Weddingbee Blog

…you make lemonade. Then you add some vodka.

Or Bloody Mary, as the case may be.

I don’t know about you guys, but sometimes planning a wedding can just feel so overwhelming. There’s so much to think about, to plan, to spend, to have a back up for. I’m sitting here, just over six months out, and having a mini panic attack at everything I still have to do; yet, I feel like I don’t know what to do because I have already done so much.

The main things I can think of that aren’t done and that could be worked on at this point (invitations, ceremony stuff, jewelry, bridal party gifts)…well, I’m being a lazy butt about them. I know there’s stuff I could do, but I’m just not. Between hardly having enough time to eat dinner most nights and only seeing Foxy every few days due to his 12 hour night shifts, I’ve gotten very procrastinate-y. I have all these ideas floating around in my head and I either have no time to do anything with them, think I should wait a few more weeks/months to actually do something with them as to not have everything done months ahead of time, or choose to watch TV (and have a glass of wine) instead of doing them. It all boils down to avoidance, because it just feels like so. damn. much. sometimes.

I’m aware that part of my current wedding procrastination and anxiety is likely coming from random life stresses and the ever expanding list of requests from friends and family of what should and shouldn’t be at the wedding. You know, like what music should be played, what food should be served, who should stay in what room, what the ceremony should entail, what “traditions” we will and won’t be doing. The people pleaser in me takes it all into consideration, but the kick-ass woman (some might say “bitch”) in me gets frustrated because this is our wedding, not theirs. Foxy and I claim trademarks on vibe, ideas, flow…oh yes, and 99% of the funding. The same people who tell me “if you’re happy, other people will be happy” are also telling me “well you should really have this and this” and “well you won’t have enough food if you just do stations.” Please keep in mind these are just general samples, and we are getting them from people across the board.

So I’ve been getting frustrated, and I’ve just hit the “pause” button on actively planning, since a lot is, in fact, planned already. And a lot just has so many possibilities that I’m overwhelmed by it all.

Tell me I’m not the only one who gets a little panicked over what is and isn’t done for the wedding. Have you ever needed to take a step back and just recharge? How did you deal with outside people’s influences?