A Friendly, Open Letter to Our Guests

A Friendly, Open Letter to Our Guests

January 13th, 2012 @ 3:28 pm by Mrs. Mole
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Dear Guests,

Mr. Mole and I are so excited about our upcoming wedding! It’s coming up pretty quickly now. We are also excited about the possibility of celebrating it with you. We really hope that you will be able to make it to our event. So, please, let us know if you can by sending in your RSVP.

I know that we probably made a mistake in having our celebration in Milwaukee the day before the Super Bowl - especially considering the fact that the Green Bay Packers are still in the playoffs. (GO PACK GO!) I imagine that some of you are thinking about attending the big game in person or, at the very least, going to a party where you can watch it on a huge television while eating nachos and seven-layer dip. However, I know that many of you don’t care about football at all. You don’t even care about the Packers. So, please, you guys, send in your RSVP.

You could probably send it in today! If you look at the upper right-hand side of the postcard, you will see that there’s already a 29 cent stamp there. You can just drop it in one of the blue USPS boxes on the street or leave it in your mailbox for the mailman! I just mailed a letter today, and I found it was a pretty fulfilling task.

And, not to scare you or anything, but USPS is raising stamp prices on the 22nd, meaning that you will have to add more postage to the card after that date! You will save money by acting sooner. So, please, send in your RSVPs. Pretty please.

Don’t worry about hurting our feelings if you can’t come! Obviously we really want you to come; that’s why we sent you an invitation. But seeing an RSVP marked “no” in our box won’t send us spinning into a deep depression. In fact, we will be happy knowing definitively that our invitation made it to you in the first place. So, please, send in your RSVP. Please, please, please.

I want to make sure that you are sitting with a group of people that you love (or, minimally, tolerate). I am just starting to think about the seating chart now, so an early RSVP gives you a better chance of sitting next to your friends and family! If you wait to long to send in the card, I might have to put you at a table with all of the other late-RSVPs in a completely random fashion. So, please, send in your RSVP. Pretty, pretty please.

Again, we hope to see you - and your RSVP cards - soon!

Love,

Mr. and Miss Mole

Obviously this letter is a joke, and I won’t be sending it to anyone who has yet to RSVP. I imagine, though, that many other brides have drafted a similar letter in their heads, particularly once their original RSVP date has passed. Which ours now has.

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This photo roughly illustrates our feelings about our missing RSVPs

How did you find the RSVP process? Did you have to track anyone down who didn’t send in a card?

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32 Responses to “A Friendly, Open Letter to Our Guests”

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hisbahamamama (message) 595 posts, Busy bee

lol at that picture…I heart the Moles!

1/13/12 @ 3:33 pm (reply)

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Miss Mole (message) 988 posts, Busy bee

@hisbahamamama: Haha thanks.

And before anyone sees it and mocks my status as a former English major: If you wait TOO long. Whoops.

1/13/12 @ 3:44 pm (reply)

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Debby

I ended up having a “Blowout” with a couple of my friends who decided not to respond until like a month after the rsvp date.
Emily Post is truely dead!

1/13/12 @ 4:14 pm (reply)

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frugalfiance (message) 209 posts, Helper bee

Haha I totally thought this was a real letter until I got to the end, and thought “what a great (if not forward) idea!!”

And I thought “i can’t believe she took the time to hand address a round of letters to all of her guests!”

1/13/12 @ 4:20 pm (reply)

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StephK527 (message) 65 posts, Worker bee

I don’t even think that letter is that rude! I would 100% send it to certain guests who might need the extra reminder. . . I would also be going absolutely berserk if my RSVP date passed and I had people who still hadn’t responded. Eeeepies. Good luck!

1/13/12 @ 5:02 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Pony (message) 4,176 posts, Honey bee

Hahaha, that picture is wonderful! And I agree with your letter 110%, it’s not that hard of a task, why can’t guests just get on it already? Sending lots of good RSVP vibes your way.

1/13/12 @ 5:07 pm (reply)

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Mis Iris (message) 120 posts, Blushing bee

i love your letter it made me smile on a bad day!

1/13/12 @ 5:25 pm (reply)

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Magzie (message) 22 posts, Newbee

LOL, I feel your pain, our wedding in few weeks..RSVP 5 Dec….I still get a random message to confirm but am still awaiting a handfull- including my sister!!!???

