Bridesmaids and Their Duties

Bridesmaids and Their Duties

February 26th, 2012 @ 12:15 pm by Miss Woodpecker
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Recently I’ve been on the search for cute bridesmaids’ dresses. I was going to tell you guys about it, but then I realized I haven’t even told you about these lovely ladies yet and their part in our wedding. I present to you the Woodpecker bridesmaids (P.S. - I really need a better nickname for myself/Mr. WP. )

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Choosing my bridal part was THE easiest part of wedding planning for me. From left to right, that’s Little Sis WP, Middle Sis WP, best friend Sam, and Future sister in law WP. A perfect little group! Originally, I wasn’t going to have a Maid of Honor because I didn’t want to choose between this fabulous group, but naturally, since Little Sis WP and I see each other so much, she became my right hand girl in wedding planning goodness and fell into the role. Plus, we decided that with 3 sisters, it will be easy for all of us to rotate MOH duties with each other.

I’ve never been a bridesmaid before, and neither have most of my bridesmaids, so this situation is very new to me. I checked out the Weddingbee wiki on bridesmaids, which led me to this comprehensive list by the Knot on bridesmaid duties.

I’d never sat down to think about it, but there’s a lot that goes into being a bridesmaid! I’ve heard horror stories from friends on times they had to be bridesmaids and crazy things that happened. Personally, I feel so awkward telling my bridesmaids they have to do/buy lots of things. In fact, I feel kind of weird asking for things at all! Recently, I felt terrible asking one of my girls to join me two days in a row dress shopping. I also wish we could pay for all of their dresses/hair/shoes, but unfortunately it’s not in our budget.

I’d say my most important wishes/expectations of my bridesmaids are to celebrate with me the day of the wedding, hit the dance floor on wedding day to get the party going, and at least try to calm me down when I inevitably freak out that I forgot something an hour before the wedding.

What about you guys? What are your expectations of your bridesmaids? Do you have any? Am I the only one that feels guilty about the process/planning?

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13 Responses to “Bridesmaids and Their Duties”

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wedmewedmenot (message) 14 posts, Newbee

Whoa! Some stunning genes in your gene-pool!
Congrats on being so close with your sisters and also with your sister-in-law-to-be…

I feel a little sad when I hear girls saying they aren’t very close with their sister so she won’t be a part of the bridal party at all!

I’ve got a slightly different situation, extremely close with my little sis, but she lives 4000km away from me, so, unfortunately, won’t be as involved in planning my wedding as I’d like her to be.

Maybe it’s a good thing though… will make me make darn sure I keep my mom, sister and dad as involved as I can!

Congrats again!

2/26/12 @ 1:42 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Pony (message) 5,386 posts, Bee Keeper

What a beautiful bunch of ladies I felt guilty asking my ladies for anything too, especially when it required them to spend money, but as long as it’s reasonable I’m sure they’re more than happy to oblige.

2/26/12 @ 2:39 pm (reply)

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Miss Castle (message) 479 posts, Helper bee

I totally feel guilty for asking them to do things. They are already paying for a dress and most of them are traveling to the wedding, so I don’t feel I can ask anymore of them. I told them all to pick whatever shoes they wanted and to their hair and makeup how ever they wanted as well. I don’t want to be to demanding. My only request is that they get the dance floor partying started!

2/26/12 @ 3:07 pm (reply)

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Kylemarie8584 (message) 94 posts, Worker bee

I feel the same way about asking my girls to buy things. I told them when we went to pick out their dresses to pick something cute and reasonably priced (under $100), but they just went ahead and decided on the one that I really liked on them all and was almost twice what I wanted them to spend. I feel horrible about this but they keep insisting that its okay and they don’t mind.

2/26/12 @ 3:16 pm (reply)

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SarahConnors (message) 145 posts, Blushing bee

I feel super guilty about the cost too! Especially because my Matron of honor has 3 of her 4 kids also in our wedding party, our other bridesmaid (FI’s sister) has 2 kids in the wedding party as well- so not only are they paying to travel to and stay with us in VT but they also have to buy their dresses and the dresses and tux rentals for the kids as well. My mom too- I have four sisters in the party as well and she paid for three of the dresses, plus her own. And then they’re planning my shower- I feel so bad! My MOH is the best because she apparently knew this would be a costly endeavor- but she was beyond happy to take on the role. Still- I feel guilty as hell and super awkward having other people spend so much money for me.

2/26/12 @ 3:43 pm (reply)

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Miss Woodpecker (message) 251 posts, Helper bee

@wedmewedmenot: Aw, it sounds like you still have fabulous family support, and how great that you and your sister are still close despite all that distance!

@Mrs. Pony: Aren’t they lovely? Good to know from someone who has been there

@Miss Castle: I think I told my girls the exact same thing! Great minds think alike!

@Kylemarie8584: That is very considerate of you I bet they totally appreciate it even if they’re not following it.

@SarahConnors: I’m glad I’m not the only one! When we were talking about my bachelorette today, I said “I don’t care, as long as no one has to drive!” Your mom sounds like an angel like mine, she is also planning my shower. I guess we have to just thank them every chance we get, right?

2/26/12 @ 4:05 pm (reply)

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Miss Petit Four (message) 625 posts, Busy bee

Hehehehe…bridesmaid duties. Heh. Sorry, I’m obviously 5. Anyways, yeah I feel bad asking my girls for anything considering they are traveling so far for Lil ol me.

2/26/12 @ 7:54 pm (reply)

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I agree that as a girl there can be a host of expectations from bridesmaids. However, acknowledging their effort on my wedding I just expect them to enjoy the moment and make it special for me and themselves. With so many wedding shops, matching attires is one thing which would be in my list of expectation.

2/26/12 @ 11:37 pm (reply)

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ChefDori (message) 174 posts, Blushing bee

I agree with you ladies about asking my bridesmaids & moh, who are my sisters, to spend money that I know they probably don’t have since they are moms. But they all agreed it is something they want to do. Two of my sisters have to buy dresses for their 2 daughters and son that are also in the wedding party. I offered to help them with them though.

2/27/12 @ 12:04 am (reply)

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Miss Woodpecker (message) 251 posts, Helper bee

@Miss Petit Four: Lol, I know, I thought it was funny too

@wedding shops: I love the thought of making it special for them and yourself. Perfect!

@ChefDori: How nice of you to offer to help them out. Yay for bridal party sisters!

2/27/12 @ 2:16 am (reply)

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madger (message) 82 posts, Worker bee

My brother is my “man of honor” and my three best friends are my bridesmaids. The girls are picking their own dresses (my only ask was that it would be blue), shoes, and accessories, and I’ve told them that their only “duty” is to show up! We live all over the country (and one even lives in Argentina) so it felt weird requiring them to throw me any kind of showers or parties.

2/27/12 @ 9:23 am (reply)

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peachplum09 (message) 721 posts, Busy bee

I feel a little guilty and say “thank you thank you thank you” every chance I get. They reassure all the time that they’re happy to do whatever and I’m so grateful for them!

2/27/12 @ 12:57 pm (reply)

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Miss Woodpecker (message) 251 posts, Helper bee

@madger: You sound like an amazing bride to be a BM for, and I love the “man of honor”!

@peachplum09: I need to do more thank yous!

2/27/12 @ 2:52 pm (reply)