle Member
    gazelle 1019 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:52 am

    Ohhh, I love these photos! I wish we would have had a moment like this, but an hour before our reception was set to finish my husband declared he was tired and we left early. :(

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    Kate, Guest @ 10:58 am

    Wow, this was so beautiful. I was tearing up the whole way through!! What a special moment for you and your husband, just the two of you, on your wedding day. I’m sure you will remember it for the rest of your lives. So sweet.

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    AreYouSrs 11 posts, Newbee @ 11:06 am

    I’m such a non-sap, but geeze, as I get closer to my wedding day, everything wedding related has me tearing up…

    This had me crying and going “AWWWW”

    Seriously, so cute!

  19. earrings Member
    earrings 2611 posts, Sugar bee @ 1:31 pm

    Beautiful moment :)

  20. painauchocolat Member
    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:51 pm

    What a sweet moment for the two of you. This is a much better idea than running around the bridal suite gathering up your things before the big send-off. (Which is what we did…)

  21. mspony Member
    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 8:27 pm

    What a beautiful song for a beautiful moment!

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    Ms. Anemone 624 posts, Busy bee @ 9:51 pm

    So, so precious.

  23. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 3:49 am

    @Mrs. Red Sox: Thank you so much – it was really a gorgeous way to finish off the evening!

    @MissMaine: We loved it! Mr. Jag didn’t really ‘get’ it, but said afterwards how much he enjoyed that time with just the two of us.

  24. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 3:58 am

    @Mrs. Hyena: I’m glad you liked it! :)

    @organizedbride11: Thanks! Gotta love WB for new ideas!

  25. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 3:58 am

    @KatieJean: If it makes you feel any better, I cried like a girl.

    @firebugj16: Yay! I hope you can do something similarly special. :)

  26. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 3:59 am

    @Mrs. Barrettes: That’s gorgeous! Mr. Jag and I have loved this song for years and years, ever since we first heard it in an old episode of Roswell – seriously! :) I bet your dance would’ve been gorgeous!

    @Miss Aardvark: Thanks, Miss A!

  27. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:03 am

    @mrsbowieii: Thank you!

    @guest: That is so awesome – how exciting. Hope you enjoyed yours as much as we did ours.

  28. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:05 am

    @moosey: It is a really hauntingly beautiful song. :)

    @vintagemodernbride: Thanks for the sweet words – I hope you can do something just as lovely with your future hubs!

  29. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:05 am

    @Mrs. Elephant: Thank you for the inspiration, my lovely!

    @ssoblit: All thanks to the lovely photographers – there were no spotlights, but they had a portable flash!

  30. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:09 am

    @queenfrostine07: It was really nice to have that time together before we left the wedding! :)

    @Ms. Gazelle: I must admit, I was pretty darned tired at that point too – but I was glad we slowed down and took a few minutes to ourselves!

  31. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:09 am

    @Kate: Thank you so much – I cried, too. (And potentially while typing this post up, hehe.)

    @AreYouSrs: Haha, everything gets emotional when you’re close to the big day. I hope yours is fabulous!

  32. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:10 am

    @Mrs. Earrings: Thanks, Mrs. E! It was gorgeous.

    @Mrs. Pain au Chocolat: There may have been a few last moment panic runs for ‘stuff’ after the dance was over, but I left my folks in charge of that. They’re awesome!

  33. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:11 am

    @Mrs. Pony: Thanks, Mrs. P. That song is one of our favourites, always will be!

    @Ms. Anemone: Thank you! :)

  34. ladyfingers Member
    ladyfingers 1257 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:24 pm

    That’s so beautiful. I seriously just got goose bumps.

  35. parasol Member
    parasol 2955 posts, Sugar bee @ 12:44 pm

    I love, love, LOVE this, Jaguar! What a great way to end your amazing night. I kind of wish Mr. P and I could have done something like this, but I don’t think there would have been anyway for us to get all our guests to leave us alone for a private last dance. And I’m OK with that–we had an amazing last dance with all our guests, and that was awesome!

  36. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:14 pm

    @Miss Ladyfingers: I still get all emotional seeing it too. It’s gorgeous!

    @Mrs. Parasol: It was beautiful – but I bet your way was great fun too!

  37. frozen yogurt Member
    frozen yogurt 2600 posts, Sugar bee @ 12:00 pm

    I loved our private first dance. So glad you did one!

  38. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 7:06 pm

    @Mrs. Frozen Yogurt: Thank you for the inspiration, Mrs. FroYo! It was gorgeous, really.

  39. kettle Member
    kettle 926 posts, Busy bee @ 10:34 pm

    I’m dying to work a private dance into our evening! It just looks so intimate and romantic and lovely.

  40. jaguar Member
    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 3:35 pm

    @Miss Kettle: You should do it – it was so romantic!

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    lazybee 113 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:34 pm

    Thank you for the lovely idea to do a private dance. It is an important reminder that, in the end after all the family and friends have left, it is just you and your husband.

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