Who Notices the Little Details?

Early on in our planning process, I told myself that some of the little details about our wedding would only be noticed by me and a handful of others. I was convinced that most people just see “wedding” at a wedding and don’t really notice the details. I was okay with that. It also gave me freedom to ignore a few things that I could see myself making really complicated. Mr. Mink actually changed my mind about one of those things a few weeks ago.

Last month, we went to the wedding of a colleague at a local vineyard. It was a beautiful day. It was my first time attending a wedding since starting to plan my own, which is an interesting experience. On our way home that night, Mr. Mink commented on the napkins. He thought it was nice that the bride brought in napkins in one of the wedding colors. We had been planning on using the very nice, standard linens at our venue, but Mr. Mink suggested we look into getting napkins in one of our colors. That seemed simple enough.

This is where things get kind of interesting.

Remember the dresses I picked out for my bridesmaids? J. Crew discontinued the color and fabric combination I wanted before I could track down a dress for one of my bridesmaids. Before I bought her dress on ebay, I prowled multiple websites for “Matisse Blue” J. Crew dress listings and I found a listing on Craigslist for napkins. The seller had bought napkins specifically to match her bridesmaids’ dresses, which were the same color as mine. There was no way things could be this easy. I emailed the seller…and never heard back.

But that seller had named the company that made the napkins, so I went to their website and ordered samples that might match.


Napkin color swatches / Photo by Miss Mink

Amazingly, one of the samples was almost a perfect match. I was a little shocked. I didn’t think finding these would be so easy.


A perfect match! / Photo by Miss Mink

I’ve been on the verge of hitting the “confirm” button on an order from the linen company’s website a few times. I can’t decide if this is a good purchase. I was convinced that people didn’t notice little details like napkins in your colors, but Mr. Mink noticed those napkins at the wedding we went to last month. This isn’t a huge purchase, but I’m wondering if it’s worth it.


Standard table settings at our venue / Photo by Miss Mink

What do you think? Will adding a little color to the tables, beyond the flowers, look nice or do you think they’re such a tiny element that they won’t make much of an difference in the room where we’ll be having our reception?


Our reception room / Photo by Miss Mink

Before you became a bride, did you notice the little details at weddings?


Mrs. Mink

Charlottesville, Virginia
Wedding Date:
June 2012
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    phoenixandstars 565 posts, Busy bee @ 11:07 am

    Do it! I think it’s so fun that you were able to match it up almost perfect and what a pop it will give to the table scheme.

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    FootballGirl 54 posts, Worker bee @ 11:34 am

    I think it is beautiful to do. If you are hesitant to put out the money, only to have the napkins left with you after, consider finding someone who might have a match colour for rental. Or order cocktail napkins that are personalized to keep at the bar and cake/dessert table (one option is http://www.weddingstar.com). Good Luck

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    Succulent 6 posts, Newbee @ 11:37 am

    I say go with the Napkins! It’s such a small cost, and you can always resell them.

    For my wedding, our venue is already pretty decorated. There isn’t much I can do that wouldn’t clash or make the place too “busy”. Because of this, I am focused on making the tables stand out as our own. All the guests hang out around the tables, and the tables will be in so many of the candid photo shots. Therefore, I’ve made it a priority that they look great. For you, I think having the napkins are a inexpensive way of adding some color and making the tables your own.

    We’re actually doing the opposite. The venue has standard white or black napkins and white tablecloths. I haven’t finalized anything because I am still picking my dress, but my plan is to swap all the table cloths for a color, probably carnation pink, and keep the napkins black to give some contrast and balance. This will also match nicely because I want to put my bridesmaids in black. Further, Mr. Succulent likes this idea because he wants one of our colors to be a strong base, like grey or black.

    Good luck. Can’t believe you matched your bridesmaid dresses so easily. I hope you find that last dress you need.

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    mink 2178 posts, Buzzing bee @ 11:39 am

    @FootballGirl: It’s not about the money. It’s about consumption for me.

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    daybyday 2637 posts, Sugar bee @ 11:44 am

    I know that I personally wouldn’t notice or care.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 12:43 pm

    I totally became obsessed with napkins before our wedding. I really wanted them to be in our wedding colors, but I don’t think anyone (myself included) really noticed them the day of. Oh well.

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    MrsElopement 3033 posts, Sugar bee @ 12:45 pm

    I think the thing is if it’s not there no one will notice, but if it is people will notice and think it’s a nice touch.

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    kettle 926 posts, Busy bee @ 6:16 pm

    It’s the little details tat really make the day special for you. If it’s in your budget and he wants it, go for it!
    Be thankful for those moments where he truly has an opinion about a wedding detail.

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    Caizn 734 posts, Busy bee @ 7:44 pm

    Do it! You can always use them for holiday parties and get togethers! I know I would definitely notice them!

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    msfox 1635 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:14 am

    Pre-engagement, I think I loved all the little details but never really *noticed* them too much, but now? I love looking at literally everything!! As for the napkins, I think you should go for it – if it’s in the budget and not too much hassle, what’s the harm? Plus, it’s a gorgeous shade of blue that you can definitely either resell or use again!

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    TinyTina 3312 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:42 am

    Honestly, I never notice a damn thing at weddings. But the fact that your FI noticed/wants them at the wedding and that perfect match you found?? I think you need to go for it!

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    kimberlee10 206 posts, Helper bee @ 4:43 pm

    What about cocktail napkins? Or making napkin rings or bands in the right color? I think the matching is nice, but you have to decide what you want to spend money on.

    PartyCity sells megapacks of lime green napkins that are the perfect shade for our wedding. Everything else at the venue is black and white.

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    dragonlover 578 posts, Busy bee @ 11:57 am

    I’ve only been to two weddings in recent years, and I have to say I remember very few of the details from either.

    One I was a bridesmaid, and besides feeling more concerned the bride was enjoying herself.

    The other one.. The food was great. FH and I thought the whole spectable of watching waters pour the Champagne was overdone, too long.. and the dramatic floor lighting too much for us although beautiful. We noticed the able name, because it was cute. We remember the music being too loud for us two non-clubbers.

    Otherwise? Both were beautiful and fun. Details not so much.

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 3:48 pm

    I think that shade of blue would be a nice accent color against all the white. And if you’re going to do accent colors, might as well have it perfectly match something else. I think it might stand out if the colors didn’t match.

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    MrsKeAloha 1044 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:28 pm

    I’m with Miss Eagle -I always watched the couple, I love to see how they interacted and smiled with guests and each other. I noticed details but didn’t pay much attention. And for this reason I don’t plan to get too stressed over things. Although Napkins and Linens have been my “Crazy undecided” factor Still and Again! Oh the dreaded linens.

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