On Having a Spring Wedding

On Having a Spring Wedding

October 13th, 2011 @ 6:14 am by Miss Fox
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Pros: warmth, sunshine (hopefully), it can be outdoors, bright and pretty colors, etc.

This is pretty much exactly what I imagine.

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Cons: everyone and their mother gets married then.

That’s a loooot of brides.

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Honestly, I should have seen this coming when we decided on a June wedding. In the 26 months that we will have been engaged, loads of friends have also gotten (and will be getting) engaged. And they also have their eye on getting married around the same time that we will.

Which, on one hand, is awesome! I have more and more people to share wedding stories and inspirations with, and we’re in this fun lovey-dovey “I’m engaged!” mentality where it’s all rainbows and butterflies (most of the time). Huzzah!

However, things are starting to overlap, and I am not a fan.

It’s not just because we’ll be busy with planning our own wedding and such, but I also really want my friends to be able to attend ours, and I want to be able to attend theirs.

I already knew my friend/brideslady M would be getting married a few weeks before us. I’ve mentioned before that we kind of scheduled our wedding around hers, so that’s no biggie. But I’ve also learned that a friend of a friend, who has become an acquaintance of mine as well (confused yet?), scheduled her wedding for literally the day after ours. So not only will she and her fiance not be able to attend our wedding, but there’s a strong possibility that a few mutual friends will have to choose one or the other—especially the friend I met her through, seeing as she will be a bridesmaid in the other wedding. So there’s that.

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Also, a good friend from my old job recently got engaged (last weekend!), and they were originally thinking a fall wedding…but since this fall is here and next fall is so far away, they are currently opting for early June. So that’s…four weddings in three weeks-ish?

I really don’t mean for this to come of as though I’m big snot ball and everyone should drop everything for our wedding. Because I don’t think that at all. I really just want to have our friends celebrate our marriage with us and we want to be able to do the same for them. I’ve made so many wonderful friends here in DC—something I really didn’t know would happen when I first moved down—and I want to include them in our big day as much as possible.

I suppose it’s true what they say: we’re at that age where many of our friends are getting married, and it goes in cycles. We had five weddings to go to in the spring and summer of 2010, none in 2011, and now an undetermined number (but greater than four) of weddings already planned for next spring and summer. Nuts.

Have you or are you experiencing any kind of wedding overlap and overload around your date? Do you feel like you’re forced to pick and choose? What criteria are you using to determine which weddings you’ll attend?

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11 Responses to “On Having a Spring Wedding”

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firebugj16 (message) 101 posts, Blushing bee

I’m a June 2012 bride, and somehow I got lucky that none of my friends have become engaged since us so we’re in the clear as far as other weddings next year. The bummer? My older cousin is getting married the week before us, so we’re worried that some out of town family will have to pick between the 2 weddings. I feel your pain!

10/13/11 @ 6:19 am (reply)

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jacin10 (message) 112 posts, Blushing bee

we had 7 weddings this year - 4 of which were within 6 weeks of each other (PS, they’re all on the east coast too, which means we have to fly back for them all).

they’re all close friends, but no matter how close the days are, each one is still so special, and we’re just as excited. i think being the bride you have a totally different perspective because you are focused on yours, but as the guest, trust me, we’re still excited to go to yours

10/13/11 @ 6:23 am (reply)

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gentelly

Oh boy, I am dealing with exactly this! Between everyone in our bridal party, there are at least 12 weddings next season! Ours is mid-July, and one of my BM’s brothers recently got engaged and wanted the day I had already chosen! I totally get what you are saying, no it’s not a “this is all about me” mentality, but it’s about not wanting people we love to have to choose which wedding to attend!

10/13/11 @ 6:40 am (reply)

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Crabbabs (message) 725 posts, Busy bee

My FI and I had back-to-back weddings last year – 6 hours from where we live – two hours apart. He was in both of them. We made it work and it wasn’t too much of a hassle. We missed both rehearsal dinners but were there to celebrate at the wedding. Hopefully most of your guests that are invited to both will be able to make it work!

10/13/11 @ 6:44 am (reply)

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MySunshine

None of my friends are getting married at the same time as me - but some of our family may have to choose one wedding or another… its complicated, let me try to explain:

FI Lil Sis–>FI Lil Sis Hubby ==> FI Lil Sis Hubby’s Brother –> FI Lil Sis Hubby’s Wife ==> FI Lil Sis Hubby’s Brothers Wife’s Brother–> FI OLDER Sis==> Fi Lil Sis

–> is married to
==> is brother/sister of

Its a crazy circle of brothers and sisters and inlaws and etc…. but basically FI’s sisters will attend and their Hubbys too, but the other couple has a wedding to attend closer to where their FI Older Sis’ Inlaws live, so we were hoping to have them and the Inlaws, but we may get none of them instead… its a bummer!

10/13/11 @ 6:59 am (reply)

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anna4041 (message) 227 posts, Helper bee

Beautiful spring weddings are a “can’t pass up” thing…Our situation here is in the fall. We picked our date, had to move it because I found out one of my cousins was getting married the day before (BIG family). Now a few of our friends have gotten engaged and we have 4 weddings in 3 weeks…including ours!

10/13/11 @ 7:34 am (reply)

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futureMFG (message) 150 posts, Blushing bee

Although we aren’t engaged yet, bf and I have discussed when we would have a wedding. We’re both teachers, so obviously summer would be ideal, but as you said, everyone and their mother gets married then. I think we’re going to go with EARLY summer, like May. Plus we can avoid the Texas heat then (or at least the triple-digit stuff)

10/13/11 @ 10:49 am (reply)

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Mrs. Pony (message) 4,175 posts, Honey bee

We had a lot of this as well. We only ended up with two weddings overlapping, and we ended up going to the wedding I was in over the other, but it still made me sad to have to say no.

10/13/11 @ 1:52 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Parasol (message) 2,142 posts, Buzzing bee

Ahhh, boo! Thankfully we really didn’t have any overlap. Though I found out a few days before my wedding that my cousin bought a ring and was going to propose to his GF. I told him so long as he didn’t propose at our wedding (I’m so NOT cool with that, FYI), we were all good, and that could have any of our wedding leftovers if they wanted. They actually just got engaged this past weekend, and I’m so excited! Especially now that my wedding is done!

10/13/11 @ 2:39 pm (reply)

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Miss Funnel Cake (message) 690 posts, Busy bee

Oh man… we don’t really have overlap. But some of Mr. FC’s Swiss friends were married this year and it means they are on honeymoon during our wedding or have used up all their holiday and can’t fly over the ocean to our wedding. *sadface*

But it IS kind of annoying on some level when you’ve been engaged all this time and your friends pick the same month to marry as you because it’s JUNE and they just can’t wait any longer.

We got engaged in May ‘10 and my SIL was marrying my brother in July ‘10. We opted to not even get married in the same year as my brother because one fam wedding is enough… so ‘11 we are!

10/13/11 @ 3:04 pm (reply)

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Future Army Wife (message) 1,110 posts, Bumble bee

A big group of my sorority sisters and I all got engaged within 3-4 months at the end of last year. We’ve all talked about dates and made an effort to not double-book wedding weekends. It’s been an interesting ordeal.

10/13/11 @ 7:27 pm (reply)