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Okay, you’ve heard about it, you’ve seen the sitcoms, you’ve seen the movies, you’ve heard the clichés…but it would never happen to you.

I mean sure, the stories are always funny in theory. Bridesmaids trying to hook up with wedding guests? Groomsmen making a move on your friends? Hilarious!

But it doesn’t really happen…right?

I mean, your bridesmaids are too classy. They’re your best friends for goodness sake. You picked them out of all your friends, everyone you know. You’ve got a stand up group of ladies standing up for you. Awesome. Best day of your life.

I mean, it’s such a funny idea, it’s such an oven-done thought that it doesn’t even occur to you on your big day. You’re dancing with your girls, you’re smiling at your new hubby’s buddies, and it’s a magical night.

Then what happens?

Well, for me, the night ended and the new hubby and me (Mr. Anon for short) headed to a hotel for the night. Early the next morning, a limo picked us up and we headed for our honeymoon.

A week later we came back from our honeymoon, and settled into newlywed happiness.

Oh, yeah, and then a month later I found out that my bridesmaid and my brother-in-law (who was also a groomsman) hooked up with each other after the wedding.

Oh, and just to clarify, hooked up means had sex.

I’m sure you’re all wondering how my MIL knew…yeah, well let’s just say it involved my groom’s family gathering up to head back out of town, a certain little brother was missing and he had been spotted going off with Bridesmaid the night before. Yeah.

And weirdly, I had no idea; neither did Mr. Anon. We were so wrapped up in our big day that we didn’t even notice (which is for the best, I’m sure).

But it’s weird. I texted Bridesmaid to see if it was true, and she was coy at first, but turns out it was 100% true. She was only shocked when she found out Mr. Anon’s mom knew.

Now I know my friends are adults (even though Little Brother was only 20 at the time), and they can make decisions, but something about the whole situation is weird / uncomfortable /WTF to me.

Looking back, I totally could’ve predicted this, but I still can’t believe it. Something just feels off for me and I can’t quite put it into words. It’s one of those “How could this happen to me!?” feelings, even though nothing really happened to me. It’s all very strange.

I know, what those two did was totally none of my business, but I just can’t get over the fact on a day celebrating relationship and commitment, my Little Bro in Law and Bridesmaid were totally disregarding their own significant others who weren’t able to make it. Granted, Little Bro and Girlfriend were on another one of their “week long breaks” they have, but still.

I don’t know you guys, the whole thing feels very strange to me. It’s been a little while and it still feels strange.

Why am I sharing it with the Hive? Well, consider this a PSA, like if one of your bridesmaids (who is actually very sweet) brought home all kinds of guys when you lived together in college, chances are she’ll bring home someone after your reception, and if it feels weird to you that she nabs someone who feels like a brother to you? Then speak up!

Please tell me that this has actually happened to someone else? I don’t mention it to Bridesmaid, but it somehow always slips back into my mind when I think about her.

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