Post-Wedding Depression

HellooooOOOOOoooooo, hive! Remember me? It’s hard to believe it’s been almost nine months since I said “I do” to my best friend, Mr. Bunting.

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It was never my intention to make you wait so long to hear all about the happiest day of my life, and I must admit part of the delay is selfish procrastination on my part. I’ve been sitting on some finished recap posts for months now, and part of this reason was so I can finish or nearly finish writing all of them before I begin sharing them with you, but the other reason is because I was reluctant to officially begin them.

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You see, our wedding day is by far the happiest day of our lives. It was utterly amazing, and though we did have some minor setbacks that you will learn about, it was also utterly perfect. The entire day, from the moment I woke up to the moment we collapsed in our hotel bed, exhausted and married, was a surreal living dream. I loved every single second.

When the day was over, we had a day to pack and then our honeymoon to enjoy. And when our honeymoon was over, we had a few months to be sappy and chase each other around calling out “husband!” and “wife!”. And when that immediate newlywed freshness started to subside and our regular routine resumed, I succumbed to PWD. Post-Wedding Depression. I swear it must be a real thing, because although I would not say I was actually depressed, I was definitely sad when it came to wedding talk.

Brother Bunting’s wedding came and went, and a cousin Bunting’s wedding came and went, and all the while I was incredibly happy to be in or attending their weddings, I was also incredibly sad and a bit jealous that our wedding was already past. I missed the planning. The daily calls with Mother Bunting about flowers and tissue pom-poms. The countless hours spent poring over wedding blog after wedding blog, absorbing everything I possibly could and finding new ways to incorporate those sweetest things featured. The sheer anticipation of what was going to be the best day ever. I missed everything about our wedding adventure. And when it was over, I couldn’t help but feel the pangs of bittersweet nostalgia.

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I know fully well that the title of “best day ever” will have some serious contenders down the road, but our “best wedding ever” has been fulfilled and can never be fully experienced again. And that made me sad.

So after the transition back to normal life, I held off on working on my recaps. At the time I told myself it was because I was so busy, but I think it was because my recaps were the last leg of my wedding journey and I wasn’t yet ready for that journey to end completely. I held on to those last threads dearly and selfishly.

But I have waited long enough and you have waited long enough. And while I do still feel a little jealous of our engaged friends because they have their perfect day to look forward to, I believe I have finally come to terms with my PWD. It just took some time and some reminiscing. So let’s re-live our wedding together, moment by moment, and let the Bunting Bash begin!

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Photos via Bryan and Mae

Have any of you experienced any post-wedding sadness? What did you do to overcome it? If you’re yet to be married, do you think you’ll succumb to PWD?

BLOGGER

Mrs. Bunting

Birthday:
December 23
Location:
Grand Rapids, MI
Wedding Date:
June 2011
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    ostrich 2402 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:16 pm

    YES! YES! YES! Let the bunting bash begin…I’ve been waiting and am SO. EXCITED. :)

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    doily 1720 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:16 pm

    Yay Mrs. Bunting! I’m so excited to see you back and ready to recap! Now that we are only 11 days away from our own wedding, Mr. D and I are already starting to wonder what the heck we are going to do afterwards. I’m sure I will have a little PWD myself. But I’m still so, so, so, happy to see you back and your wedding!

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    candy apple 1877 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:23 pm

    Your wedding was so freaking gorgeous. I can’t wait!! :)

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    honey 1684 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:31 pm

    YES. Can’t wait for the Bunting Bash recaps!! And as a side note, I was/am surprised the PWD didn’t get me…maybe it’s still down the road? I expected it, but instead I’ve been relishing in my massive amounts of free time!

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    bRooklynRocks 4048 posts, Honey bee @ 2:33 pm

    You look so amazing. I had heard of the PWD and thought it wouldn’t happen to me but it did. I did miss having everyone ask how it was going. All the calls. The hours spent on the bee browsing the blogs and the main boards. All the DIY…even the stress. I did have it. But time has erased it. It’s been 8 months so it’s not as bad anymore. Welcome back. I love your pictures and can’t wait for the recap to begin.

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    eggsbenedict 347 posts, Helper bee @ 2:37 pm

    So excited to read your recaps! And I love your point about “best wedding ever” and how that makes you a little sad because it’s now over. I totally feel the same way, but have moved from feeling a bit sad about it to being so incredibly happy thinking of all the memories!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 2:39 pm

    Hooray, I’m so excited for Bunting recaps! I think I have a little PWD and feeling a wee bit overwhelmed with recap writing; it’s some serious shiz.

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    teaandhoney 3311 posts, Sugar bee @ 2:50 pm

    I get it…i so so so get it! (althought im super excited to see your recaps now!!)
    You arent the only bride in the world though…including myself…

    Check out this funny take on wedding blues

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=77lSnAeKQyA&list=UU–6Ajur2BTNNcZHcqvENhQ&index=4&feature=plcp

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    trailmix 6663 posts, Bee Keeper @ 2:51 pm

    Whoooooo, gorgeous photos, very much looking forward to your recaps!

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    snowcone 1141 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:54 pm

    YES. To all of it, YES.

