And no, not for 7-11. Even though a slurpee would be pretty awesome right now.
No.. this is a bit more personal than a delicious, cold, icy drink. Bedroom talk, if you will. Me-yow. So consider yourself warned.
Way back in 2010 sometime, I decided to count out the weeks until the wedding to see if I would end up having my “lady friend” on the day of. I’m counting on the fact that you’ve all done it or thought about it, too. I mean, no one wants that, right? Not just for sexy reasons, but because I’m pretty sure the last thing you want to worry about is your period and taking care of that whole situation down there in a nice white dress. Either way, this is definitely one of my favorite things about birth control: you can predict to the day when you will or won’t have Aunt Flo in town. As such, according to my precise counting of every four weeks from 18+ months out, I landed on the conclusion that I will indeed have my period the day/week of our wedding. Well, that’s no fun.
I kind of forgot about it since then (ignorance is bliss?), and figured that the month of the wedding, I would likely just start a new pack of pills before my old one runs out. I’ve never tried it, but I’ve heard that this is a good way to stave off your period for another month with no side effects. The problem for me is that I seriously bloat in that week before my period arrives, and just starting a new pack may just make that worse. I’d much rather not be a bloaty mess for my wedding and pictures and following vacation, thankyouverymuch. So…now what?
Well, just the other day, I remembered this whole predicament I put myself in. With a much shorter time frame ahead of me, I decided to recount the weeks until the wedding once more. This time, I concluded that I should have my lady friend the week before my wedding rather than the week(end) of, thus being in the clear! Not sure where I went wrong last time, but seriously: oh, thank heaven. One less thing to worry about! ::crossing that one off the list::
Now that I’ve beyond crossed the TMI line and we’ve gotten a bit closer, I also want to lightly touch the subject of intimacy surrounding the wedding. The cliché is to have sexy time the night of the wedding, and I honestly always love seeing/reading the polls and threads on the WB boards about this subject: did you? didn’t you? first time? etc.
I bring this part up because Foxy recently mentioned abstaining for a month before the wedding, and I couldn’t really tell if he was serious or not. It came up kind of randomly, as we were talking about room assignments for the wedding and if we were sleeping in the same room on what will be officially referred to as Wedding Eve from here on in. These are honestly two things I haven’t even considered, especially since we’ve lived together for almost four years now. Is this something I should be considering? Is it worth all the hype there seems to be around wedding night sexy time?
Ohhh the options. What did you/are you doing in terms of pre- and night of wedding? Were you obsessive like me to estimate when you would have your lady friend around the time of your wedding?
It may seem silly, but these little things matter, yo!
You could skip a week of active pills NOW and then get your period early, an then have it the week before the wedding. I would ask your doctor to be sure though!
I just checked with my doctor about this because (like you) I counted it out and realized I’d be getting my lady friend during the first week of our honeymoon. Wedding night sexy times or not, we’ll definitely be getting some action during our honeymoon!
And we’ll be spending the Wedding Eve apart, though I doubt we’ll abstain before the wedding.
I would agree with Miss Eagle or go to the doc for a different BC such as an IUD or a pill that makes you have 4 periods a year.
To have a soapbox moment, everyone else should be paying attention to what is going on in congress regarding women’s rights in regards to BC!
You could start skipping your periods now (you can stack multiple packs in a row without harm, there is no medical reason you “need” to have a period) and that would get your body used to the “new” cycle, and probably eliminate all possibility of bloat around the wedding, because your body won’t be “expecting” a period around that time, so it won’t start PMS symptoms…if that makes sense?
My Aunt Flow is coming to my wedding and there’s not a damn thing I can do about it. I can’t take hormonal BC due to other medical conditions, so I’m stuck with her coming whenever she comes. For YEARS she came like clockwork on the 6th-7th of every month, so I figured our wedding date was safe. But then literally, on our “-1 year” anniversary last year, she decided to change and came ON THAT DAY, and has been on that day every month since. Wtf, Aunt Flow. Get outta here.
I’m with Ms. Panda – Seasonique is the second love of my life, behind my fiance, of course 
I get my period 4-5 times a year, and on the exact dates I plan it. No ruined vacations, no unfortunate accidents, and definitely no bloated/uncomfortable wedding.
I was getting laser hair removal done (down there) and was supposed to get my period the day I was supposed to start my treatments. and it was impossible to get another appointment (i was desperate to start treatments ASAP so i could fit in as many as I could before the wedding) so I researched ways of delaying your period but I wasn’t so confident of starting a new pill pack and skipping my period. It just doesn’t seem like that is healthy but what do I know. Luckily, my period held off til after the treatment. I’m glad it worked out for you though!! And this post has now got me thinking of wedding night so I’m going to count and see if I will have mine on wedding week or week before. I really hope I don’t pms the week before cause I’ll probably have a breakdown with stress. Oh jeez I’m worried haha.
I’ve also been thinking about wedding night sexy time and, well, as my name suggests, we are having a big fat Greek wedding which will involve lots of alcohol (and going around every table and toasting/thanking each of the 400+ guests) so I’m assuming we will be quite intoxicated and depending on when we finish celebrating (which was 7am and daylight at my sisters wedding), we will probably just want to pass out. How romantic is that?? Haha
As for wedding eve, I agree, we will not be sleeping anywhere near each other. I am thinking of getting a sexy boudoir photo shoot done and placing the photos somewhere in his room so that he sees them on wedding eve for the first time and gets all hot and horny for the next night! Haha who knows!
