Post-Wedding Depression

HellooooOOOOOoooooo, hive! Remember me? It’s hard to believe it’s been almost nine months since I said “I do” to my best friend, Mr. Bunting.

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It was never my intention to make you wait so long to hear all about the happiest day of my life, and I must admit part of the delay is selfish procrastination on my part. I’ve been sitting on some finished recap posts for months now, and part of this reason was so I can finish or nearly finish writing all of them before I begin sharing them with you, but the other reason is because I was reluctant to officially begin them.

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You see, our wedding day is by far the happiest day of our lives. It was utterly amazing, and though we did have some minor setbacks that you will learn about, it was also utterly perfect. The entire day, from the moment I woke up to the moment we collapsed in our hotel bed, exhausted and married, was a surreal living dream. I loved every single second.

When the day was over, we had a day to pack and then our honeymoon to enjoy. And when our honeymoon was over, we had a few months to be sappy and chase each other around calling out “husband!” and “wife!”. And when that immediate newlywed freshness started to subside and our regular routine resumed, I succumbed to PWD. Post-Wedding Depression. I swear it must be a real thing, because although I would not say I was actually depressed, I was definitely sad when it came to wedding talk.

Brother Bunting’s wedding came and went, and a cousin Bunting’s wedding came and went, and all the while I was incredibly happy to be in or attending their weddings, I was also incredibly sad and a bit jealous that our wedding was already past. I missed the planning. The daily calls with Mother Bunting about flowers and tissue pom-poms. The countless hours spent poring over wedding blog after wedding blog, absorbing everything I possibly could and finding new ways to incorporate those sweetest things featured. The sheer anticipation of what was going to be the best day ever. I missed everything about our wedding adventure. And when it was over, I couldn’t help but feel the pangs of bittersweet nostalgia.

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I know fully well that the title of “best day ever” will have some serious contenders down the road, but our “best wedding ever” has been fulfilled and can never be fully experienced again. And that made me sad.

So after the transition back to normal life, I held off on working on my recaps. At the time I told myself it was because I was so busy, but I think it was because my recaps were the last leg of my wedding journey and I wasn’t yet ready for that journey to end completely. I held on to those last threads dearly and selfishly.

But I have waited long enough and you have waited long enough. And while I do still feel a little jealous of our engaged friends because they have their perfect day to look forward to, I believe I have finally come to terms with my PWD. It just took some time and some reminiscing. So let’s re-live our wedding together, moment by moment, and let the Bunting Bash begin!

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Photos via Bryan and Mae

Have any of you experienced any post-wedding sadness? What did you do to overcome it? If you’re yet to be married, do you think you’ll succumb to PWD?

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Mrs. Bunting

Age:
27
Location:
Grand Rapids, MI
Wedding Date:
June 2011

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    Mrs. Fox 1634 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:49 pm

    I’m calling it now that I’m going to experience this after our wedding. I tend to get a bit down after certain events even now (fun weekend trip with friends, a big party, etc), and I just know it will be ten times worse after the wedding. But hey, that’s what pictures and recaps are for, and I can’t wait to see and read yours! Btw, that last picture? Prob my all time wedding picture EVER. Love.

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    GreenDream 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:55 pm

    Yay, looking forward to it! That getting ready pic is so gorgeous!!

    I am so sad that our wedding is over now, too. You articulated it very well. Got no advice! Just throwing myself back into my work and clinging to the wedding boards a bit longer <3

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    festklänningar, Guest @ 10:02 pm

    Wow! what a fantastic photo set.She looks gorgeous in wedding dress.Her accessories are perfect match with her wedding dress. Wedding dress makes beautiful memories.

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    Mrs. Bunting 687 posts, Busy bee @ 6:02 am

    @bRooklynRocks: I think time is one of the best remedies for it. It’s been almost 9 months for me, and it’s not too bard anymore, too.

    @Mrs. Pony: It is some serious shiz! I never realized how much work recaps are until I started working on my own! All the bees make it look so easy, haha.

