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I’ve already mentioned some ways Mr. Hawk and I are different. (Like I’m a crier and he’s pretty unemotional. I can be a gut-feel gal, and he likes the cold hard facts.) But the reality is that those differences are just the tip of the iceberg with us. I’d even venture to say that we are more different then we’re alike in a lot of ways.
Mr. H and I grew up very differently. We come from different ethnic backgrounds, different socioeconomic backgrounds, and different lifestyles. Mr. Hawk was one of four children and spent most of his adolescence living out in the country (the sticks!). I was pretty darn spoiled, being an only child most of my life. Growing up I moved around quite a bit. From Arizona to Virginia to Texas to Tennessee and back to Virginia, I never really had a “hometown.”
In fact, our differences were so blatantly obvious that when Mr. H and I first started officially dating, I received a lot faux-pleasant “oh really?”s. (The Southern equivalent of “no effin’ way!”) I heard whispers (not always so quietly) from friends. None of the talk had anything to do with friends disliking one of us—I think we just really took everyone by surprise. They didn’t picture us together.
What they failed to realize at the time was that our differences is what makes us work. If Mr. H and I had grown up in the same city, had similar families, and had every interest in common, we would be SO.DARN.BORING. Our differences allow us to have interesting conversations where a lot of times we arrive at the same conclusion but have completely opposing reasons as to how we got there. We get to be exposed to new experiences (like Mr. H’s first camping trip)! And best of all we get to explore and cultivate new interests together as a couple (like our obsession with local baseball and our new-found love of wine tasting).
I wouldn’t want to lie to you and say that it is all sunshine and rainbows. There are some days when I exasperatedly wonder, “Why doesn’t he get where I’m coming from?” But we’re learning from each other, and I really believe that we’re growing into better people because of one another. I can’t imagine us any other way. (And in case you were wondering, our friends now definitely agree.)
Did you and your significant other have a lot in common right from the start?
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My SO and I are similar to you two- verrry different upbringings. I’m the country girl, with a HUGE, very close extended family where as SO is the city boy with a small number of family members he actually keeps in contact with. He is calm, collected- I’m a total spaz. I love our differences and how that makes us the couple we are
My fiance and I come from very different backgrounds, we grew up in two different countries, but somehow we’ve meshed into very similar people! The most important thing is that we have very similar core values - I think that transcends all social or economic groups.
He was always the more social, outgoing one who had the full wild high school/college experience, while I was always more quiet and reserved looking for a more serious type. I don’t think anyone would have figured we would end up together, but we complement each other very well! Who would have thought the smart girl that sits in the back of the class would end up with gorgeous Mr. Popular? He brings a lot of fun and laughter into my life while I probably ground him a bit in reality. 
When I moved to Central Virginia, I was leaving a decade of city dwelling. I had some culture shock down here, but after a while, I decided to embrace this amazing area. Mr. Mink is a Virginia native. He took me hiking (which meant I bought my first pair of hiking boots at 28 years old), brought me to farms (my only exposure to farm animals had been at the zoo), and even got me on fishing boat (his mother lives on the water down at the beach). He even encouraged me to enter some of my photography in the county fair…and I won ribbons!
Needless to say, some of my old friends couldn’t believe what I was up to down here…but my life has been even more exciting than it was when I lived in the city. I can’t imagine not being with someone whose experiences add something new and different to my life.
We are total OPPOSITES! One on hand it’s great. He has introduced me to so many things (and vice versa), but it also means we have some interesting disagreements. FI always reminds me that it’s okay if we disagree because just see things and think differently. I wouldn’t change it for anything!
I think when two people have different strengths/weaknesses it just makes the relationship stronger. I’m a cry at Friday Night Lights/loves to cook/grew up in rural Kansas extrovert and he’s a stick to the facts/make a pound of pasta/Philly introvert. For us, it was sometimes harder in the beginning because we would have stupid misunderstandings. But now, I am so thankful that we’re different. We challenge each other. I don’t think we ever have (or ever will) get bored of each other because there is still an element of mystery. *mental note: work this into the vows somehow*
Mr. P and I had a lot of things in common when we first met; our upbringings were similar and we were following the same career path, but we’ve experienced so many different things that we’re still learning from each other together.
We have almost identical backgrounds but different interests. We also have enough stuff overlapping to keep each other engaged, haha.
Foxy and I are different as night and day (except in the stubbornness department). We grew up in different settings, with different religious backgrounds, different hobbies.. I’m more free flowing and artsy while he’s factual and logical, I get anxious while he’s practical, etc ad so forth. I think those differences can really help you get to know your other half in a whole new, and deeper, light!
@MaggieL: Sounds like we are very similar!
@BonbonBunny: I agree with you that core values are key. It makes all the other differences irrelevant.
@Miss Mink: Isn’t it fun trying new things with the one you love?
@TinyTina: We definitely have our share of disagreements as well. Sometimes we come to a consensus and sometimes we just have to agree to disagree.
@Bridget: Mr. H and I definitely challenge one another and I think that’s one of the best things.
@Mrs. Pony: I’m sure your commonalities made it easy to bond with one another!
@Future Army Wife: I think having different interests is sometimes necessary!
@Miss Fox: Absolutely right!
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Miss Hawk, Richmond, VA Age and Occupation: 26, Finance Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, District Supervisor Engagement Date: March 13, 2011 Wedding Date: May 2012 Venue: The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall About Me: I’m an Arizona-born girl who has spent the majority of my life living below the Mason-Dixon line. The South has definitely earned a special place in my heart (alongside my Virginia born and bred fiance, of course!). We are planning a traditional Christian ceremony at my alma mater in historic Williamsburg, Virginia, followed by a rocking reception filled with Southern cooking and vintage/shabby chic details. When we’re not wedding planning, we enjoy spending time with our three dogs, going for runs together, watching plenty of football (or baseball depending on the season), and sampling new wine.
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