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Way back when…okay really like ten months ago, I was a regular on the waiting boards. I was speculative about when the big day would be.
For a while, I was sure we were on the same page and that it was going to be a holiday proposal with plenty of time to plan. But then mid January rolled around. Mr. Skunk’s grandfather passed and I felt selfish for even thinking about a possible proposal. I stopped lurking around on Weddingbee and tried to be as supportive as possible to Mr. Skunk. It was a really hard time for all of us.
And then out of the blue, he proposed. It was magical and fantastic and we promptly decided to plan a fall wedding.
And then a couple weeks later, Mr. Skunk lost his job. I honestly think he handled it a lot better than I did. I cried.
I lost my shit in private. I’m a worst case scenario kinda gal, so I was out picking which bridge we were going to live under. (Seriously, screw a bridge, I’m going to live in my tent near rocks.) Mr. Skunk was unfazed. Sure he took a couple days to unwind and go climb with the guys, but in under two months, he was back to work at a new [even better] job.
At the end of that month, I finally quit the life sucking position I was in and started working odd jobs here and there while trying to decide what the hell I really want to do with my life. (I got my answer after volunteering in pediatric physical therapy.) And life just kept happening.
While I’d love to think of the wedding as some big huge slap yo’ momma event really it just happens to be one Saturday out of fifty-two.
Sure, it’s our wedding week. But yesterday I had to take a chemistry placement test and today I’m visiting my grandmother. Life doesn’t stop cause you are planning a wedding. It keeps on moving for the good and the bad. The best part of it though, is knowing that you get to go through it with the one you love.
Has your engagement gone as planned? How has life slapped you in the face?
We had all sorts of dramas go on during our long engagement. But, as you say, it’s just one day in the grand scheme of things, and it’ll work out the way that it’s supposed to! 
So soon!
We have been together 6.5 years. I dreamed of the perfect proposal and the perfect wedding for so long. I graduated college and couldn’t find a teaching job. I worked many odd jobs and now I have a great job in software sales, who woulda thunk? My fiance went through losing a business and a couple jobs, my mom lost her job we all had to move together….its been a lot of ups and downs.
We were Engaged in june and its been a whirlwind of expense and family drama but we are getting married in March in Pismo Beach, CA and having a reception in Reno. My busy season at work is coming quickly and I will still be wedding planning. One day at a time. Congrats and take the time to ENJOY your day!
This is such great post, Miss Skunk! You have such amazing perspective. Mr. P and I had our shares of ups and downs throughout the wedding planning process, and unfortunately, we’ve been hit even harder post-wedding. But life goes on, and you just keep trying your best to keep your chin up and carry on.
we didn’t really do any planning or even set a date until about 6 weeks ago. So there was no “planned” for the engagement to go as planned
However, I feel the same as ‘life continues’ as you do. This past weekend I kept getting the questions about “Is that all you’re thinking of” “are you in bride mode” etc, and all I could do was answer “well, of course I’m excited and thinking about it, but really, my mind is on the HUGE accounting test I have on Monday”
The wedding is a huge event, IMO only because it’s the starting point of a lifetime together. I’ve really tried to not put a ton of emphasis on this one upcoming day because I don’t want to get lost in it and feel let down once it’s over, because why should I feel like anything is over? It’s just beginning!
Happy wedding week, my date twin!
Such a great post! It really puts things into perspective. Life has slapped us in the face quite a lot both before and during the engagement. It will probably continue to slap us around after the wedding too, but you’re right - at least we’ll have each other. And how awesome that Mr. Skunk got a new job sooo quickly in this craptastic economy! Good for him!
I need both hands to count all the face slaps life handed me. All work related on FI’s part… we pushed the wedding from April (2012) to June, then to September, then to “Lance I’m not planning the wedding anymore until you job is situated” lol. I’m happy to say though, he just passed his CDL test Sunday and in about 4 months everything will be 100 times better! YAY!
This is so true, no engagement is perfect, but hopefully the wedding will be (which I know will be true for yours)
Well said, Skunk. So true, life still happens. Looking back though you can see everything happens for a reason
I just love your take-no-crap attitude, Skunky! You also bring home an important point that many of us b2b’s often gloss over or forget altogether–that one’s wedding is a day. The marriage and the rest of your lives starts on day two.
That is so well said and a great reminder for people like me who are just starting out on this journey we call wedding planning. Have a great Saturday!
“The best part of it though, is knowing that you get to go through it with the one you love.” Perfectly said.
Moving post, Skunk. Foxy and I have certainly been through our ups and downs, many of them unexpected. In the end, we’re better for it.. and the fact that “you get to go through it with the one you love”? Priceless.
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Love this post, Skunk! You have a really great perspective, and we all need to remember that our wedding will ultimately be only one day of thousands!
Very sweet. Life does keep happening, even when you don’t want it too. Sometimes I think you just have to remember a wedding is a celebration of life and all those who know you want you to celebrate no matter what is going on. My sister was diagnosed with Breast Cancer 12 days after our engagement. I wanted to cancel our wedding and just go to the court house. It just didn’t seem fair to worry about flowers, cake, and song choices while my sister is fighting for her life. She wouldn’t let me cancel and although flowers and linens are not her thing she will be standing next to me when I take my vows. Life keeps hitting you and I’ve learned just to remember what is important is the man at the end of the aisle and all your “guests” are there to celebrate life with you, even if the favor bows aren’t tied and the programs have a typo.
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Mrs. Skunk, Atlanta Age and Occupation: 23, Post baccalaureate student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Mechanical Designer Engagement Date: February 13, 2011 Wedding Date: November 2011 Venue: Neverland Farms About Me: I’m a Georgia peach born and raised in the dirty dirty. I love reading, baking lots of sweets and forcing them on my friends, and most of all, rock climbing. I am in the process of applying to graduate school in physical therapy and I work at farmers’ markets around town selling bread for a local bakery. The mister and I met while rock climbing just over two years ago and have been inseparable ever since. Our climbing friends mean the world to us and have played an integral role in our relationship. We’re planning a barnyard shindig filled with good food, good friends, and lots of love.
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