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One way that Mr. Hawk and I greatly differ is in our emotions. In the nearly two years that we’ve been together, I can only specifically recall seeing Mr. Hawk cry three times (one of those being the day he proposed—awwww). And even then I’ve never really seen him cry more than a couple glistening tears down his cheeks.
I, on the other hand, am a crier. I’m sure Mr. Hawk is lucky to see a week or two go by without my tears. I don’t want to make myself seem coo-coo-cachoo, but I often get moved to tears by movies, music, TV shows, or even commercials. And, unfortunately for me, also unlike Mr. H, I am not a one-to-two-tear crier if I’m feeling particularly moved.
Image via FanPop via ABC’s 2003 special “Britney Spears: In The Zone” with Diane Sawyer
Exhibit One: Marley and Me. I made the mistake of going to see this movie in the theater. (Heck, I made the mistake of seeing this movie at all, but I digress…) I knew Marley was going to be a goner, but knowing it could not prepare me for the overwhelming emotion. It started off with silent tears, but pretty soon I couldn’t contain myself and embarrassingly audibly sniffled several times before holding my breath to get myself together. Once I got to the privacy of my own car, I had a full-on ugly cry complete with snotty nose and puffy red eyes.
Exhibit Two: Grey’s Anatomy a few weeks ago. Mr. H came in while I was watching. Within five minutes he looked over and saw the tears freely falling. I composed myself as the show progressed, and Mr. H went to the kitchen. But by the time he came back I was crying again. He was baffled. I’m pretty sure the conversation went something like this: “What happened now? You were just fine a minute ago!” My response: “[sniffle sniffle] They’re [sniffle] taking Meredith’s [sniffle sniffle] baby [sniffle] away!” Mr. Hawk shakes his head and walks back to the kitchen.
Now, I have a very strong feeling that I’m going to be “particularly moved” on our wedding day. The multitude of opportunities for me to be affected by crying are a little frightening. Vows? Yes. First dance? Possibly. Toasts? I could see it. Daddy-daughter dance? Abso-freakin’-lutely. I don’t know how I’m going to hold it together, and it makes me a little concerned. I mean, I am paying beacoup bucks for photos to last a lifetime. I don’t want to be red, puffy, and snotty in all of them! I have a feeling the day is going to be full of trying to keep myself in check and several emergency trips to the bathroom to make sure my makeup isn’t all over my face.
Are y’all worried about becoming emotional on your wedding day? Do you have any tips or tricks to keeping yourself tear free?
Oh, I am TOTALLY afraid of this happening to me! I get very emotional at the drop of a hat, and I’m pretty sure there will be tears at some point during the day. So I definitely feel you!
Oh my gosh. We watched Marley and Me at home and at one point, Mr. Mink looked at me and said “Are you going to be okay? Should we turn it off?” They hadn’t even moved to Phili yet!
I’m a sap. I cry for Hallmark commercials. I cry during the news (hello…the beagles that just got liberated from that lab killed me). The SPCA commercials are my Achilles Heel. I cry during particular great songs at concerts.
I really, really hope I can pull it together for the wedding. I have no tips to share, though. 
I am the same way. at my Brother’s wedding I was a groomswoman and when I saw my now sister-in-law (whom at the time I did not get along with) I was crying. Not just slient happy tears, no. Full on ugly face cry. So for my wedding day some one suggested a first look with the groom before the ceremony to get some of the crying out of the way. The other ones I suggest for the people you are dancing with to have a few tissues in their pockets.
I can’t even count how many times I’ve already said “I’m totally going to lose it when I walk down the aisle.” I’ve already thought of stockpiling waterproof everything makeup. But hey, I think it’s a blessing we’re able to cry Some people can’t and won’t.
Oh my gosh! I can so relate to this! I was not a big crier until sometime after I started dating Mr. Aardvark. I became a big mess. Cat food adds, the news, forget about movies I am sniffling away. I have taken these abundant opportunities to work on my “pretty cry” (you know face relaxed, mouth neutral, just tears, minimal snot.) I’ve had mixed results but I’m hoping it will pay off come wedding time!
@haelmai: It’s nice to know I’m not alone!
@Miss Mink: Those SPCA commercials are the worst! I literally have to change the channel.
@Nik19: Great ideas! Mr. H and I have discussed a first look for this very reason!
Oh god, I love that picture of Britney- that is so my cry face! I am not a crier, but I cried through most of the ceremony. I have a bunch of very unflattering pictures of me from our photographer that will never see the light of day.
