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I have quite the active imagination, but unfortunately it doesn’t always serve me well. It is great for, say, writing short stories or daydreaming to pass the time, but perhaps not so good when it comes to anxiety-related issues. I can visualize the absolute worst outcome happening. (And this vivid imagination often carries over to dream land…)
A couple nights ago I awoke in a start. I was brought back to reality from a nightmare, and I couldn’t shake the feelings I had (even a whole 12-plus hours later).
OK, back to reality…I know that Mr. Hawk did not really cheat on me or say those things, but my dreams can feel so real that they stick with me long after I’m awake. I couldn’t shake the heaviness I had felt about our relationship and even found myself holding it against Mr. Hawk when he came home the next night. I eventually shared with him. He laughed at my ridiculousness and assured me it would never happen, which helped, but it still took me a little while to get over it. I think what made my dream so significant was that it came from a fear deep down inside that I never even realized I had. The thought of him tiring of me had never crossed my mind in the daylight hours but had somehow crept up on me when I was least expecting it.
Do you ever have wedding-related nightmares? Are you able to shake them or are y’all’s imaginations so vivid that they stick with you, too?
Oh you are so not alone on this one. A few months before the wedding I had a similar nightmare about Mr. Ticket and I could not let it go. I told him about it after he realized I was extremely upset with him for no apparent reason (it felt so real!). He also laughed at me and told me it was absurd because that would never happen. I got over it after a while but it was so vivid it shook me to my core!
Oh that’s a terrible dream!!! I used to have dreams about Mr. Unicycle breaking up with me (one time it was because I was too shy around his family hahaha!) but it felt so real!
I have experienced it the other way around. My soon to be FI has had several dreams through out our relationship of me breaking up with him. I always feel bad for him and am never quite sure how to make him feel better.
OMG the wedding nightmares are the worst! Mine always end with the wedding day happening but I haven’t even come close to finishing the planning and I am FREAKING out….last one I didn’t even have an officiant
This is amazing! Just LAST NIGHT I had a dream (ok, nightmare) that FI was buying an engagement ring for another woman! I said “What are you DOING??” and his response was “What? I can’t love two women??” and I’m like “Ummm…NO!!!” I said “What are you going to do with her when we get MARRIED??” and he said “I guess I’ll cross that bridge when we get to it!” I woke up feeling like I had been kicked in the stomach!! All day I couldn’t shake that yucky feeling. When I told him about my dream this morning his reaction was similar - “pfft…that would NEVER happen”.
My dreams are so real sometimes I wake up crying and scared to death so I have to wake up Mr Teaspoon to calm me down, they are only every 3 months and usually link to watching a scary show the night before - by scary I mean NCIS or Hawaii 5-0! he he
I hate nightmares like that where it makes you so down and out, even though you know it isnt real. It usually takes me forever to shake it, but eventually it goes away! And I just started having wedding dreams/nightmares. Nothing to horrific yet…but I imagine one will hit at some point.
Aw, what a scary dream! I’ve had similar ones, but Mr. P always reassures me that I’m crazy and things like that would never happen.
My bad dreams stick with me for a while too. I’m sometimes mad at Mr. BC for something he did in a dream - not in real life! It’s amazing how powerful they can be.
@Mrs. Ticket: I’m glad to hear it’s not only me! Mr. Hawk thinks it’s crazy how vivid my dreams are!
@Miss Unicycle: The ones that feel real are the absolute worst.
@Andrea: Being on the other side, I would just suggest for you to do your best to ease his fears and remind him you care. 
@Miss Elk: Ahhh! I’m glad I haven’t had too many of the actual day yet, but I have no doubt they’ll be coming as the day nears!
@Ocean: Isn’t it crazy what our imaginations do to us?!
@Mrs. Teaspoon: Haha. That happens to me too sometimes. If I watch something particularly scary it will haunt me!
@Miss Doe: Let’s hope the super-horrific dreams don’t happen!
@Mrs. Pony: and @Miss Sunhat: I’m going to make sure Mr. H comes back and reads these comments so he no longer thinks I’m crazy! 
I had almost the exact same dream and FI also said something (in the dream) similar to “it just happened” how terrible! I was also really saddened the whole day afterward. Dreams are crazy things! FI was so sweet and reassuring, sounds like Mr. Hawk was too!
lol I’ve had dreams like that about my fiance, too… not really wedding related, but I did wake up glaring at him from across the bed. Funny how even though you know it’s just a dream you hold it against them! He’s done the same to me so it’s pretty funny (just not in the moment!) I find it helps to share the dream and laugh about it.
I did have one wedding related nightmare… I was running down the street in my wedding dress while being chased by a horde of cats who were trying to shred it! I’ve also had the fear pop into my head “what if my veil catches on fire during the unity candle ceremony?” Thankfully we’re not doing a candle ceremony so that fear has been put to rest.
I think it’s just wedding anxiety getting the best of us.
Ughhh yes, I have had dreams like that. They do tend to stay with me for days on end… I hate that feeling. Recently though I’ve been having dream after dream where everything that can go wrong in my wedding does go wrong. Flowers are wrong, photog doesn’t show, lost the wedding bands. The last one I had all my bridesmaids left before the ceremony started because I kept them waiting and they were bored. WTF BRAIN??
@micahg: I’m glad your FI was able to comfort you.
@sugarpeach: Oh my goodness, I think I actually shuddered thinking about being chased by cats in my dress. That dream may be worse than mine!
@TinyTina: Haha, I know. I hate my overactive imagination sometimes!
I had a dream about favors the same night. It didn’t have the same effect on me…but it make me wonder if I was more stressed under the surface that I care to admit! Who dreams about favors?!?
You are not alone! I’ve had similar nightmares about FI leaving me or confessing to cheating or something like that. I guess it’s just our fears that maybe this really is too good to be true working itself out. Sounds like your guy is handling it the right way!
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Miss Hawk, Richmond, VA Age and Occupation: 26, Finance Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, District Supervisor Engagement Date: March 13, 2011 Wedding Date: May 2012 Venue: The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall About Me: I’m an Arizona-born girl who has spent the majority of my life living below the Mason-Dixon line. The South has definitely earned a special place in my heart (alongside my Virginia born and bred fiance, of course!). We are planning a traditional Christian ceremony at my alma mater in historic Williamsburg, Virginia, followed by a rocking reception filled with Southern cooking and vintage/shabby chic details. When we’re not wedding planning, we enjoy spending time with our three dogs, going for runs together, watching plenty of football (or baseball depending on the season), and sampling new wine.
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