Oh also, Aunt Flow is pretty consistent but I just started a new brand because I moved overseas and they didn’t have the one I have been using for years. Hopefully it doesn’t mess up my cycle and I can accurately determine wether or not an uninvited guest will be arriving on wedding day. I sure hope not!!
Ps-sorry for all the errors. I’m using my iPhone and it’s not that easy to type long posts on this
I also counted out and realized that I would have my Lady Time during our Honey Moon so as soon as I figured it out, I skipped a period (after double and triple checking) on my pills. I would do it as soon before as possible becasue I felt pretty crumby until the next Lady Time. But now we are all on track for week before the wedding!
As for abstaining…we are. Started a little over a week ago for Lent and it was really a challenge this weekend! (TMI?) I am hopping it will be well worth it!
I’m still trying to wrap my brain around @BigFatGreekWedding ‘s “400+ guests”!!!
I read this post while drinking a slurpee…
And I’m all for altering your cycle by skipping a pill or two until you get it when you want it for the wedding. Although, my FI is Russian and I know he will be down for the count on our wedding night. We’ve actually planned the whole day after the wedding as Hangover Recovery Day, which includes offering our guests a late brunch and such.
oh girl, I’m hoping it all works out. I was too chicken and stayed on the BC until post wedding, bc i was also terrified of breaking out. Fingers and toes crossed for an “Aunt Flo Free” wedding!
@Miss Eagle: I didn’t even think about that!! And I would def double check with the doctor.. I’ve always been weary to just skip a period but everything I’ve heard says it’s ok..?
@Ms Panda: Oh you *know* I’m paying attention to the BC issue right now!!
@Miss Wizard: Whaaaaat? I’m so sorry it decided to be dumb and switch! I’m still going to keep my fingers crossed and hope that maybe it switches again..?!
@Heather Rose: Guess what I’m Googling asap? 
It would be fab to only have a few periods a year. One day..
@BigFatGreekWedding: Lol I love your bajillion comments! But anyway… I totally see myself fretting and stressing over bloat and pms’ing and causing my period to either come early or late.. it’s happened before! But alas, I’ll just have to hope as well, if I decide not to “reset” my period with my current BC. Your wedding sounds like it will be a BLAST and I hope the sexy time that night (morning?) happens!
@Miss Aardvark: Ohhh for Lent?! You brave, brave girl. Good luckkkk!
@ladyrose: Lol! Yea.. I *know* Foxy will be drinking at our wedding and.. well.. here’s hoping for us.
@Mrs. Ostrich: Good point about the breakouts. My current BC def made my skin worse since taking it, although I found a pretty good skin regimen for it. Would rather not chance it though. :/
I’m 9 months awa (OMG 9!!!) and I’m counting if AF will visit that day.. thank heavens for BC pills.
Totally did this, and totally just decided to skip visiting that friend the entire month of the wedding. Made it much better all around
I was supposed to have it wedding day but I started a new pack early and skipped my period a few months ago so that I would have it a week early. I plan on skipping it this month too so that I’m 2 weeks early (Just in case). I’ve talked to my Dr about my plan & he was ok with it.
I never had a “regular” period even WITH birth control pills…finally went on depo and get it rarely-about once every six months (sucks when I do…cramps are horrible, but it’s light)…..
I figure if I am worried about it I can get an extra shot to stop it (it works within a few hours to stop it…..)
and no, there is no reason to actually ever have a period…..I dont plan on having children but doctors won’t give hysterectomies at my age “just in case” I change my mind…..
i skipped a cycle when i traveled to s. america for a month. you don’t flush TP there, and i jut didn’t want to deal with all of that nastiness.
it was great, but ever since then my “like clockwork” period has fluctuated. not drastically, but it always used to come at noon on a tuesday and it will now come anywhere from 7am tuesday- 7am wednesday.
it was disconcerting at first, but a small price to pay for the convenience!
Mrs. Fox, Washington DC/Havre de Grace, MD Age and Occupation: 26, Massage Therapist Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Field Support Engineer Engagement Date: April 18, 2010 Wedding Date: June 2012 Venue: Vandiver Inn About Me: I’m a dancer turned massage therapist who was born and raised in New York. Alas, true love has brought me “south” where I still maintain my penchants for pretty shoes, wine, crossword puzzles, cherry blossoms, and the Mets. I own more sunglasses than a normal person should and don’t eat red meat (though I make up for it by eating my weight in sushi). I tend to be a big planner who likes to get things started early, but generally end up being indecisive and procrastinating when it comes down to it. I have a (not so) secret crush on Chris Carrabba, but my loyalty and love ultimately goes to the future hubs, of course! Together, my Foxy man and I love to discuss (read: debate) politics and current events, have Mario Kart and Scrabble duels, and just laugh. A lot. We’re hoping and planning for a laid back, fun, summery, rustic vibe to our June wedding that will be genuinely “us” – that is, if we finally make some decisions. Huzzah!
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