Choosing our wedding party was a really easy decision for us. We both have one same-sex younger sibling and have decided to only have them standing next to us on our wedding day. Although we love our friends, our siblings are closest to us and have had the most opportunity to share with us as a couple. FBIL Boa will be his best man while Lil Boa will be my maid of honor.
This decision left me yearning for color-coordinated bridal-party pictures and the awesome wedding-party jumping photos I would miss out on.
Image via Mrs. Hyena on Weddingbee / Photo Danny Boy Photography
Based on my desire for these kinds of pictures and wanting to include our guests (which are 90% close family) more, we decided to do something a little unconventional. We will implement a wacky dress code; all guests will be asked to wear our wedding colors, shades of purple, green, and gray.
Some people might be against it; some people might not follow it. But in the end it will make for wonderful pictures. We will not be strictly enforcing it or being inflexible (people will not be kicked out or denied entrance); we just think having all our guests wear the same colors will make for wonderful pictures. It will probably make everyone feel more a part of the wedding, since it will look as if they are all part of the bridal party. To date, all the guests we have notified LOVE the idea; they think it’s different and fun and makes it easier for them to pick what to wear, so hopefully no problems will arise in the future.
Photo via Mrs. Socks on Weddingbee / Photo by Georgi Anastasov
I’m giddy thinking about all the wonderful pictures we will have with our 90+ wedding guests all color coordinated!
How would you respond as a guest if a bride requested you to wear certain colors?
I’d probably be more or less okay with that request, assuming it was made in a friendly/reasonable way (e.g. – “we think it would be fun for the pictures if everyone is wearing wedding colors!” vs. “we’re asking everyone to please wear our wedding colors, thanks”)
Miss Boa! We are totes wedding siblings, both doing morning weddings and both having only one person stand up with us each and both have purple/gray colors. Of course you’re in the tropics and I’m in the PNW, and you’re having siblings and we’re having friends, but still! I can’t wait to see what other ways our tastes collide.
I think I would do it. It’s fun and different, as long as she didn’t want me to buy some obscure article of clothing.
I think it is a super fun idea. I’d totally participate as a guest!
I have to be honest. I would be INCREDIBLY put off. Your guests are not yours to dress. They are already attending your wedding, purchasing a gift, perhaps even travelling or attending showers. They do not need to add the expense/hassle of finding something to wear in your color palette. Additionally, it could make people feel uncomfortable who did not wear the “correct” colors. Your job as a host is to make everyone feel comfortable and welcome. There are plenty of other “cute” pics to take that would not inconvenience your guests who so graciously are attending your wedding.
That’s a great idea! Especially seeing as your colours are purple, green and grey. Most people would have clothing in those colours or at least be able to bust out their LBD and dress it up with purple or green accessories.
I can’t wait to see your photos now! Hurry up Boa wedding! 
I can’t decide how I’d feel. It would be nice to have an idea to know what to wear, but at the same time, I’d rather just choose on my own.
I do think that it’ll make for cute pictures though, and I’d probably go along with it 
I think that’s a great idea!! I hope everyone decides to sport your colors!
I’m glad you’ll think it’s a good idea. Though I loved the concept, I was a little worried what people’s response was going to be. Thankfully until now all the guests are on board and thinks is a very unique and fun idea. They are really excited and so am I!
@Lexy: I can tell you will be having an awesome wedding. Glad to find someone that shares my tastes.
@jen625: I put great thought into who I was inviting to the wedding; hence the reason the guest list is more than 80% family. These are not people that I have to impress or entertain (Most of them have even changed my diaper). They all love me for me (kooky wedding dress code included) and are willing to go to great lengths to make me happy even if it means buying a purple dress. I have been extremely blessed with a very loving and supporting extended family who loves to spoils me rotten
@Tickles: Yes, hurry up! I feel like time is so slowwwww… I can’t wait till the big day
I always wonder how those people can jump so high. I imagine that if someone were to snap a picture of me jumping it would NOT be that far off the ground. Sorry I know off-topic but I had to bring that up.
On the other – your wedding – your way. You’re having mostly family anyways. If someone doesn’t comply – so what. We thought we would get upset because my husband’s brother came in shorts to our wedding (it was a backyard, family only thing). On that day, however, it just didn’t matter. The day was about us and that was all that mattered. Now when we look at the pictures we just laugh – his brother in shorts and our 2 year old has his finger up his nose in every single group photo. ahhhh memories.
I love the idea! It’s not like you are asking them to dress head to toe in your wedding colors, just to try and incorporate them in their dress attire. Can’t wait to see how your pictures turn out!
I just think that even family should be treated like treasured guests. Of course your family wouldn’t tell you that your idea is a bit too much…I wouldn’t tell the bride- to-be that her request was ridiculous either ( I would just secretly think it and go purchase an outfit I’d never wear again because I don’t look good in your color palette.) Sorry if that is a bit blunt, but I’m glad that your family is being so kind. I hope you get exactly the picture you’re hoping for.
I am also going to be blunt and say that I wouldn’t like it. I would do it, but I wouldn’t like it. I get your idea, and I see how it would totally work for you, but I just dont like being told what to wear. I can take being told what formality of dress, but not colors. I’m a rebel though… 
Mrs. Boa Constrictor, Isabela, Puerto Rico Age and Occupation: 22, Undergraduate Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 23, Soon-to-be Civil Engineer Engagement Date: May 19, 2011 Wedding Date: May 2012 Venue: El Faro Convention Center About Me: I’m a Caribbean gal, born and bred on the beautiful island of Puerto Rico, finishing her last year as an undergrad. I describe myself as a “closet nerd” as I secretly enjoy reading research papers, playing video games, and geeking out on Lord of the Rings movie marathons. I will marry my college sweetheart, a soon-to-be civil engineer, who loves Legos and old-school Puerto Rican cooking. This is sure to be a fast-paced year with our wedding, honeymoon, college graduation, new jobs, and a cross-country move all within less than 30 days of each other!
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