Case of the Ex.

Case of the Ex.

November 21st, 2011 @ 1:45 pm by Miss Petit Four
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Ah, Facebook. We have a love/hate relationship.

I’m sure most of us have gone through some sort of Facebook drama, but what happens when your ex finds out you’re engaged? Well, if you have a crazy, stalker ex, he tries to contact you and win you back. This happened to me recently and it has all been so strange.

Let me start by saying I am not friends with my ex on Facebook—it’s just not something I want to do. He actually messaged me through a mutual friend of ours and wanted to talk to me. Our relationship ended badly, and there’s no way I would ever even consider going back to him. It’s funny, though, how it can stir up emotions inside you.

For me, It made me realize how lucky I am to have a man that I can trust fully and love with all my heart. It made me realize that a normal relationship doesn’t include looking through your boyfriend’s phone because you suspect he might be texting other girls (which he was). All of this hoopla made me so happy to know that I have a loving, steady relationship and I think we’ve got a really good chance at making it.

Have y’all ever experienced Facebook ex drama? What happened?

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20 Responses to “Case of the Ex.”

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kmnowlan (message) 160 posts, Blushing bee

Is your title a reference to the Mya song. Because if so- you rock. I love that song.. its so catchy! Also, sorry to hear about your FB drama. I hope he doesn’t bother you anymore! and yay for having a trusting relationship!

11/21/11 @ 2:14 pm (reply)

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elliestan (message) 3,251 posts, Sugar bee

short answer, yes. long answer, too long! I’m just glad we didn’t have an unexpected visitor as we said our I do’s. Ugh!

11/21/11 @ 2:25 pm (reply)

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Kristy

My ex found out over FB that I had given birth to my first child. My fiance had posted pics of our daughter on it whike we were still in the birthing centre. About 4 hours later my ex called the hospital and asked to speak to me. I had no idea who was on the phone when it rang beside my bed. He told me to ditch the baby and he would have me back. That he was in a better place in life, and wanted to share it with me. But wouldnt accept the child.

I hung up from that conversation realising that I obvisouly did not know my ex as well as I once thought I had. We had been together for 4 years. And I had no idea that he was that self centered and cruel. Plus he had developed this real mocking laugh….or had he always had it but I had just never noticed??

It made me happy to know that while he was finding himself in a better place, I was finding myself in a happier and more stable place than I had ever shared with him.

And to top it off, 2 weeks later he sent me a present….a baby monitor???

Some Exs need to be left in the strange pile!!!

11/21/11 @ 2:55 pm (reply)

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KatieK

I haven’t, but lately I’ve had these weird dreams that my ex shows up at the wedding, or is in my city… so weird!

11/21/11 @ 2:58 pm (reply)

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Miss Warbler (message) 154 posts, Blushing bee

Miss PF, I think you have touched on a common FB fear. I too have exes (sp?) who have tried to contact me. It was awkward enough before I got engaged! I have gone through secret service like means to keep my profile hidden from them. The stuff they say…wow it really is a wonder we bothered with them at all.

11/21/11 @ 3:00 pm (reply)

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mtnhoney (message) 356 posts, Helper bee

funny, I’ve been kind of hoping my ex WOULD find out I’m engaged through Facebook, but so far he hasn’t mentioned anything when we’ve talked. (we’re still in contact occasionally because we own a house together that he still lives in! ugh, that’s another story…)

When I left him for my now-fiance, he was sure it was just a lesbian phase I was going through, and that I’d come back to him. Well it’s been 3.5 yrs now and I’ve never been happier!

11/21/11 @ 3:02 pm (reply)

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Miss Mink (message) 1,510 posts, Bumble bee

What did he think? That showing interest would have you come running to fling yourself into his arms?

No real drama here, thankfully.

11/21/11 @ 3:45 pm (reply)

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Miss Sunhat (message) 865 posts, Busy bee

Oh my! You def don’t need that drama.

11/21/11 @ 5:39 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Hyena (message) 1,881 posts, Buzzing bee

I don’t have any exes as Facebook friends, and luckily I didn’t have any serious boyfriends before Mr. H … but I AM friends with his ex on Facebook (we went to high school together), and oh that was awkward when we were wedding planning!

