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Let’s be real for a moment here. Family drama exists, and more often than not it rears its ugly head around family functions…like a wedding. A wedding you may just have happened to spend the last 11+ months planning. A wedding you may or may not have just spent thousands of dollars on. A wedding you possibly want to be one of the happiest days of your life and the last thing on EARTH you want to deal with is FAMILY DRAMA!
My own personal little ball of family drama decided to drop yesterday afternoon. A certain someone was recently…indisposed, but found themselves released from prior constraints yesterday and has announced they will be attending our wedding…yay? Now, in the interest of full disclosure, I did in fact send this person an invitation (ONLY at the vehement request of my dearly beloved aunt). However, when I sent this invitation there was NO question in my mind as to this person actually attending. As far as I was concerned, unicorns would be making a flight to Pluto, the once epic planet, and CNN would be airing the live coverage prior to this person actually coming to the wedding.
Well Unicorns… your big day is here!
Horrible Paint Art by Miss Ticket
After an evening of contemplation… and maybe a little bit of wine…I’ve decided to just not worry about it. Honestly I’ve got enough stuff on my hands to deal with that constantly worrying over one individual’s potential actions on our special day is not worth the effort. Believe me… in that one evening I managed to come up with dozens of potential awful scenarios, but fact of the matter is it’s out of my hands. Whereas the matter of final payments, tip envelopes, transportation, and a must-take shots list for our photographers are very real, immediate concerns that I do, in fact, NEED to be worrying about.
Now I may have given up worrying in the sense that I’m not allowing myself to replay horrible scenarios in my head of what MIGHT happen, but let’s not pretend here. I’m crossing every bodily appendage and praying like there’s no tomorrow that everything goes smoothly with this situation.
Is someone attending your wedding that you’re a little worried about? Has family drama popped up in close proximity to your wedding plans? How did you handle it?
If someone asked me what our wedding “theme” was, I’d tell them “family drama” I envy your be and let be approach, and if you decide to write a book anytime soon, please let me know where I can purchase it.
Best of luck with your situation! All us bees are with you!!!
I’m sorry you have to deal with that!
Hopefully your family member is on his/her best behavior and everything goes as smooth as possible!
I’m feeling the same way about someone coming to our wedding.. my older brother!
I actually had this happen too. I didn’t worry about it though because there was nothing I could do. It didn’t ruin the night. As far as I knew everyone behaved themselves. A few days ago I found out differently, but like I said, their actions are in no way a reflection on me. You can’t control everyone. Don’t stress over it. 
It will be okay and in all honesty, when you’re standing there with the man you love, everyone else disappears. 
I feel ya girl. I definitely have people in my family that I was worried about on our wedding day. To assuage my fears, I assigned some bridesmaids and their husbands to “Person X” duty so I wouldn’t have to worry (as much), and nothing did happen. I’ll be hoping for the best for you!
I hope it goes over smoothly.. and I best be seeing some unicorns on CNN tonight, yo.
Hang in there, date triplet! Family drama is unavoidable, although yours sounds especially “interesting”!
Aww, that sucks. Sorry to hear that but well done on your laid-back approach! Seriously, few people can manage to take the high road like that and keep an eye on what is really important *applause*
p.s. absolutely love the cartoon, it make me laugh out loud!
So sorry you have to deal with the drama, although it sounds like you are handling it very well and not getting sucked in! Your attitude and art skills both highly impress me
For my upcoming wedding, I have taken Mrs. Pony’s approach. Kind of like delegating the worry factor to make sure it’s covered so that I can focus my energy on the truly important stuff.
Good luck, I’ll cross my fingers for you, too!
@missvineyard - If I ever write a book it will be in the Psychotic section of the book store. There isn’t one of those? Okay science fiction maybe? Cause I’m a total nut job and I can’t even imagine how horrifying it would turn out lol. <3 Sorry you had family drama too. I’ve gotta say your theme made me laugh. Makes my situation seem tame. Oh and by the way awesome hangers!
