Am I Really Old Enough?

Am I Really Old Enough?

December 9th, 2011 @ 10:57 am by Miss Elk
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Ed. note - This post was originally published as Miss Porcupine, and actually belongs to Miss Elk!

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25. That’s my current age, and how old I will be at our nuptials. On paper, it looks like a pretty good age to marry. I’m a quarter of a century old, have been through college and medical school, and have been living independently. But in real life I am FREAKING out. How is it possible that I am that old, and that I am getting married (and about to be a doctor!). It feels kind of like the day I realized that I was older than all of the people on The Real World—I always thought THEY were so old and still to this day cannot believe I am that much older than them.

I guess it doesn’t help that I still like a lot of things meant for teenagers. As I’ve shared before, I have a strange love for television shows quite obviously designed to be enjoyed by high schoolers. On any given night I may be watching Pretty Little Liars, or The Secret Life of the American Teenager (I really hate that one, but can’t stop watching!). I have reread the HP series so many times that I am now starting to over-think them (I can’t read the 4^th book anymore, too many plot holes). Sometimes Mr. Elk likes to ask how old I think I am, because I clearly can’t believe I am in my mid 20s.

Anyway, my point is that while I have no doubts that I want to be married to Mr Elk and the time is right, it is totally overwhelming to realize that I am actually a grown adult capable of making such a ginormous life decision and actually feel confident that it is the correct one; especially considering I still use fake words like ginormous.

Anyone else get the “I can’t believe I’m old enough to get married” syndrome? How are you dealing with it? When you were young, how old did you think you’d be when you got married (and how old are you/will you be)?

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34 Responses to “Am I Really Old Enough?”

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elibas (message) 44 posts, Newbee

I am 26 and I love Secret Life too! Sometimes when people ask how old I am I have to think about it, I can’t believe how fast time has flown by since highschool.

12/9/11 @ 11:05 am (reply)

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Miss Unicycle (message) 292 posts, Helper bee

I feel the exact same way! Although, at 23, I think a lot of people agree with me. But yeah, I love chocolate milk and Christmas and childish clothing. And Mr. U and I colored in COLORING BOOKS after our first date. (Why am I admitting this?) And I also feel the exact same way about Secret Life. I love/hate that show sooo much (Why am I admitting THIS???)

12/9/11 @ 11:11 am (reply)

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aquawater (message) 244 posts, Helper bee

I think we have a post/author mix-up!!

However, I totally get how you feel. It just doesn’t seem right that we are old enough to do this sort of stuff! One of my co-workers was talking about how she’s married 26 years and how when she knew people who were married for 25, they seemed ancient. And she feels as if she’s not at all!

12/9/11 @ 11:11 am (reply)

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lillioness0502 (message) 12 posts, Newbee

Oh My me too!!! I feel exactly the same way… it’s like when did I grow up and why didn’t anyone tell me??

I’m 25 too, (I’ll be 26 when we get married) and well it’s kinda crazy how I feel the same way as I did when I was younger, I mean I totally view things differently now but I guess I though I’d be more… uh grown up?

I mean I’m happy to be engaged and soon to be married but wow, it like has just dawned on me.

OMG I’m going to be a wife… I’m going to have a husband!

But I guess at the same time I feel like this is truly the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, so even though it seems so overwhelming, it’s ok because (as cliché as it’s going to sound) he’s going to be with me!

sorry about the long post got kinda carried away!

12/9/11 @ 11:12 am (reply)

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aquawater (message) 244 posts, Helper bee

Mr. Elk and Miss Porcupine??

12/9/11 @ 11:12 am (reply)

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Karibgurl (message) 18 posts, Newbee

I totally understand..I’m in the exact same boat i’ll be getting married at the same age and a few months after i’ll be getting my Ph.D and every time I think about it I ask myself when did I get this old. Not to mention when someone mentions or refers to me as a wife…it sounds so not me. I know my age but I still feel 19…I constantly watch 16 candles and dirty dancing like some love sick teenager but then come to lab the next day back to being an “adult.” I guess my mind body and circumstances will finally be in synch after the wedding…right?

12/9/11 @ 11:12 am (reply)

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Miss Porcupine (message) 428 posts, Helper bee

Hehe we’re having a Freaky Friday moment here. Although I do wish I was becoming a Doctor, and that I was still 25. I feel you though Elk! I still feel like a little 16 year old girl often.

12/9/11 @ 11:15 am (reply)

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Crabbabs (message) 720 posts, Busy bee

@aquawater - looks like it… or Miss Porcupine has some explaining to do to Miss Elk about wanting to marry her man

12/9/11 @ 11:22 am (reply)

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Miss Mole (message) 985 posts, Busy bee

I still can’t believe how much older I am than the people on the Real World. Ugh. Haha.

12/9/11 @ 11:23 am (reply)

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shawndy (message) 82 posts, Worker bee

i’m right there with you girl…iv been feeling this way a lot lately….where the heck did the time go? but on the other hand i am 24 and my fi is 26 and we are literally the last ones to find a significant other…get married or have children in our group of friends …everyone keeps asking us when we are going to start a family and although we feel like wow…i’m still way young we also feel like wow, we are starting to get old and then the thoughts of being a wife, having a husband and starting a family start popping up all the time…its crazy it’s like everything has shifted from super fun silly childish things to more important things right before my eyes..like my future husband our home and the family we want to build in the future…apparently i’ve been growing up and didnt get the memo…ha ha ha glad to feel im not alone in these thoughts!

