Not about Bossyboots! I am dramatic, but not that dramatic.
My fiance and I have been wedding planning for about a year now. In Wedding World, there is a major emphasis on making choices based on how your photos will look. “If you do XX, it’ll look great in photos.” “Choose XX color, it’ll look great in photos.” “That just won’t photograph well; don’t do it.”
Bossyboots works in lighting, I work in media—we care about what things look like. We have educated opinions. However… making choices about an incredibly important day based on what looks good in photos feels no bueno to me. Many of our wedding choices WILL look great in photos, but I don’t want to make a wedding choice purely because it’ll photograph well. For example, I already tried a makeup look that was geared towards photos, and it made me feel like a cakeface. This look suits me much better.
For a long time, I definitely was in the “do-things-for-photos” camp. Well, (Bossyboots, cover your ears) I was wrong. This is our wedding. We love each other—that’s what this is about.
When I think about the intention for our wedding, it’s not to create a magazine article. We’re not having a wedding in order to create a fashion show. We’re having a wedding because some things in life are worth celebrating.
This is our Wedding Intention:
My makeup isn’t geared towards photographs. We aren’t doing a First Look. We chose flowers that are beautiful and make us feel good. We geared our budget to food that will make our guests happy. We chose a photographer who is a spectacular photojournalist.
On the flip side… my wedding shoes WILL look pretty fun in photographs.
I guess what I’m getting to is… many people tell us brides and grooms to make wedding choices based on the exterior or superficial factors. Bossyboots and I will definitely have a gorgeous set of photos by which to remember our day—but it will be a legit day, not faked in any way. Life isn’t a magazine, it’s a series of special moments, and I don’t want to sacrifice something special so that I could “get THAT photo.”
Are you struggling with making these sorts of decisions? How are you handling it?