Weddingbee Blog

Unlike some people, I was never one to plan or even think about my future wedding before I was engaged. Sure, I knew I would probably have a ball planning a wedding if I ever did get engaged, but I figured I’d leave all the prep work until that moment. I specifically remember one night in college when my girlfriends were going around the table, announcing what their wedding colors will be and what kind of wedding and bridesmaid dresses they would eventually have. Please keep in mind, we were all very, very single at time. So when it was my turn to talk, I just laughed and said, “who the hell knows, but I really like turquoise.”  They looked at me all crazy-like (HOW could I NOT know that yet?!). And thus ended my “pre-planning.”

Well, sort of. There was one thing that I did have a very strong opinion on at the time, but it didn’t quite fit in with all the girly talk going on. I knew that, when I eventually walked down the aisle, it would be with either both my parents, or just me. I still hold to that decision.

In a nutshell, as a child of divorced parents, I did a lot of traveling back and forth from one to the other. I lived with both of them at certain points, and both have had a great influence on how I was brought up and on who I am today.

I just wouldn’t feel right to only walk down the aisle with one of them, and while it would be kind of awesome to trek it solo (independent woman and all that fun stuff), I really do want them both by my side on one of the most important days of my life. Well, 99% sure (gotta leave some wiggle room), but pretty much set on the idea.

There is, however, one big drawback to having both my mom and dad escort me (and thus, give me away) down the aisle. And that would be that I’m unsure if said aisle is big enough to hold the three of us.

Images via Vandiver Inn

As you can see, its not a huge space if we end up doing the ceremony outside by the gazebo (which we very much want to). If we were only to have 75 guests, we could surely widen the aisle and decrease the seatage. But at this point, we have a much higher count on our guest list, with a good chance that we could have up to 130 people at the actual wedding. I have no freakin’ clue where seats would go and how big the aisle would be if that were the case. In my mind, in order to have enough room for three people to walk, there would only be three or four chairs on either side of said aisle. The other 50 people without seats will need to camp out in the street next to the jumbotron we’ll need to rent so everyone can see. ::snark::

The one solution I can come up with (OK, my friends actually did) is for me to walk slightly ahead and my mom and dad to lag behind me a bit. Lucky for you, I practiced and have proof:

Shockingly, that is not going to be what my bouquet looks like.

I have two issues with this: 1. I feel like I’m thrusting my boobs out for all to see, and 2. it’s kind of weird. I mean, my parents are divorced. I’m not sure how comfortable I (or they) would be walking down the aisle (again). I know that if we just used the pavilion for our ceremony a la Mrs. Lox, this space thing would be a non-issue. But I really want to get married outside, and I’m stubborn. Therein lies the problem.

Are you having someone besides (or in addition to) your dad walk you down the aisle? Did you have to worry about space issues at all?