Hi, My Name Is, What? My Name Is, Who?

When it came to deciding if I should change my name, I pretty much didn’t think about it. I always planned on changing my name. I’m not sure why—mostly I think it’s because I can be pretty old-fashioned sometimes. There is a side of me that would love to be a little Suzy Homemaker stay-at-home mom raising the kids and taking care of the home.

I know a lot of people get emotional about losing their last name, but I’ve never had some crazy attachment to it. Yes, it’s my “family’s name,” but I don’t see changing your name as changing who your family is. Plus, most of my immediate family has a different last name so it never struck me as something HUGELY important. My first name is pretty original, so I’ve always identified more with that. Like Madonna or something (without the fame, fortune, and talent).

Also, my last name is really weird.

I can assure you, you would pronounce it wrong upon first glance. There are far too many vowels in a row in it. It has forever driven me insane that people say it wrong, ALL THE TIME. I’ve even heard variations of it that sound a lot like an excrement from your body. I could correct teachers and professors 90 times and they STILL couldn’t pronounce it. It’s been fun times.

My married last name is pretty common. It’s not quite as common as let’s say “Smith,” but it’s a complete polar opposite from what I’m coming from. And even though I have a unique first name, my first name + married name is a much more common combination. When I google myself now (what, doesn’t everyone do that?) I only get 229 results. Most of those results are actually pulling things about me, or pulling one of the members of my family since my last name is so unique. When I google my married name I jump up to 5,670 results. I will be a lot less Googleable (which I like, I guess).

One day I was discussing this name changing issue with a friend. I realized that I will be the most upset over parting with my e-mail address. Is that odd? You see my e-mail address is simply MYFULLNAME@EMAIL.COM. Since my name is so unique it was easy to secure the e-mail address without any added numbers, periods, or middle initial. I quickly checked my current e-mail provider to see if my married name would be available as an e-mail and it wasn’t (unless I add some numbers, periods, etc). Cue irrational annoyance. After checking a few more e-mail providers it turns out that only gmail had my married name available. So, what’s does a psycho like me do? Sign up for it just to hold it—obviously! Well, turns out I forgot I was signed into my i-google page at my current non-gmail account so as soon as Google saw I was making the switch they took over. Now, whenever I log-in to my i-Google page it automatically refreshes me under MYMARRIEDNAME@GMAIL.COM. This was over a year and a half ago. (Ha, oops). Not to mention gmail recommended me as a contact to one of my friends. Good thing she understands my oddball tendencies.

Thanks to putting my future e-mail address “on hold” over a year ago, I’ve had plenty of time to get used to seeing my new name. However, I’m pretty sure it will be Weird City when I make the official switch. I think the weirdest part though will be when people say Mrs. MARRIEDNAME to me. I get the weirds enough when people call me ma’am (MA’AM REALLY? I’M NOT EVEN 30 YET!). In my head that is still my future MIL’s name and not my own. It will be an adjustment.

Was the decision to change your name an easy choice for you? Anyone else do something crazy like reserve an e-mail address before even changing their name?

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Mrs. Porcupine

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March 2012
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    FourthFireworks 45 posts, Newbee @ 2:26 pm

    This is Brilliant. I was just lamenting the other day that I was going to have to change my email address and it didn’t even occur to me to reserve it ahead of time. Yep, gonna go do that now.

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    unicycle 476 posts, Helper bee @ 4:48 pm

    good thinking on reserving the email address! I am unfortunately giving up a last name that is laughably easy to spell and pronounce for one that is a little more difficult for people. Oh well, I enjoy making cursive capital L’s so yay!

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    unicycle 476 posts, Helper bee @ 4:48 pm

    also thanks to you I’ve had eminem in my head all day. I can’t say I’m upset about it.

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    porcupine 633 posts, Busy bee @ 5:16 pm

    @Baker2Be: That is so unique. I’d be sad to part with that too!
    @Danae: Wahoo, glad you got that email!
    @Miss Elk: Right, kinda weird seeing it there in writing!
    @Faellie: Haha, glad I’m not the only one. =)
    @runninginpink: There’s so many little things you never think of! Don’t ask me why email was one of the first things I realized, ha.
    @TinyTina: Wow, that is a HUGE jump!
    @Mrs. Parasol: That is weird! People see what they wanna. They even mess up Mr. P’s last name and I don’t understand how that’s even possible.
    @mittens111211: Good luck on officially starting the process!
    @totheislnds: Third most common! Wow. Now I have to go google my married name to see what it is on the list.
    @bluewolverine: That works too! haha
    @Allison: Exactly! You never know who is creating the exact same email!
    @Miss Hawk: Glad I could be of help, lol.
    @FutureMrsSMW: Nope, def. not weird in my book. I would never have told anyone though if it wasn’t for the g-mail snafu outing me to my contacts!
    @soyjoy222: I didn’t actually reserve persay. I just created one with the intention of using it after I got married. Too bad g-mail likes to sound the alarms.
    @Alleycat: Ay, that is A LOT more hits.
    @luvmyDwight: It’s the little things! I was way too overly excited I found an e-mail provider that I could write my whole name out in.
    @missgracekelly: Very cute! I love how he made two variations for you.
    @toshella: Exactly! This will be our e-mail for life, gotta have it ready… until something bigger than email is invented, ha.
    @Candace: LOL oh crap. I don’t mean to laugh, but that is too crazy! Hopefully you will find some way else to do it!