11/21/11 @ 6:10 pm (reply)

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Miss Petit Four (message) 556 posts, Busy bee

@kmnowlan: Haha! Yes. It’s sooo catchy
@Kristy: That’s nuts! I agree. Some need to be in s different class of their own lol

11/21/11 @ 7:44 pm (reply)

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sarahkap83 (message) 37 posts, Newbee

I’m happy to say that I’m FACEBOOK DRAMA FREE! yay!

11/21/11 @ 8:50 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Waffle (message) 1,121 posts, Bumble bee

Oh yes! I for reals have had FB ex drama! It’s so weird and crazy!

11/22/11 @ 7:18 am (reply)

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stephchan (message) 25 posts, Newbee

this guy wasnt really my ex but we were jsut how would you say it a hook up. we hung out like twice and did somethings. well one day he got a hold of me when he got back into the state. he was in the military and he thought we had something. he thought i would wait for him but i never told anyone that i would wait for them but he kept trying to tell me to leave my fiancee but at the time boyfreind and to get with him. the guy was serious. he bought me a ring after the first time we hung out. it crept me out. after we hung out the second time i told him i didnt want to see him anymore because i love someone

11/22/11 @ 7:18 am (reply)

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TinyTina (message) 3,312 posts, Sugar bee

I will say I am friends with one of my exes on FB.. The others I’ve just kind of cut out of my life. The thing is this ex is also friends with my Dad and brother on FB and they chat sometimes. It makes me feel really awkward, especially since my FI does not have a FB account.

Ugh. The good, the bad and the ugly of social media…

11/22/11 @ 7:37 am (reply)

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Ms Rocky Point (message) 267 posts, Helper bee

OMG Ms PF, my story would be exactly the same as yours… and its like “Hello?!?!? WhyTF would you ever think I would even want to talk to you again, let alone get back together with you?!?! and PS, you have a GF. Oh wait, your a cheating SOB. I’ll let her know”

11/22/11 @ 8:37 am (reply)

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Ms Pinot Grigio

I recently moved from Philadelphia to North Carolina with my boyfriend, and on the NIGHT that we moved, my ex texted me asking what he “could do to keep me from leaving.” We have been broken up for 3 years and each have significant others. We don’t speak and clearly his narcissism and manipulative tendancies were a factor in my breaking up with him. Ohhhh, crazy exes.

11/22/11 @ 11:59 am (reply)

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Iuxta (message) 10 posts, Newbee

It didn’t involve facebook, but my guy’s ex contacted him right before our wedding, wanting to get together to reminisce. It was his first girlfriend (high school/college), who cheated on him and strung him along and broke up /got back together multiple times. She still thinks they have this really important connection, but he looks back and thinks “Why the hell did I put up with all her shit?!” XD He didn’t even bother to respond until after the wedding. It was just so obnoxious, like she thought that getting together with her was the most important thing he would have to do in the week before we got married. Sure, go ahead and live out your own Adele song, lady, but leave my husband out of it!!

On the flip side, I actually contacted an ex before his wedding to wish him all the best and a lifetime of happiness. This guy and I didn’t end great, but we are legitimately still friends so it wasn’t completely out of the blue. I was also engaged at that point, so I sent a nice message, like, we couldn’t give each other lasting happiness, but now we’ve made two other people extremely happy and that’s all that matters! He wrote a nice message back, too.

11/26/11 @ 10:18 am (reply)

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Future Army Wife (message) 1,101 posts, Bumble bee

So my Facebook “ex” story isn’t an ex-boyfriend but my sorority big. We had a falling out about two years ago and hadn’t spoken for over a year (she deleted on Facebook). She found out through someone that my fiance and I were engaged and sent a message about how excited she was. Interesting.

11/26/11 @ 6:25 pm (reply)

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Miss Kettle (message) 909 posts, Busy bee

No Facebook ex drama, but Mr. Kettle and I took a day each (the same day) to call all of our exes (going back to HS) to let them know we were engaged. Honestly, it made us both feel really good to be the ones to tell these people we used to care a lot about and to head off any possible crazy reactions at the pass. It worked very well for us, but I know that approach isn’t for everyone.

12/4/11 @ 10:11 pm (reply)

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PixieM (message) 7 posts, Newbee

Try reading ‘I Hate His Ex’ by Alex Moore. I’ve just read it and it has really help me sort out loads of problems within my relationship. It is definitely worth a try!

1/4/12 @ 8:23 am (reply)