- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee Blog
A couple of years ago, I went to the eye doctor to pick out new frames. (Like the mole, I am blind without corrective lenses!) I ended up finding a unisex pair by Ted Baker: thick, brown, and rectangular. I loved them. I modeled them for the sales assistant, and she said, “Well, those certainly aren’t pretty. Are you sure you want them?” I did. I bought them immediately.
Not-pretty glasses, not-short hair
I am telling you the story about my glasses because I have felt similar pressures about my wedding: to have a pretty wedding. More specifically, I have felt the pressure to have a Style Me Pretty wedding. If you are planning a wedding, you’ve most likely seen this blog. It currently has 8.5 million monthly page views! SMP is a collection of fabulously chic, stylish weddings and inspiration photo shoots. I could spend hours on the website, scrolling through the photos. In the beginning of my planning, I did exactly that. Many of my ideas were borrowed from brides featured on the blog. I too was going to have a vintage-inspired wedding with lots of rustic details.
At some point, though, I realized that this style—while extremely pretty—was not me. I’m getting married in Vegas, after all. My tastes tend to run a bit more modern and urban. I don’t particularly like the feel of burlap. I don’t normally drink out of Mason jars. I don’t tend to go to flea markets or thrift stores, except to make donations. I don’t really know what I would do with bunting. (Mrs. Bunting, though, I’d probably have a nice time with.) Having this type of wedding would be like plopping down an Anthropologie chesterfield couch in the middle of my Room-and-Board-styled living room: it just wouldn’t match who I am or what I am like.
I think that’s the key thing to remember in wedding planning. It is so easy to get caught up in the wedding trends or the inspiration photos or the blog sites and lose sight of your own personal style. Your own personal style is important, even if it results in sales assistants doubting your taste in eyeglasses. That’s what will ultimately make your wedding so interesting and unique! That’s what will make your wedding your own.
How did you determine your wedding style? Does it reflect your own personal style?
This is a FANTASTIC point!! I catch myself getting caught up in pretty things that are sooo not “me” all the time.
Also
I can’t believe how rude that sales lady was! I love your glasses! (they look a lot like mine)
I looove this post! I love the style me pretty website, although a lot of the stuff featured on there is not really me. I have found a couple of things on there that I’ll probably use in my own wedding, but in general, I want our wedding to reflect who we are as a couple more than being ” in style ” , and drop dead gorgeous. Sometimes I almost feel a bit of pressure for my wedding to be that spectacular though while scrolling down those posts for hours on end (which I did near the beginning of wedding planning as well)
I can’t wait . . . let me stress . . . can’t wait to see what you come up with. and all your pictures from the planning to the big day! I love this post passionately.
P.S. How dare she tell you that your glasses “aren’t pretty”! She should have said “how stylish!”
Oh, it feels so good to hear someone say that I don’t need to have all these wonderful vintage and DIY details that I don’t care about just because they’re pretty. My style is not at all rustic, but I often feel that SMP tells me I should aim for a rustic, vintage, or extremely modern look. I just want our wedding style to be us.
Excellent point! I think spending too much time on wedding websites can sometimes add to the pressure of having a picture perfect day. And on a side note Lush is the best thing ever.
Love this! First off, your glasses are hot to trot on you! lovely! Just wanted to leave a comment on wedding theme: the word that always carried with my idea for my wedding was “romantic” and to me that meant soft, comfortable, and flowing. I always wanted to be married outside and will be married in an outside urban courtyard under two trees. The reception will be held inside an old piece of history lol! its a 100+ year old building with original wood floors and giant wooden pillars throughout. I found with all this that i find beauty in the simplicity of things. its def easy to get overwhelmed with all the inspirational boards, but keeping yourself grounded will payoff in the end!
I adore you, Miss Mole! 
You are so awesome, and you and your guy remind me on me and my guy. I love your posts, and I’m so glad you are a Bee!
i ALSO have a very unflattering pair of rectangular brown glasses — that i looooove! you rock!
I have very similar glasses!!! When I was debating between different colors and asked the sales lady for her opinion she had the balls to say “neither”!! I would LOVE to get lasik before the wedding (my FI has already done it), but I’m terrified something terrible will happen.
