Weddingbee Blog

I’ve mentioned once or twice how large our wedding party is. Part of the reason it’s so large is that we’re counting everyone, including our two officiants. They are two men who each like a member of either mine or Mr. Kettle’s family. They are our pastors.

They both do pre-marital counseling for couples they marry. Mr. Kettle and I couldn’t decide which one we wanted to do our counseling, so we committed to doing it with both. Now, we didn’t think about how busy our schedules are. It’s been a very long time since we made that commitment, and we are just now going to our counseling sessions.

There are some similarities between the two sessions. We left each one feeling pretty good about our plan to get married. There isn’t much that was brought up (at least so far) that we haven’t already discussed in detail.

Also, Mr. Kettle and I are pretty well matched in a couple ways. For one, we’re both apparently teenagers when it comes to certain subjects. You know what I mean. We took a look at our counseling workbook, saw the word sex, and broke into giggles.

I doubt we would’ve done that if it weren’t for the fact that we were alone in the room, but it was made all the more funny to us because we were across the table from each other and we started laughing at exactly the same time. Definitely a classic moment for us as a couple.

But on a more serious note, this counseling has done what I thinks it’s supposed to do. It’s made us take a long hard look at our relationship and really assess if we’re making the right decision. We’ve talked about God, communication, love, trust, empathy, compassion, fun, and yes, even sex.

If it turned out that we weren’t ready for marriage in the eyes of the men who are supposed to marry us, we’d be back to the drawing board, trying to make it right. Luckily, we seem to be on the right page.

Did you have pre-marital counseling? Did it leave you feeling good about your decision to marry?