Might as well get right to the point!
This weekend, Bossyboots and I had our Pre Cana, which is one of the requirements the Catholic Church places on people who are planning to wed. Our day started off in the usual way (of course!).
Our church’s Pre Cana is held in the rectory, and when we entered, what did my eyes spy but these…
Do these people not realize that there are a herd of brides starving to fit in their dresses coming to Pre Cana?
Apparently, yes they did. And those donut holes were on. purpose.
I ate the daylights out of those donuts. Actually, the whole day was full of unhealthy food…sodas, donuts, coffee, brisket sandwiches. I actually had a sugar headache by the end of the day, but whatever. Worth it.
We enjoyed Pre Cana. Maybe because we live in a major city, our church is much less conservative than some. I’m not naming the church because I don’t want to get them in trouble, but they were very “with it.” By this I mean that they didn’t act like their classroom full of 30-year-olds were all virgins. They didn’t act like birth control is the devil. They treated us like we had brains of our own. Etc and so forth. So I appreciated that. They gave the official Church position, but they didn’t ignore the way that most people live, or that any of it was wrong. They treated us like adults with our own educated opinions, so that was a big A+ from me.
The day was full of interactive exercises, where we discussed solutions for potential relationship challenges with other engaged couples… finances, children, careers, sex, conflict resolution, kindness, etc. I found it incredibly helpful. I also enjoyed our group of people. Everyone was smart, friendly, and took the day seriously while still being fun. By the end of the day, Bossyboots and I were ready to go home (we were both fighting major colds), but we got a lot out of the class. Our instructors were really great, and we learned a lot.
The class finished with a final exercise where we each broke off into corners of the rectory and wrote a love letter to our spouse. We left this letter with the rectory staff, and each letter is mailed on our 1-year wedding anniversary. Is this something that happens in every Pre Cana class? I must admit…I teared up while writing mine. Hopefully, Future Bossyboots likes it when he receives his next year!
Did you write a love letter in your Pre Cana class? Or is that unusual?