Choosing Our “Nontraditional” Bridal Party

Besides the whole “who gets the ring?” question, a lot of people have been interested in who our bridal party will be and what the people in it will be called. We had a very well-meaning vendor ask us if we’d be having “groomsmen.” Not quite.

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Since we’re going to be having a smaller wedding, we didn’t want to have a humongous bridal party. I think its lovely when a couple has so many close friends and relatives that they love so much, that they end up with a huge bridal party. But, we wanted to deliberately keep it small because of our smaller sized guest list and because we wanted to keep the pre-wedding fuss (showers, bachelorettes, dress shopping, etc.) to a minimum.

As you all saw in my DIY letterpress post, we’re having “bridesmen.” In fact, each of us is having one bridesman and one bridesmaid. We had originally wanted to call them “Wedding VIPs,” but whenever we would talk about them using this term, family and friends just weren’t getting it. So we’ve been using our bridesmaid/bridesman titles pretty consistently and it seems like everyone (even my 85-year-old grandma!) gets it, so far. Our bridal party is pretty “nontraditional,” but so are we. We haven’t gotten any negative comments about each choosing one male attendant, but I can sense that a few of our family members and friends don’t quite understand it.

Now for our bridal-party introductions.

Miss Eagle’s Bridesman of Honor: Teigan

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We met in our 10th-grade Catholic religion class (oh, the irony…), and we’ve been friends ever since. Throughout the years, I’ve done most of my growing up with Teigan. I couldn’t picture him NOT standing beside me at our wedding (and plus, he listens to all of my crazy wedding ideas and is actually interested in the details…he’s definitely earned this position!).

Miss Eagle’s Bridesmaid: Christiana

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Christiana and I met in University when we were both studying biomedical sciences. Even though our program was killer hard and more people dropped out than graduated: we both made it! And we both now hold a degree that can get us a job…nowhere (unless you count graduate school)! Chrissy has seen me make more mistakes than I can count (or remember…) and has always been an amazing and supportive friend.

Fiancee Eagle’s Bridesmaid of Honor: Jessica

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Jessica is Fiancee Eagle’s cousin. They are a year apart in age and grew up together, on “the farm.” Jessica just got married herself this past summer to her wonderful husband Tanner. She couldn’t have imagined asking anyone else but her “first friend” Jessica to stand up with her.

Fiancee Eagle’s Bridesman: Matthew

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Matthew and Fiancee Eagle have so much in common, it is seriously scary. They both are die-hard Star Trek fans and love writing fan-fiction stories. They have known each other for years and have an amazing brother-sister type relationship that is so special to her. He even named his daughter after her!

Did you have a nontraditional bridal party, too? How did your friends and family react?


Mrs. Eagle

Calgary, Alberta, Canada
Wedding Date:
August 2012

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    southernblonde 1 posts, Wannabee @ 1:41 pm

    I’m so glad you posted this! I’m having a non-traditional bridal party but am a very traditional bride/groom. My side of the bridal party will consist of one female MOH and 3 male “bridemen”. His side will be all male as well.

    I have to rely on these guys for everything since my one lone girl-friend lives in another state. They can’t wait to go dress shopping though. My mother is great with it as she loves my friends, I’m sure our wedding guests will think it’s odd but I don’t care. I do love when people find out that I have 3 men in my bridal party and they ask me if they are going to wear dresses? Um no, they don’t wear dresses in everyday life why would they for a wedding? LOL

    Congrats on your engagement and up-coming wedding. I’m totally for equality and everyone marrying who they love!

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    wifegoodman 3680 posts, Sugar bee @ 1:52 pm

    This isn’t really related but i got your christmas card! Yay :) (were going smaller bridal party too!)

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    Mrs. Doe 639 posts, Busy bee @ 3:45 pm

    I like it! I love that you are doing things your way! What wonderful people you have in your life :)

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    Mrs. Doily 1718 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:29 pm

    We have a very traditional set up as far as our party, but I was the best (wo)man in my brother’s wedding. My family loved it! I think it’s about the people that are the most special to you, not about traditions. That’s just the way it fell for me, but if it hadn’t, I definitely would have had a bridesman!

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    TinyTina 3312 posts, Sugar bee @ 5:50 pm

    We have a pretty traditional line up (girls on side, boys on the other), but it’s terrible uneven with 6 girls (2 MOHs) and 2 guys. Eep! That’s okay, we love them all and we know it’ll work out someway or another.

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    TinyTina 3312 posts, Sugar bee @ 5:51 pm

    Wow so many errors in that post!

    *girls on one side
    *terribly uneven

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    totheislnds 7804 posts, Bumble Beekeeper @ 6:13 am

    i love your non-traditional bridal party! oh catholic school…those were the days..right? haha. I clicked on the photo of jessica because i HAD to see her wedding after seeing that picture and to my surprise her photographer featured you on her blog yesterday! thats awesome!
    p.s. i love the name of your blog :)

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    Jessica, Guest @ 9:37 am

    Hey, that’s me! :)
    So excited to be a part of your wedding. And I also embraced the non-traditional bridal party. I couldn’t imagine getting married without two of my best guy friends standing up with me.

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    Mrs. Eagle 2166 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:56 am

    @totheislnds: Hahha I’m glad I wasnt the only one forced to attend Catholic school. I think Teigan and I bonded because we were the only gays in the class.

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    Mrs. Eagle 2166 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:57 am

    @Jessica: I loved your bridal party boys! I see that Lori told you that I used her picture!

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    Mrs. Kettle 926 posts, Busy bee @ 7:29 pm

    Goodness, we have a lot in common. I mean, my wedding party is huge, but we have both sexes on both sides. I’ve got a maid of honor, best man, bridesmaids, and bridesmen. Mr. Kettle has a maid of honor, best man, and groomsmen. I can’t wait to see what your people are wearing!

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    dazydeadpetals 113 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:22 pm

    My fiance and I are each having 4 traditional bridesmaids/groomsmen, and we are also having a bridesman and a groomswoman walking together. My fiance and the groomswoman have been best friends since they were young and my bridesman is one of my favorite people ever. It wouldn’t be the same without them. The groomswoman will be wearing the same dress as the bridesmaids except in black (to match the tuxes) and the bridesman is wearing a lavender tux to match the bridesmaids (he is super excited about his purple tux lol).

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