Changing My Mind: Bridesmaids’ Dresses Revisited

Last I discussed this topic, I had decided to go with mismatched styles of long chiffon Bari Jay dresses in the color wisteria. I bragged that it was a simple decision. I boasted about how quickly I had made up my mind. I was proud of my decisiveness. Well, I come back with my tail between my legs and my antlers in a tizzy. I changed my mind.

Even though I am happy with my choice of designer, length, and fabric, and my decision to allow my girls to pick whatever style they want, I cannot get past this nagging desire to have mismatched colors as well. You see, I have always hated overly matchy things. Even as a child when my mom would buy me beautiful matching outfits, I would take the pieces apart and wear them with other pieces so as to not match too much. So the idea of eight girls wearing the same color, standing next to each other most of the evening has been getting to me…I am just so nervous it will look TOO matchy-matchy.

And just look at how awesome these look? I mean, seriously, I couldn’t help but get a complex looking at pictures like these:

Image via Flutterfly Events / Photo by Erin Hearts Court

Image via Elizabeth Ann Designs / Photo by Olivia Leigh

Image via Style Me Pretty / Photo by Aaron Delesie

And the photo that truly captured my heart and made me swoon:

Image via Southern Weddings / Photo be Lane Dittoe

It was becoming painfully obvious that I wouldn’t be happy until I had a completely mismatched look. But I really didn’t think it was feasible to get mismatched without looking crazy—I needed to have some coordination! Moreover, I really didn’t want to have to pick my bridesmaids’ color choices for them—I want them to feel comfortable! And so began my feasibility study. I made a PowerPoint of six colors I felt would go well with my overall look and sent it to out to my bridesmaids, asking which color(s) they would MOST like to wear out of all of them.

Images via Bari jay

I knew going in that there would have to be some overlap, as I have eight bridesmaids and only six color choices, so I was OK with that. I was just worried that people would have an obvious preference for one or two of the colors and leave the rest behind. Surprisingly, every color (except petal—insert sad face here) has been chosen!

  • Bridesmaid K: wisteria or periwinkle —> wisteria
  • Bridesmaid C: misty blue or periwinkle —> misty blue
  • Bridesmaid M: daffodil or misty blue —> daffodil
  • Bridesmaid J:  rose or periwinkle —> rose
  • Bridesmaid D: wisteria, periwinkle, or rose —> periwinkle (?)
  • MOH L: wisteria or misty blue —> periwinkle
  • Bridesmaids T and A: TBD

I am SOOO EXCITED this plan may actually work! I know there is a strong possibility no one will pick petal, and even though I really think it would make a good addition to the color scheme I don’t blame my bridesmaids for not wanting to wear pale pink. Now I just have to wait for my last two bridesmaids’ responses. I also need to decide which colors to double up on and away we go!!!

Did you decide to do something you thought would be difficult but turned out fairly easy in the end? And what do you think of my color scheme?


Mrs. Elk

City: Syracuse/Long Island
Wedding Date:
May 2012
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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:26 pm

    Your dress pallette looks great! I don’t have that many colors to choose from, haha.

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    sunhat 1453 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:31 pm

    I like your color choices. I think they work super well together!

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    miepanda, Guest @ 4:37 pm

    I’m going with the mismatched look myself. When I told my FMIL about my plan of having the girls picking their own purple party dresses, she told me, “You have to be careful with purples. They might have either a reddish or bluish hue. They won’t match.” I kind of just smiled and nodded, but in my head, I was thinking, “But that’s what I’m aiming for!!”

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    msfox 1635 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:50 pm

    Ohh I hope someone picks petal.. I totally dig that color! I think all the colors go fantastically together – way to go with your gut!

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    blurmeblue 380 posts, Helper bee @ 7:22 pm

    so pretty! I want to do the mismatched look, but my MOH is totally veto-ing the idea! She says we should wear the same color, but different styles………but I looove the mismatched look!

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    MrsKeAloha 1044 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:43 am

    All great colors. I really wanted to do the same thing but in the end – it really made me nervous. So glad you have figured out a way to control the mismatch. I hope Petal makes it in for you. I think its a pretty color.

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    knvprincess143 1036 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:51 am

    The color scheme is awesome! I wanted to do something like the forth picture too but then settled on having them all in the same dress in the same color. After being the bride that cried brides maids dress, I think my girls are just happy to know the search is over.

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    kcroxyoursox, Guest @ 6:11 am

    So your MOH won’t get to wear one of the colors she chose?

    My suggestion would be, since no one wants the pink anyway, to cut it AND the daffodil. Then you’d have two blues and two purples, and with eight bridesmaids, would have two in each. Symmetry without the matchy matchy :)

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    sleepypanda 60 posts, Worker bee @ 6:46 am

    I started falling in love with this idea myself but was concerned it might look odd since I’m only having 3 bridesmaids (it feels like a look that’s more easily pulled off with at least 4 and up). Plus, it got vetoed from everyone in my bridal party because they felt it wouldn’t be dressy enough for a church wedding. Sigh. PS 12 bridesmaids in that Style Me Pretty pic above?! holy matrimony, Batman!

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    porcupine 633 posts, Busy bee @ 6:51 am

    Very pretty! My bridesmaids are in a bunch of blues as well- same dress though.

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    TinyTina 3312 posts, Sugar bee @ 7:08 am

    Beautiful color choices!! I think it’s going to look wonderful! I toyed with this idea, but I wasn’t brave enough to try and pull it off.

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    AshleyLynea 33 posts, Newbee @ 7:19 am

    I saw an amazing picture right after I got engaged and knew I just had to to mis-matched bridesmaids dresses! Mine will be champagne, blush pink and a gray-purple…and everything inbetween :)

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    elk 320 posts, Helper bee @ 8:20 am

    @kcroxyoursox: whoops- i forgot that my MOH asked for wisteria, misty blue OR periwinkle! And when she saw misty blue in person she didn’t like it, so I think we picked the right color for her. hmm interesting idea about cutting petal and daffodil and making it symmetrical, but honestly I don’t know if I want symmetry.

    @AshleyLynea: I think I know what picture you are talking about and LOVE it! I would have been braver to do this, but I don’t think my bridesmaids would have been happy (you can tell they seem to like blues and purples more than champagne and pinks

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    Entangled 2616 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:07 am

    I did mismatched colors and was not nearly so organized about it. I just said “get a green dress that is not garish and not below the knee” and kept poking them via email until I knew all of them had dresses (which was about a week before the wedding).

    It ended up looking phenomenal but I had no idea whether it would match or we’d end up with four bridesmaids in one shade and one looking out of place or something until the day of the wedding.

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    AshleyLynea 33 posts, Newbee @ 9:54 am

    the top photo on this site is my inpiration! Hope it works out well! I’m lucky, I actually have some girls with red hair, so the champagne color is the favorite for them!

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    SouthernmostBride 111 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:26 am

    Awesome! That is a really smart way to do this. I think I will be doing the same thing with my girls!

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