@alicia1745 - I’ll be praying/crossing fingers for you and your situation. Hopefully he will be on his best behavior!
@ms_nickie - It is SO awesome that you managed to get through the night without knowing anything went other than according to plan. Thanks for the advice, hopefully I will be as lucky as you were =)
@Mrs. Pony - I love that idea. I am now fully planning on doing this.
@Miss Fox - I will do freaking back flips if CNN airs Unicorns ever!
@Miss Magic - Don’t you love how I dance completely around the source of the drama? =) Interesting is a great word for it!
@Oxfordnerd - My artistic abilities are really coming out, cause you know that’s exactly what unicorns look like. lol
@Miss Dalmatian - Thank you! Now lets just see how long I’m able to hang on to this laid back attitude, haha.
@poelette13 - Thank you! I’ll be praying/crossing appendages for you too!
There’s no use worrying about it because you can’t predict who is going to drink too much, have a bad day or have just broken up with thier SO and decide to take it out on your wedding. All you can do is focus on enjoying every minute of the day, even the stressful parts - because good bad or ugly it only happens once and it’s your WEDDING day!!!
I too am having a person that will be slightly hard to sit next to. Dad’s new wife. Ew. But like the other bees before me has said… nothing I can do. The people who love me know the situation… if she acts like a dummy… then people will know it has nothing to do with me. And I’d much rather fill my head with fun things… like flowers and dresses and shoes and music… =)
We have two family members attending our wedding who can be real handfulls (my Grandmother and one of the groom’s aunts). In normal life it’s usually our respective Mothers who have to handle them. Since this is the last thing we want them worrying about, we are asking a cousin and an aunt to make sure they are taken care of the whole time, so our Mothers can enjoy the wedding!
I’m glad that you aren’t going to let yourself stress over this issue. Maybe you can designate or ask someone to keep an eye on this person, that way, if something should get out of hand, you won’t have to deal with it - your person can handle it instead. Just a thought.
Ok - so Pony already said my suggestion! Sorry! ha ha - It’s a really good idea though!
You have such a refreshing attitude, Miss T! Sometimes there are things that are just out of your hands, and worrying about all the things that could potentially go wrong won’t do you any good! I’m praying that this individual behaves himself, and even if he doesn’t, you will have an army of guests to protect you from ever knowing anything that goes wrong!
P.S. I adore your artist work!
We worried about the potential for inappropriate family drama too. But then we took the following strategies/ attitude:
1) Had a few discreet word other members of the family, to ask them to keep an eye on the potential dramapeople. One was a disapproving aunt with a penchant for creating loud screeching arguments at most family gatherings; and the other a drunk with a tendency to bite (yes, bite!) people he fancies. Both were unknowingly given a rota of babysitters. As a result, the difficult aunt was delighted at all the attention and was happy all day, while the biting drunk kept his teeth to himself and yet still provided an endless source of much amusement for most guests.
2) Acknowledge and welcome the need for chaos into the wedding space, to balance all the hyper-organised detail and predictability of most weddings. Everyone loves a kooky character, and the stories they provide will help your wedding remain unforgettable in family lore!
Uggh! Family drama is the worst…. we had a lot of people who swore they were attending at the last minute just didn’t come or called and said… ’sorry but we can’t make it’. Hang in there!
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Miss Ticket, Riverside, CA Age and Occupation: 25, Executive Assistant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, HVAC Technician Engagement Date: November 14, 2010 Wedding Date: October 2011 Venue: Crestmore Manor About Me: I'm a lifelong So Cal gal, a chocoholic, a closet gamer, and a television enthusiast (love me some Vampire Diaries!) who adores playing in the kitchen and lives in flip flops. Mr. Ticket and I are best known for singing and dancing in the car, our World of Warcraft addiction, adoring food, crane game playing, and our general homebody ways. Oh, and GO STEELERS!
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