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    porcupine 633 posts, Busy bee @ 5:17 pm

    @FourthFireworks: Haha, I am starting a trend.
    @Miss Unicycle: Welcome to the darkside (of last names) ;) And this song has been in my head now for a week, and it’s starting to drive me insane!

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 6:48 pm

    Eek, I haven’t even checked to see if my married name can become a gmail account. And my maiden name is nice and unique, but so is my married name!

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    jslb 37 posts, Newbee @ 8:51 pm

    I’m switching from common last name to not so common last name, definitely looking forward to it. I’m also lucky that my last initial is the same so I get to keep my email which consists of my initials :)

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    mink 2178 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:23 am

    I feel like the decision is much easier in academia. If you’re established, it’s fine not to legally change your name.

    Socially, I’m excited to use my married name, but professionally, it makes sense to keep my old one.

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    alicia1745 1118 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:08 am

    I keep meaning to “reserve” my new email but keep forgetting. Guess I should add it to the To Do list. It never occurred to me to NOT change my last name. I’ve already changed my last name once so I’m basically a pro at it right? At 18 I changed my last name to match my stepdad’s last name since I’ve considered him my dad for years. I loved my original last name- it was super awesome and unique but I hated who it represented. I love my last name now but I’m a huge traditionalist so changing my last name to my husband’s just seems normal to me.

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    sandiegosarah 61 posts, Worker bee @ 4:08 pm

    I am also subject to a massive google jump. My current name under 500 – all me plus one lady who is deceased and has a memorial fund in her name (I’m not that important but my info is reposted all the time since I’m a licensed professional). Google my name with FI last’s name . . . over 500k. [Disclaimer searches were done in quotes with no middle.] I can even find 225k hits in quotes with my current middle name and FI’s last name versus 7 with my current full name, and they are all me.

    One of my saddest points was realizing that I’d never have a username of first initial last name again if I take FI’s name, and almost all my accounts are this username. My maiden name is part of my identity both online and in real life.

    I grew up never wanting to change my name, or at least only hyphenate it. I have established myself professionally with degrees and licenses in my maiden name. In my profession, having a memorable name can be helpful. But, on the other hand, part of me feels like I need to take his name in some form to show my commitment to my new family.

    I have seven months to figure out which way to go. I am lucky that my FI doesn’t care what my name is and will support any decision I make. It is nice to know that I’m not the only one sitting around googling my name possibilities.

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    blueyedbrunette12 4 posts, Wannabee @ 9:35 pm

    I so didn’t think about this soon enough. I guess I was thinking with my unique first name & his common last name I’d be able to come up with something… But I guess not, all my first choices are taken. So I guess it’s to the drawing board now. I figure since I’m switching my name on everything else, why not my e-mail address too?

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    msfox 1635 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:20 pm

    Oh geez I definitely need to hop on the new email address bandwagon – I haven’t even thought about that yet! I’ve decided to take Foxy’s last name, as I always thought I would, but it definitely will be a change. My last name is pretty rare as well (and people hardly ever say it right), so I’ll be thankful for a change!

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    kettle 926 posts, Busy bee @ 5:07 am

    I’m super excited about the name change. I can’t wait and will be glad to get my new name.

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    jdilb, Guest @ 11:13 am

    My name googled now returns 1,220 results. With my married name? 24,500,000!!! He has a very common last name while anyone with my name is 100% related to me (Fun Fact: It is also the title of a song by a group in Pakistan, whereas my last name is of Armenian roots). So I definitly understand the email thing.

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    FleurDeLis79, Guest @ 6:29 pm

    When I married my now-ex, I took his last name only because it was SO MUCH easier to spell and pronounce than my maiden name. I even kept it after the divorce. Just easier in a lot of ways.

    Now, though, my boyfriend and I thinking of tying the knot and I’m not thrilled about switching from the current easy name to my boyfriend’s harder name. However, I could see how he might feel weird with me keeping my ex’s last name. I feel a little weird about it, too, though I don’t know if that’s enough to keep me from changing it.

    I don’t like either option, really.

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