1/13/12 @ 6:51 pm (reply)

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Miss Ke Aloha (message) 479 posts, Helper bee

Haha… I know I will be feeling the same way.
My mother did not approve but I am having a coordinator call the no replies to confirm.

1/13/12 @ 8:39 pm (reply)

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joy2011 (message) 3,126 posts, Sugar bee

oh yes, don’t we all wish that we could have sent such a letter… (I definitely thought VERY seriously about some quite passive-aggressive facebook status updates…in which only the offending people could see! luckily, my better judgement prevailed…)

1/13/12 @ 8:53 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Parasol (message) 2,142 posts, Buzzing bee

I think every bride writes a letter like this at some point in the wedding planning process. What is it about RSVPing on time that is so difficult? BTW, I totally love that you added a grammar edit in your comment. English majors for the win!

1/13/12 @ 9:14 pm (reply)

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colli459 (message) 522 posts, Busy bee

Admittedly, I had been on the other end as a bad guest that didn’t rsvp…. The bride sent me a fb message (because we’re friends like that…) to say hey, you still haven’t done this. Can you move your butt already. I said I was sorry and that I couldn’t make it due to school constraints. Sorry you have to deal with this with so little time to go. (Go PACK!!)

1/14/12 @ 6:54 am (reply)

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fayrhiannon (message) 80 posts, Worker bee

I might have to copy and paste this for future use lol, not even sent out my invites but already I fear the lack of RSVPs

1/14/12 @ 7:04 am (reply)

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RoxanneV (message) 228 posts, Helper bee

I am sending invitations and if they come, great! If they don’t, one less dinner I have to pay for!
My restaurant is billing for only the dinners, I don’t have to rent!

1/14/12 @ 8:13 am (reply)

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cglaubitz (message) 52 posts, Worker bee

So many things I was terrible at before I started planning my own wedding… including sending the RSVP in on time. Don’t know how that little bugger kept getting put somewhere else besides the mailbox. After planning my own wedding, that won’t ever happen again!

1/14/12 @ 8:31 am (reply)

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Miss Mole (message) 988 posts, Busy bee

@Debby: Oh no, I hope you resolved the issue!
@frugalfiance: Haha, there’s no time for that now. Plus, most of the non-RSVPs are from my parents’ friends.
@StephK527: Thank you! We will wait until next Wednesday before we start messaging people directly.
@Mrs. Pony: Thanks! I have to admit that this was something I never thought about until we planned our own wedding.
@Mis Iris: Aww, thanks! Hope today is better!
@Magzie: Haha. Mr. Mole’s sister never sent in her card either, but she told us over the phone. She has an excuse: a 6 month baby.
@Miss Ke Aloha: Interesting idea!
@joy2011: Haha I have thought about the Facebook status too…but I think most of our missing RSVPs are from people who don’t have accounts anyway!
@Mrs. Parasol: Haha. I hate when I make mistakes and don’t catch them until it’s too late, especially on to/too.

1/14/12 @ 10:34 am (reply)

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Miss Mole (message) 988 posts, Busy bee

@colli459: I was totally the guest who waited until the last minute to RSVP! I won’t be doing that again!
@fayrhiannon: Hopefully you won’t have to even think about sending this type of letter! Good luck with your RSVP count!
@RoxanneV: That’s what I love about restaurant receptions! We don’t need to give our venue a head-count, but we need to give them a seating chart!
@cglaubitz: I TOTALLY agree with you. I figure that planning my wedding is going to make me such a better, more considerate guest at other people’s weddings!

1/14/12 @ 10:37 am (reply)

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NYCcaliBRIDE (message) 344 posts, Helper bee

My favorite line: “I just mailed a letter today, and I found it was a pretty fulfilling task.” lol love it! And thanks for the reminder that stamp prices are going up!

1/14/12 @ 11:15 am (reply)

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Mrs.Argentina (message) 4,406 posts, Honey bee

I almost thought this letter was legit…I was like ohh no Miss.Mole has gone bridezilla crazy!

LOL . I never bothered people who never RSVP’d. I figure an adult who is coming to my wedding, will let me know in some way shape, or form ( smoke signal, morse code, gmail, fb etc etc) if sending back the pre-stamped envelope is too much.

The people who don’t make any contact, won’t attend , so don’t fret over then in your charts or counts!

1/14/12 @ 1:42 pm (reply)

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