My best tip would be to focus on the words you are saying and your fiance/soon to be husband’s face during the ceremony. I found that it really calmed me down when I did that. When I let my mind wander to thinking about what this “means” and the sentiment behind it, I started crying again.
@kappasweetiepie: Good point. Waterproof makeup is going to be my best friend!
@Miss Aardvark: Too funny! I should try this! Maybe by May I will have learned to control myself!
I am the same way a cryer through and through. I expected to be a mess on my wedding day, but nope no tears, only total joy and feeling of inner peace. I only got weepy once and that was after the first kiss, when my new husband whispered in my ear, “I did it, I married my best friend, today is a great day”. On no I just got teary again. My advice, just go with it and wear waterproof makeup….
I feel like this post was written by me! I sobbed like a baby when I watched Marley and Me (and both times that I read the book), cry throughout almost every episode of Grey’s, I even got teary eyed reading your post! Hahaha, I’m going to be a mess too. Luckily my dress has pockets for me to stash tons of tissues in it.
I am a cryer, too. The number of movies that can make me cry is ridiculous. Surprisingly, though, I was really emotional at the rehearsal, then as calm-as-can be at our actual wedding. So, you might be just fine!
Yep… I also made the mistake of seeing Marley & Me in the theater too. There were a lot more than just a few silent tears that day. It doesn’t help that my family has a 10 yr old yellow lab that I’ve grown up.
I just cried last night watching Harry Potter.
Oh and I’ve also cried at every single wedding I’ve attended. So yeah, pretty sure I’ll be bringing on the waterworks at my wedding!
Me too! I cry at the drop of a hat. As I finished reading “The Help” recently, I was sobbing. My fiance looked at me quizzically and said, “Is this going to happen often?” Ha! I will have ugly cry face for many wedding pictures, I’m sure. Not sure how I can avoid that. I’ll just have to hope some are ok!
WHY WHY WHY did you watch Marley & Me?! I refuse, I can’t even imagine what I’d be like.
I am a crier, but I’m not really a social crier (unless I’ve had way too much to drink and one little thing goes wrong). Often I’m sitting at my desk at work reading something or looking at pictures and I’ll get choked up. But when it comes to in front of people, I can miraculously hold it together. Still, I’m not sure how I’m going to react on the wedding day…
I’m totally a crier! I get it from my dad–everyone on his side of the family (all men, mind you!) can cry at the drop of a hat. Exhibit A for Papa P: the ending of Pinocchio! I ended up crying through my vows (and Mr. P’s), but I think that’s it. In the end, don’t stress about it too much. And if you do cry, everyone will know how special and important all of this is to you!
Kudos to you for being able to watch Marley and Me in the theater… I watched it at home by myself, and it was beyond ugly cry. It was gasping, choking, can’t breathe sobbing.
As soon as I see Sarah McLaughlin’s face on the screen - “CLICK”!
My dentist played Marley and Me last time I got a cavity filled. Seriously, dude. I am already sad enough that I have to get a shot in my gums.
I have never seen Mr. Mole cry. I am kind of curious about it — but not curious enough that I actually want him to cry about anything!
Oh lovey! I coulda wrote this myself! lol I am hoping that a euphoric (tear-free) feeling hits me and crying won’t be an issue. Riiiiiiiiiight!?!
I’m glad I’m not the only one like this….I can end up in full on snotty-puffiness over practically nothing! Just like you said-movies, music, commercials (The ASPCA one gets full on bawling every time!), books…At our wedding though, I was mostly able to contain myself! I started to tear up when I first got to the altar, and so did my then FI, who never cries! Then our officiant, a good friend of ours started to also, so we had to take a few seconds to regain ourselves before proceeding. LOL! I had tears in my eyes a little during the best man toast, but other than that I was okay. Definitely have a hanky nearby in case you need it!
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Miss Hawk, Richmond, VA Age and Occupation: 26, Finance Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, District Supervisor Engagement Date: March 13, 2011 Wedding Date: May 2012 Venue: The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall About Me: I’m an Arizona-born girl who has spent the majority of my life living below the Mason-Dixon line. The South has definitely earned a special place in my heart (alongside my Virginia born and bred fiance, of course!). We are planning a traditional Christian ceremony at my alma mater in historic Williamsburg, Virginia, followed by a rocking reception filled with Southern cooking and vintage/shabby chic details. When we’re not wedding planning, we enjoy spending time with our three dogs, going for runs together, watching plenty of football (or baseball depending on the season), and sampling new wine.
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