    @Baileyh: Haha, that was a pretty funny (and good!)! So glad I’m not the only bride to experience the blues.

    @Mrs. Snow Cone: I was/am the same way about new wedding trends! I caught myself seeing all these new ideas and thinking, “ohhh…. I would have liked to do that…” I had to tell myself to shut up, my wedding was perfect the way it was, and having silly hat props a la Royal wedding style in the photo booth would not have made it even more perfect.

    @SarahConnors: That might be a tough transition indeed! You’ll have to focus on a new hobby with your new hubby to keep you busy! For the poms, I followed this tutorial: http://www.marthastewart.com/how-to/tissue-paper-pom-poms-how-to but this one gives a more photos: http://allthingsmamma.com/2012/01/how-to-make-tissue-paper-pom-poms/

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    fionak 203 posts, Helper bee @ 6:09 am

    Yay! I’ve been hoping the Bunting recaps would start soon!

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    Mrs. Bunting 687 posts, Busy bee @ 6:21 am

    @penguin_girl_0413: Despite experiencing the PWD, I still thoroughly enjoyed the state of newlywedded bliss with Mr. Bunting. I completely understand your concerns about not wanting to start your new marriage with the blues, but I wouldn’t say my PWD made my new marriage any less wonderful. :) I think, aside from time, a good solution to ward it off is to re-direct all the energy you put into wedding planning into a new hobby with your hubby or something like nesting. That, and to keep reminding yourself that you have plenty of other milestones to look forward to yet!

    @Mrs. Parasol: Vow renewals, anyone? :D How long do you have to wait to renew your vows…?

    @Mrs. Brooch: Aww, thank you so much, Mrs. Brooch! I was slightly nervous about this post because I wasn’t sure how many others experience this. I’m so happy to hear that my words have resounded with some!

    @Christina: Glad to hear you’re getting over it, too! And congratulations on the pregnancy! I imagine that will continue to keep you quite occupied. :)

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    Mrs. Bunting 687 posts, Busy bee @ 6:25 am

    @Miss Fox: I used to do that with weekend events, too. Usually I tried and planned something for the future shortly after, even if it was weeks down the road, so that I had something exciting to look forward to again. I love that photo, too! Just wait until you see the animated gif I made with the rest of those shots…

    @GreenDream: I’m glad you’re sticking around with us even after your wedding! The WB is such a wonderful community and I love how many married women are still active on the boards.

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    Mrs. Hawk 1117 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:57 am

    I am so excited to see your beautiful photographs and hear all about your day!
    The idea of PWD makes me a little nervous. I have so fully invested myself in planning that I don’t know what I’ll do with all my free time post wedding!

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    Mrs. Ladyfingers 1256 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:26 am

    SO EXCITED! I was afraid I was getting PWD the day after, but it passed… probably because I immediately launched on my omg-house-and-baby kick.

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    Mrs. Porcupine 633 posts, Busy bee @ 8:07 am

    Love the last photo! I keep telling people this won’t happen to me, because I am so DONE with planning, but I’m sure there will be an inkling of oh, crap that’s it?

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    ItsPronounced_ABear 713 posts, Busy bee @ 11:59 am

    Welcome back! Can’t wait to see all your details come together!!

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    Mrs. Coyote 1478 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:19 pm

    Yaaay Bunting recaps!! I have a feeling I’m going to get hit with a bit of PWD too…

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    Mrs. Marmalade 296 posts, Helper bee @ 1:49 pm

    YAY!!!!! Your wedding was beautiful and I can’t wait for the recaps!

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    Mrs. Petit Four 695 posts, Busy bee @ 4:30 pm

    We are only 5 days out from our wedding but I have almost been in tears a couple of times because our amazing day is over.
    I’m one of those people who thinks that half the fun is the anticipation!
    I even found myself wondering if any bloggers put off recaps because they are dealing with pwd. So bunting, you aren’t alone and I thank you so much for writing this. Just know that all of us love you and we’re so excited to see your recaps

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