I know you’ll rock your Vegas wedding! People tried to convince me to have a destination, beach wedding, but I knew a sweet, small, Southern wedding was much more my speed
I felt the same way. For several months I planned an extremely formal wedding that just wasn’t me. It totally stressed me out until one day I nearly had a mental breakdown and realized that my wedding just wasn’t me. What I wanted wasn’t black and white and formal (or romantic which was what my mom tried to make it up to the very day of the wedding) but fun and bold with lots of color. It was such a relief to realize what I really wanted.
And also, I believe that even if you’re not doing a vintage-chic wedding, you can still have a style me pretty wedding, just adapted to your style!
I had heard about this site, but never visited until just now. I live in an area where walmart wedding aisle is the only style you get and EVERY.PERSON.EVER. wears David’s Bridal (nothing wrong with DB, I actually love the dresses and tried several on myself) it just gets repetitive when you see the same dress on 3 brides in the same year.
So I just checked out Style Me Pretty. Those weddings are gorgeous…but if you put me as the bride in one of those, it would be the end of the world. I like dark wood paneling and sipping bourbon, I like smokey eyes and red lipstick, I like weird details and nothing matching. I NEVER do pastels.
I see so many people doing weddings that have nothing to do with the personality of the the couple. It breaks my heart, really breaks my heart to see another boring wedding. At least there are *some* people in the world ready to be who they are and not fit in the box. So inspirational!!!
Ever since finding out about wedding blogs there’s so much pressure to have a perfectly styled wedding with a zillion perfect details!
Thanks for the post that I can identify with
Thank you so much for writing this! It is so true, and we brides need to remember this. It’s particularly difficult to keep this in mind when you read a lot of weddings blogs (and writing one doesn’t help!). I noticed that every time I saw anyone’s pictures, I immediately started freaking out that my wedding wasn’t going to be as beautiful or pretty as theirs. It helped to refocus on what Mr. P and I wanted, which wasn’t necessarily what we saw everywhere else in the blogosphere. I also had to remember that there’s no comparing my own foggy still-in-planning stages vision with someone’s fully pulled off-vision in professional photographs!
This is so true, Moley. I felt many times during our planning process that I was being pressured to have a ‘pretty’ wedding (most of it self imposed of course), and I had to remind myself that it’s not always about being pretty, but being ‘us’. And, I love your glasses (and I’m jealous I don’t have them).
First off, I can’t believe there’s a wedding site I haven’t visited. That being said, I agree. It can be so difficult to focus on your individual style when you see so many other amazing ideas that are lovely, but just not you. I constantly wonder how our wedding is going to come together.
Secondly, I’m always curious to whether all the vintage and rustic weddings suit the couples or if they just like it. There’s nothing wrong with liking something and making it yours I guess but if you don’t ride bikes for instance why would they be on all your wedding stationary?
Third, your glasses look awesome on you!
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Mrs. Mole, Los Angeles/Las Vegas Age and Occupation: 29, Test Prep Instructor Fiance's Age and Occupation: 31, User Experience Architect Engagement Date: April 2011 Wedding Date: January 2012 Venue: Wynn Las Vegas/Bouchon Bistro About Me: I’m a Wisconsinite-turned-Angeleno who is planning a destination wedding in Las Vegas. I am passionate about education: I spent 23 (!) consecutive years in school, and now I work to help other people get into graduate programs. I love running on the treadmill, buying bath products from Lush, learning new moves in step aerobics, and exploring my neighborhood on foot. I am sometimes snobby about food, but I am rarely snobby about books. I read everything from Geoffrey Chaucer to Iris Murdoch to Chuck Klosterman to Candace Bushnell. My fiance and I are getting married on our third anniversary!
| Sun | Mon | Tue | Wed | Thu | Fri | Sat |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 29 | 30 | 31 | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 |
| 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 |
| 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 | 16 | 17 | 18 |
| 19 | 20 | 21 | 22 | 23 | 24 | 25 |
| 26 | 27 | 28 | 29 |
Latest Gallery Pics