12/9/11 @ 11:29 am (reply)

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loopy_lou (message) 221 posts, Helper bee

I totally know what you mean. I am 25 now and have been married 5 years! I got engaged when I was 18 and married when I was 20. I’m a psychology graduate an dhave just had our first baby, a little boy who is now 5months old. And although one would gather from the above that I am mature for my age by making such life changing decisions so early, I am much more immature than any of my friends in other aspects. I practically live in jeans and converse, I would rather go to the movies than go out drinking, spend my spare time playing mario on my 3ds or donkey kong on the wii, and like nothing better than sitting in my jammies eating ice cream watching disney movies. I always feel the least ‘grown up’ of my friends as they spend their time and money beautifying themselves for nights out drinking cocktails, always wearing heels etc and I spend my money on computer games. But when it comes down to it, I’m the only one of us who is married, has a baby and owns her own home. I do the important things first, and then the enjoyable things second. Who cares if I have more fun playing nintendo than going to parties every night and dying of a hangover the next day? I’m a good mammy and a good wife and I feel blessed to have found such a wonderful man who loves me as I am and doesn’t want me to be like anyone else. You don’t have to be boring and old just to be spending your life with the man you love. Never change who you are, if you are sure getting married will make you happy, then go for it. I remember my high school teacher asking me when I got engaged, “but how do you know he’s the one if theres still so many men in the world you’ve yet to meet?” and I replied “Because I don’t need to meet anyone else to know they can’t make me as happy as T makes me.”

12/9/11 @ 11:32 am (reply)

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kawanaperkins (message) 2 posts, Wannabee

Yupp, I’m 24 and I’ll be 25 and a half when I marry Mr. Young. When we’re bored we go to the wally world ,and during October through December they have the seasonal ISPY books and we stand for sometimes two hours and complete a book! Sometimes I feel like I’m just hitting 17 or something!!! We go see cartoons that come out in the theaters and some of our favs are still toons!!! I feel like a kid when we’re together or apart, it’s like we found our best friend for the first time and it seems to have taken us back to yesteryear and we’ve been stuck for 4 years now!!I think it is a sign of happiness when the inner child can stay around and not complicate life!

12/9/11 @ 11:35 am (reply)

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Mrs. High Wire (message) 754 posts, Busy bee

I was/am 24 when we got married. For some reason, 24 seems young to me, but 25 doesn’t seem young at all.

My parents got married at 25, so I think that is why I feel like anything younger than that is potentially too young to be married. But obviously it didn’t stop me from getting married obviously.

I also think it really depends on your personal life. I graduated college at 21, and spent 3 years in the work force being self-sufficient and responsible before I got married.

There are 24 year olds who still live with their parents and don’t pay any of their own bill or have any other responsibilities. It just depends.

I do think there is a level of maturity required to have a successful marriage, and that can be at a variety of ages. For me, it was 24. For others, its 18. And for even others, its 30.

12/9/11 @ 11:36 am (reply)

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acingthelace (message) 555 posts, Busy bee

YES! I am always saying the same things!

12/9/11 @ 11:37 am (reply)

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Miss Elk (message) 199 posts, Blushing bee

very freak friday seeing my post with another author! haha

I’m glad I’m not the only one who still feels like a teenager. The other day I walked into an open house in Philly (500,000 dollar townhouse? sure!) just for funsies, thinking they would kick me out- they took me WAY too seriously!! I couldn’t believe they didn’t think iw as 17

12/9/11 @ 11:50 am (reply)

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caybaybay (message) 76 posts, Worker bee

I’m 23, FI is 26, and we have a tendancy to act like 10 year olds. We have so much fun together!

12/9/11 @ 12:52 pm (reply)

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k8e

DITTO TO EVERYTHING (except the doctor part - but i am 25!)

i just read this today - and yeah…um…i feel so old.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/mjs538/40-things-that-will-make-you-feel-old

12/9/11 @ 1:06 pm (reply)

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Ocean (message) 223 posts, Helper bee

You guys are KILLING ME!!! I’ll be 42 next month, and although I was just shy of my 25th birthday when I married my ex-husband, I still sometimes feel like I’m 25!! Well, it would be hard to explain my 21 year old daughter

12/9/11 @ 1:10 pm (reply)

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Christina

I’ve been reading so much Jane Austen right now that I’m having to convince myself that I’m not too old at 25 to be getting married.

Sometimes I do feel like I’m so young but most of the time I don’t even think about my age or the fact the my fiance is 30. I often forget how old we both are. Age is just a number after all, and I’ve never been that good with numbers. All I can say is that I’m ready to be this man’s wife!

12/9/11 @ 1:15 pm (reply)

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TinyTina (message) 3,312 posts, Sugar bee

Yup, I just turned 26 and it’s scary to think that I will be married in 6 months! What makes it even harder is that we’re the first in our circle of friends to tie the knot so we’re moving into unfamiliar territory. I’m not old enough to be somebody’s wife!

12/9/11 @ 1:27 pm (reply)

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