Negative Nelly Syndromatic Psychosis

Negative Nelly Syndromatic Psychosis

October 19th, 2011 @ 5:43 am by Miss Porcupine
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In case you haven’t noticed by now, I have a super dry sense of humor. I’m also overly realistic. Mr. Porcupine likes to remind me that I am using the wrong “tic,” and that in reality I am overly pessimistic. Whatever, such a literalist. If I had only gotten a degree in psychology I might have been able to pinpoint a new disorder with lots of grant-funded research that I like to call: Negative Nelly Syndromatic Psychosis. (Yes, I completely made that crap up.)

The thing is, yes, Mr. P is probably right. I don’t know why the hell I’m like this. I haven’t had enough bad crap happen to me in life to be sooo jaded (minus that time I got laid off twice in 1 and 1/2 years, and that other time I got mugged the eve of Christmas Eve—so what if I’m Jewish, Jesus was pissed!). Obviously this is a really fun mentality to have wired into your DNA when you’re a bride.

Basically I will find one little detail of my life that is pissing me off and hold that over every other good thing going on. Suddenly everything positive is immediately discounted.

Even if there is a ratio of 1 shitty life happening to 25 good life happenings, I will find a way to feel overly depressed about that 1 little thing. Currently my life peeve is that we may be moving sooner than anticipated (because, hi, we JUST moved 4 months ago), and this is sending me into a whirlwind of annoyance. HATE moving, moving is expensive, where do we even go, finding a place is stressful, I wanted to wait until AFTER the wedding to move again so we’d have some funding for new furniture, I hate touching our savings, ETC. Completely discounting: wahoo I got a raise, we’re going to a destination wedding in Mexico soon, I love Fall, my own wedding events are finally coming up, I’m very fortunate to have parents/in-laws that are gifting us our wedding, Mr. P and I are both employed, Taco Thursday….

So, yes, I tend to let little things get me down even when a lot of other good stuff is going on. I’m trying to turn that off so that by the day of the wedding if it’s raining, hailing, I’m bloated, a wild turkey runs onto my ceremony (I dunnoz it’s PA—they have turkeys?), or a bird craps on my forehead I can just laugh. Most likely I will be fine and dandy minus a few minor meltdowns that I’m sure will occur when I have a giant zit on my cheek and a puffed-out hair-day. Sorry, that was my N.N.S.P. piping in.

The trick to N.N.S.P. is that I only have it towards my own life/wedding. Every time someone else tells me something shitastic happening to them I always point out the good stuff counteracting it. For instance, as my good friend via the New Yawk wedding unloaded a lot of wedding stress on me, I was annoyingly handy with a happy comeback. (Sorry, you will have to do this for me now.) When it threatened to rain through her pre-wedding pictures I collected a bunch of cute rain boot and umbrella pictures from wedding blogland and sent them off to her. If someone did this to me I would probably tell them to take a jog in a swamp (lovingly).

So, how does one shake their N.N.S.P.? I swear on the new season of the Real Housewives of Atlanta (premiering soon, YAY!) that I am trying my best to be more POSITIVE, HAPPY, and PRECIOUS. I am revolting against all my DNA swirlygigs (technical term) to think of shiny, bright meadows when it comes to wedding stressors.

Anyone else suffer from N.N.S.P. when thinking of their wedding day (or life)?

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12 Responses to “Negative Nelly Syndromatic Psychosis”

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ImDaCat (message) 78 posts, Worker bee

Aww, Miss Porcupine, you’re totally describing my life! Negative about everything I do and a happy cheerleader for everyone else. My only advice is: listen when your friends are cheerleaders for you - it does help at least a little.

10/19/11 @ 6:08 am (reply)

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ccranetobe (message) 3,692 posts, Sugar bee

Yup.. you just described me too! We all go through it. Take it one day a time..

10/19/11 @ 6:30 am (reply)

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misspeanut (message) 356 posts, Helper bee

I’ve been registered forever, but had to have my first comment be for this! I read through this and kept saying to myself “I COULD HAVE WRITTEN THIS!” I say I’m realistic but my fiance claims I’m pessimistic…but only with things concerning me. For other people, I’m Mary freaking Sunshine. Good to know I’m not the only Negative Nelly out there!

10/19/11 @ 7:45 am (reply)

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Mrs. Penguin (message) 3,507 posts, Sugar bee

I have to really force myself to see all the good in life sometimes, which is so sad! I’m the kind of person that if something good happens to me, I totally think that something HORRIBLE is just around the corner. ACK! I totally feel you on this post!

10/19/11 @ 7:57 am (reply)

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Miss Mole (message) 988 posts, Busy bee

I totally understand. When it comes to these situations, I think it’s always easier to be harder on yourself than on other people. You focus on the negatives in your own life while highlighting the positives in other people’s lives. So I try to remind myself of the Golden Rule, but in reverse.

10/19/11 @ 8:13 am (reply)

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Miss Doe (message) 540 posts, Busy bee

So many new words I just learned. Swirlygigs? Awesome! I do the same thing though…something great happens, I wait for the other shoe to drop. We must shake it though! It’s hard to do, but in order to live sane lives we need to not worry so much about the bad things

10/19/11 @ 9:38 am (reply)

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Miss Ladyfingers (message) 1,119 posts, Bumble bee

God, I relate to you so much. I wish I could focus on the little things like Taco Thursday instead of the stuff that doesn’t matter and I can’t control, like somebody’s attitude at work or a family member being super irritating. Thanks for the reminder!

10/19/11 @ 10:17 am (reply)

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Mrs. Parasol (message) 2,142 posts, Buzzing bee

I think so many of us can relate to this, Miss P. Even if so many things are going great, we tend to fixate on that one bad thing. Like how I was freaking out over almost non-existent tan lines the week before our wedding. Never mind that everything else was perfect, those tan lines were going to ruin everything! I think we kind of have to embrace our negative leanings a little bit and think refocus on the big picture. Keeping everything in perspective helps me a lot.

10/19/11 @ 10:43 am (reply)

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MySunshine

I think it’s a red-head thing… probably on the same gene as the loud w/ feiry temper stuff… ya know?

Feelin’ ya over here!

10/19/11 @ 11:59 am (reply)

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CurlyRN (message) 331 posts, Helper bee

Yep. I am also a card holder in the WBA club, or Why Bother Asking club, cause everyone is so busy in their own lives why bother asking for help.
:$

10/19/11 @ 1:05 pm (reply)

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Miss Porcupine (message) 429 posts, Helper bee

@ImDaCat: Great advice. I do try to listen. Sometimes it works…
@ccranetobe: Indeed!
@misspeanut: If we can positive for others, it must mean we are positive overall somewhere deep down inside! I think…. ha
@Mrs. Penguin: Ugh, I’m the same way! If things are going really well I am always just waiting for the other shoe to drop. I wish I could surgically remove that trait.
@Miss Mole: It’s so true. It can be so much easier to think everyone else has it perfect, when in reality you never know the full picture.
@Miss Doe: Haha, yes swirlgigs indeed- didn’t we learn that in Bio?
@Miss Ladyfingers: I am currently trying to fixate on my Taco Thursday happening in less than 24 hrs, haha. We must have similar swirlygigs!
@Mrs. Parasol: So true! I hate when my perspective takes a vacation.
@MySunshine: Haha yes!! It’s a tough life being a redhead. I blame everything on my hair.