As I’ve mentioned before, Mr. Elk’s parents are fresh-off-the-boat Irish immigrants who moved here in their 20s. (Note—gratuitous personal photos of our trip to Ireland)
When we first got engaged, I knew I wanted to incorporate some Irish traditions into the wedding so that both of our cultures would be expressed, and I immediately asked his parents if there were any Irish wedding traditions we could use. His mom’s response: “The only Irish tradition I know is getting drunk.” His dad didn’t really have anything to add, either. Not too helpful…
Flash forward almost a year, and I have scoured the internet for actual traditions. I came up with two that I completely love and definitely want to incorporate:
1. Hand Fasting. Our hands will be tied together (hopefully with gorgeous ribbon as in this picture), and our officiant will speak of our hands being those that will take care of and love each other the rest of our lives. LOVE THIS IDEA!
2. Pebble Toss. Apparently, in ancient times, Celtic couples were married near bodies of water. Their guests were given small stones to toss into the water and make a wish for the newlywed couple. This fits PERFECTLY with our outdoor wedding on an inlet of the bay! I plan on putting out a pretty bowl filled with pebbles, along with an explanation of the tradition.
I feel these two additions to our wedding (plus the obvious supply of booze—including plenty of beer) definitely add that Irish flair that I was looking for!
Unfortunately, 10 months after I first asked for input and got nothing from my soon-to-be in-laws, Mr. Elk’s dad has decided he does in fact have a request for the wedding. The other day Mr. Elk let me know that his father would like us to play Irish music. OK, I can deal with some Irish music during cocktail hour, or during dinner. But no. He wants it during the reception…for people to dance to.
We are only having eight Irish people at this wedding, max. I want the reception to be a party! I want people dancing and having fun, and I can’t help but feel like this is totally going to ruin that mood and break up the vibe. ARGH…I guess it’s not as bad as the electric slide, requested by Mr. Elk’s mom at his brother’s wedding (which will be on our DO NOT PLAY REGARDLESS OF WHO SAYS IT’S OK list).
Any suggestions on how to make this work?
- City: Syracuse/Long Island
- Medical Student
- Wedding Date:
- May 2012
- The Old Field Club