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This is what has happened to my planning…
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I had heard that this was a common thing that many brides faced during the planning process, but I didn’t think it could happen to me.
I would be immune due to my type-A tendencies. I’m a list-making, post-it-crazed, self-proclaimed master of organization. Road blocks don’t happen to brides like me, right? Well hello reality check. Here I am, struggling to even write this post… I think I’d rather take a little nap… Yawn. (Hey, Miss Porcupine and Miss Fox, let’s go do something completely wedding-unrelated together!)
Unfortunately, Mr. Hawk gave me a very unwelcome reminder this morning that we are almost exactly five months out from the wedding. (In case you’re counting, about 150 days.) Half of me is excited that we’re nearing our wedding day, and the other half of me is happily ignorant with my head in the sand (Wedding? What wedding?). In fact, I told Mr. H not to bring it up again because there is too much to be done (and I’d like to enjoy my ignorant bliss for a few days longer.).
I’m a little frustrated with myself for letting this happen. My to-do checklist has gone untouched for nearly a month. Crafting and researching haven’t happened. Instead I’ve spent my time reading about everyone else’s planning on Weddingbee and have been content to see y’alls progress. I’d like to blame it on the fun of the holidays, my approaching birthday, and upcoming trip to spend time with my family, but I know that excuse can only last so much longer before I’m going to have to take some ownership of my slacking.
Help a Hawk out. How did y’all regain your motivation after hitting a road block? Have any advice to get me off my bum?
That is word for word where I am right now.
I hope to pick it back up early January. I’ve had NO help (but I didn’t ask either) and I just want to be happy for everyone else and not think or plan for myself 
I wouldn’t worry about it too much. You still have five whole months to get everything done (I planned my wedding in only 6 total…and managed to successfully DIY almost every aspect of the wedding) and it will be good to give yourself a break. That way you will be recharged and ready to take everything on with a fresh zeal.
My advice is this: set a date for yourself to start working on your list again…maybe like next Sunday. And until that day don’t think about doing anything wedding related until then. Do some un-wedding related shopping, work out, go to a movie with friends etc etc. And then set up a small task you can finish on your first day back. Being able to check something (or maybe 3-4 small things) off your list will feel good and be motivating. If your maids are in town it might be fun too to invite them over to tackle one of the bigger projects. You can crack open a bottle of wine, watch 27 dresses and have a good time getting back into the swing of things.
It may also be helpful for your first day task to prioritize your list. What needs to get done first and what do you actually WANT to work on first?
Anyways, good luck!
I haven’t hit a real road block since I’m in the early stages. Being honest a week off wedding planning must be helpful.
I am at this point too! Argh so frustrating knowing I have about 5 months left and can’t touch a single project without wanting to puke. Oh well, I’m sure I’ll get remotivated eventually….
We just hit the 6 month mark the other day and I realized just how much is left to do; I almost puked! But I’m lacking the motivation…I can totally relate to your post.
I’m a little guilty of being on the Bee during free time when I really should be doing some planning/crafting! I don’t have it all figured out, but I did take some extra time off around Christmas with the intent of getting some projects done!
just relax for a bit. oh, and tell mr hawk to either STFU or feel free to help out. lol
My reality check came this morning, logged into theknot only to see our wedding is exactly 100 days away……WHAT??? Oi vey!
@Miss Ke Aloha: I’m glad I’m not alone!
@lisaelanna: Great advice! Thank you.
@Coffee cup: You’re right. Taking a little time can be a great refresher.
@Miss Elk: I’m awaiting some magical motivation…
@browner3: Oh, I feel you. It’s nauseating to think of all the things to be done.
@Miss Mink: I’m going to try to do some planning/crafting around Christmas as well!
@cardus: Haha, I will! 
Wow, this hasn’t happened to me yet. With only a seven month engagement, I’m not sure if I’ll find the time to hit a road block either. If I’m not at work, in an AA meeting, working with my sponsor or sponsee, I’m wedding planning. Sometimes I’m doing planning even when I shouldn’t be. I’m looking at this way, I have to get as much done as possible now, come spring my time will be dedicated to vamping up a garden. The advice from other bee’s will be helpful in the future though, if and when my planning comes to a haulting stop.
@Jenny: 100 days? Eeek!
@knvprincess143: Sounds like are a super-busy lady. Hopefully you will never have to deal with it!
When I hit a block, I found it helpful to take a break. Don’t look at wedding blogs or think about the wedding for several days. After that, I was missing the wedding planning and ready to get back into it.
Also, take stuff off your list. Are there DIY projects you could just as easily have someone else do, buy instead, or just not do altogether? Do you really need those bride/groom chair signs, specialty card box, or custom ring bearer pillow? Nope. Delete them from your to-do list and budget. Crossing things off my list motivated me to tackle the bigger stuff.
I’ve hit a bit of a roadblock too! I am going the route of blaming it on the holidays (and my new job), and plan to get back into swing after the new year. We are about 5 months out too - I think this is a natural downtime since lots of the big things are already booked, but there isn’t any time crunch for the little details. Enjoy a little break before diving back in!
Awww can you and Miss Fox please live closer so we can sit on a couch drinking wine talking about the things we actually should be doing, hahaha. I am attempting to do SOMETHING productive for the wedding this weekend. MUST!! Ugh, who am I kidding- I’ll probably end up sleeping in and procrastinating over my laundry. We’ll get there!! BAH.
Totally a normal thing! Just pick one thing (Just one) on your list, and get ‘er done!
I hit a roadblock a little while ago. I embraced it and then suddenly a few weeks later I was in wedding mode all over again. It’ll pass!
We got engaged a month ago and we doing the wedding in April. It doesn’t leave a lot of time for procrastinating, but I figured 5 months seemed like about the amount of time I want to spend thinking about a wedding. The way I see it, whatever doesn’t get done in that time didn’t really need to get done.
I think it happens to everyone, because I’m a type A as well, and LOVED planning (so much that I want to start a business!) but I certainly hit a slump in my own wedding planning. I got over it though. I’d say don’t try to force it - you probably need a week or so of not thinking about wedding stuff. And really, 5 months out, a week or two off isn’t going to hurt you.
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Miss Hawk, Richmond, VA Age and Occupation: 26, Finance Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, District Supervisor Engagement Date: March 13, 2011 Wedding Date: May 2012 Venue: The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall About Me: I’m an Arizona-born girl who has spent the majority of my life living below the Mason-Dixon line. The South has definitely earned a special place in my heart (alongside my Virginia born and bred fiance, of course!). We are planning a traditional Christian ceremony at my alma mater in historic Williamsburg, Virginia, followed by a rocking reception filled with Southern cooking and vintage/shabby chic details. When we’re not wedding planning, we enjoy spending time with our three dogs, going for runs together, watching plenty of football (or baseball depending on the season), and sampling new wine.
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