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Growing up, a good part of my raising was done by my grandmother. She would pick me up from school and watch me until my mom got off work. She was my hero, my rock, and my biggest cheerleader. She taught me how to read before I was five. I learned how to make biscuits in her kitchen. A lot of who I am is based on who she made me.

During the summer of 2007, I was part of a study program that had me studying first in Georgia, then in New York, and finally in London. While I was still in Georgia those first three weeks, I drove back and forth forty five minutes almost everyday to spend time with my Mamaw while she was in hospice. I knew what hospice meant, but when it came time for me to leave for New York, I had assumed that I would see my grandmother when I finally got back from London several weeks later. Unfortunately, that wasn’t to be the case. While walking through SOHO, I got the call. I was a complete mess in the middle of the sidewalk. No matter how prepared you are, the death of someone close always hits hard.

Thinking about her and her absence at our wedding makes me cry every time, but I know if she saw me now, she would be proud.

(me and my mamaw)

When I met Mr. Skunk, I soon met his grandfather. Grandad was for Mr. Skunk what Mamaw was for me. Unfortunately, Grandad also had the same type of cancer that Mamaw had and just a few weeks before Mr. Skunk proposed, Grandad passed. While it has been tough, we’ve done our best supporting each other despite the absence of our loved ones.

(grandad - photo by Daddy in Law Skunk)

It is very important to us that we honor them. We’ve looked at several options, but what I think works best for us is a memorial table. We’ll have a special place set up at the reception hall with candles and pictures of the both of them. While they can’t be there in body, they’ll be with us in spirit.

How are you honoring loved ones passed at your wedding?