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Wedding planning is one of the greatest times in our lives. We are busy running errands with all our bridesmaids every weekend, there are champagne brunches in our honor, and non-stop fun. But what happens when your bridesmaids, your bestest friends, live more than two hours away from you? You do that shit alone. Except maybe the party thing—I haven’t thrown a party for myself in my honor… yet. 
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I’m sure a lot of us are in the same situation.
We are at that age where everyone is starting their own lives and they can’t just pick up and leave at the drop of a hat anymore. Of course I have my mom and Mr. PF to help me plan, but it’s not the same as having my closest girlfriends with me.
Have you had to deal with long distance friendships? How did you keep your long-distance friends involved in your wedding?
I know how that is! I live in Virginia and my Matron of Honor lives in Hawaii. We do a lot of talking online for planning. I’m DIY crazy so I’ll make a bunch of wedding stuff then send her pics for suggestions 
Don’t feel alone darling! I’m in the same exact boat! I have 3 bridesmaids in Des Moines (2 hours away), 1 in Mason City, (3 hours away), 1 in Burlington (2 hours), and one all the way in St. Louis, MO (4 1/2 hours). I’ve had to do almost everything by myself, as my mom also lives 3 hours away. It’s been kind of lonely, and I’m really jealous of people whose wedding party are all in the same city. But wedding planning must go on I suppose.
One of my best friends is in Japan. My MoH is 8 hours away. My other bmaid is in NYC (I’m in Miami) and another in TN! So yeah….it’s different, but they’ve been there for me anytime I need them!
I feel ya! All my bridesmaids are an hour or more away. My sister has been great and has traveled a lot to help me out. Thankfully my mom is so involved and has been my savior! I try and keep in touch through e-mails and struggle sometimes when I don’t hear from them for a while. It takes a lot of effort to keep those friendships close and strong!
All my bridesmaids are far away. I live in Quebec (soon, BC) and I have one in Newfoundland, two in Halifax, one in Manitoba, and two in Alberta. My main point of contact for planning is a facebook group I created.
I understand how that goes as well! I’m not engaged yet, but I worry about how wedding planning will go when ALL my bridesmaids/maids of honor will far away… most are two states away, but there’s a couple that are an ocean away! I worry that a) it will be hard to coordinate dresses, have a bachelorette party together, stuff like that, and b) that because of timing/distance the far-away friends won’t be able to be in my bridal party.
I’ve also been a long-distance bridesmaid/friend (some of my close friends have had traditional indian weddings without a bridal party) and I can say, it’s been difficult trying to pick a dress and coordinate when you’re in a different country, and I’ve had to miss quite a few bridal showers and bachelorette showers, which is sad.
I understand! All of my bridesmaids are far away. I’m a big fan of skyping with them to talk about wedding stuff.
Yes! My sisters (who were my MOH and a bridesmaid) were in a different country for much of my engagement, and my other bridesmaid lived in a different city. It made organising things…interesting.
Totally understand. I’m planning a wedding in my hometown which is 15 hours from where I live now. All my bridesmaids live in different states than me and one lives in Germany now! It gets really lonely sometimes, and we’ve just run into a tricky situation today with scheduling the shower/bach party. But I know that these friendships are meant to last (we’ve all been long distance for years) and I will be overwhelmed with excitement to see them all for the wedding! That’s what keeps me going in those lonely days of planning. Also, we skype/email/gchat at work frequently, and that helps! And pinterest is a fun way to get feedback on ideas.
I totally feel you on this one too. Although only one of my bridesmaids lives in a different state, 3 out of the other 4 bridesmaids that live in my state have children so it’s definitely going to be a challange to get together at a time that works for everyone. I’m only in the beginning stages of planning but have relied heavily on emails and texts. I’ll also be relying on family for help with some diy projects. Who said we can’t get a lil helping hand from people outside of the bridal party :)? At the end of the day, as hard as it might be to plan a wedding with bridemaids who are not as available because of distance or other reasons I know that I can’t imagine going up the alter without having these ladies by my side :).
I know how you feel 
I only have one bridesmaid who even lives in the same state as me. It sucks!
It does suck. My MOH lives about12 hours or so from me. And coming up in May I’ll be her MOH. We email tonnes and talk on the phone often. When we find things we like we send photos to each other. It would be better to be closer, but it is what it is, so we make th ebest of it.
i hear ya! 6 of my 7 bridesmaids live in the same town we grew up in in NH and the 7th one lives about an hour and a half away from them in MA. The problem is i moved to Los Angeles 4 years ago and ive been 3000 miles away from everyone the entire time. Luckily ive had my ladies help with scoping out venues to prescreen them to see what was worth looking at when i did eventually come home and theyll run a few errands for me here and there. Its hard because we’re getting married in NH so all of our planning is being done long distance.
I am right there with you. One of my Bridesmaids is in Japan and one other is 6 hours away. pretty crazy.
All of my bridesmaids are far away; 3 of them are HELLA busy in professional school; none of them are super-girly. I deal with it by talking to my folks, my FI, and the Bee — and by knowing that I get to plan everything essentially as a fait accompli without any of the sass that some folks get from their maids! 
This is exactly what I’m going through. My MOH is in another state, 3 of my bridesmaids live about 3 hours away, and one is just plain flakey. Luckily I have one good one who lives close by, but she works two jobs and is in full time school so doesn’t have much time to help.
I was just complaining to my DF yesterday that I have been really frustrated having to do all of this by myself without the help of my bridesmaids. He helps as much as he can… But sometimes you just need a girlfriend’s help!
All but one of my bridesmaids lives out of state (and she’s a nurse); the others are teachers, doctors, lawyers and incredibly busy in their professional lives. Scheduling anything is incredibly difficult. Skype & my wedding blog have become essential planning tools! And of course, bouncing ideas off the Bees…
Oh girl..I moved in with my FI in his hometown, 5+ hours from my hometown and where the wedding is. Two of my BM’s (including MOH) are there and I have one that’s an hour an half away. So planning a wedding from that far away and all the girls all over is a pain!
I know how all of you are feeling. I am missing the feeling that I always expected would be by having my girls around. I am in California, my MOH is in D.C. (moved there for college), and one of my bridesmaids is in Lousiana. It sucks but has been fun with my sister and one of my bridesmaids
My 2 best friends (and MOHs) live 4 hours away from me. We keep in touch through phone calls and emails, but it’s not the same. I miss having them close to me.
My mom lives 3 hours away too, so I’m mostly doing it by myself with FI poking his head in once in a while. I totally feel ya Miss P.
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Miss Petit Four, San Antonio/Isla Mujeres Age and Occupation: 25, Technology teacher Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, Math Teacher and Football Coach Engagement Date: Feb 13, 2010 Wedding Date: March 2012 Venue: Zama Beach Club, Isla Mujeres, Mexico About Me: I am a polka-dot obsessed, destination wedding diva living and loving in the great state of Texas. I am an island girl at heart and I visit the beach as often as I can. I am a wannabe DIY goddess, but that doesn’t mean I won’t give it my best shot. I love pearl earrings, the color pink, and ruffles are a part of my everyday wardrobe. My wonderful fiance and I are planning a destination wedding with our closest family and friends and we’re leaving a trail of glitter in our path!
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