    I have this weird protective mentality with weddings in general and with my own wedding, where I refuse to really pay an iota of attention to any new trends or pictures, fearing they’ll make me love my wedding less. I’m also secretly happy that no one else in my life is heading down the aisle this summer, so I have a bit more time to recover/wallow/whatever.

    It’s still hitting me, bit by bit, and I like to think I’m making progress. I’m hoping that the one-year mark launches me into the rest of my life :)

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    castle 1191 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:21 pm

    My fiancé keeps saying he doesn’t know what I’m going to do with my time after the wedding… So I think I will probably have some PWD. I’m so excited to read your recaps!

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 3:25 pm

    Yay, recaps soon! :) I suspect I might be in for a bit of PWD but I hope we have lots of fun things in store to keep us going post-wedding.

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    SarahConnors 152 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:52 pm

    I love love LOVE the few photos you’ve posted! I dread that PWD as well- being engaged for 2+ years and planning for so long- I am dreading the feeling I have when the honeymoon’s over and we go back to real life. I worry that I won’t have enough to talk about with, well, anyone lol! My gosh, what DID we talk about before we got engaged? It was two years ago!!! On the upside- you can still post on here- giving advice and helping other brides!
    BTW- how did you make those adorable poms?? I love them and the colors are perfect together!!!

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    Sunlavender 567 posts, Busy bee @ 5:27 pm

    They definitely hit for me as well. But glad you’re back to share your wedding with us!

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    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:29 pm

    Woohooo! Bunting recaps!!!

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    penguin_girl_0413 116 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:30 pm

    As I read your post, I know that I will completely identify with this once my wedding is over. I know that once the day is done, I will miss not having it to look forward to, and definitely feel a lot of the same sadness you’re feeling. I’m somewhat worried about this because I don’t know how long it will last and I don’t want to begin our marriage that way, but I know myself and I’m pretty positive that I will experience it.

    I even had some of these feelings after getting engaged, because I had been waiting for the proposal, and to feel like it was over, and that it would never happen again, and I would never get to experience it again put me in a sad state for a week or so after the exciting phone calls were all made to announce our engagement.

    I’m glad you are feeling better and I would appreciate any advice you have for me so that I can ward some of the feelings off after the wedding!

    Can’t wait for your recaps!!!!

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    tartlet 3227 posts, Sugar bee @ 5:31 pm

    Huzzah for the Bunting recaps! I definitely experienced the same sadness you described; it’s tough to top such a wonderful day, but I’m thankful that it was one that we both remember so fondly. Looking forward to seeing more of your beautiful day!

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    parasol 2955 posts, Sugar bee @ 7:04 pm

    I’m so excited for your recaps, B! They are going to be amazing! And I’m sorry to hear about the post-wedding depression. I can definitely relate to that a bit, but you can always look forward to planning a smashing anniversary party!

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    brooch 1760 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:03 pm

    Soo. I already knew you could draw, and that you had the most impeccable taste in design, color schemes, and of course, all things wedding, but hunny…. you can WRITE, too. I hung on every word and could really relate to everything you said. Thank you for sharing this, and helping me put my finger on something I’ve been going through as well. You wedding was the most gorgeous EVER. I cannot wait for all the recaps!!!

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    Christina, Guest @ 8:24 pm

    I totally had PWD – our wedding was late May of last year. After a Philadelphia-to-Seattle move (October), starting up a wedding business (January), and now a pregnancy (Due September), I think I am getting over it. Finding something else to focus on is the key…but I think I may have taken my PWD-recovery tactics to the extreme. :-P

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    msfox 1635 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:49 pm

    I’m calling it now that I’m going to experience this after our wedding. I tend to get a bit down after certain events even now (fun weekend trip with friends, a big party, etc), and I just know it will be ten times worse after the wedding. But hey, that’s what pictures and recaps are for, and I can’t wait to see and read yours! Btw, that last picture? Prob my all time wedding picture EVER. Love.

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    GreenDream 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:55 pm

    Yay, looking forward to it! That getting ready pic is so gorgeous!!

    I am so sad that our wedding is over now, too. You articulated it very well. Got no advice! Just throwing myself back into my work and clinging to the wedding boards a bit longer <3

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    festklänningar, Guest @ 10:02 pm

    Wow! what a fantastic photo set.She looks gorgeous in wedding dress.Her accessories are perfect match with her wedding dress. Wedding dress makes beautiful memories.

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    bunting 687 posts, Busy bee @ 6:02 am

    @bRooklynRocks: I think time is one of the best remedies for it. It’s been almost 9 months for me, and it’s not too bard anymore, too.

    @Mrs. Pony: It is some serious shiz! I never realized how much work recaps are until I started working on my own! All the bees make it look so easy, haha.

    @Baileyh: Haha, that was a pretty funny (and good!)! So glad I’m not the only bride to experience the blues.

    @Mrs. Snow Cone: I was/am the same way about new wedding trends! I caught myself seeing all these new ideas and thinking, “ohhh…. I would have liked to do that…” I had to tell myself to shut up, my wedding was perfect the way it was, and having silly hat props a la Royal wedding style in the photo booth would not have made it even more perfect.

    @SarahConnors: That might be a tough transition indeed! You’ll have to focus on a new hobby with your new hubby to keep you busy! For the poms, I followed this tutorial: http://www.marthastewart.com/how-to/tissue-paper-pom-poms-how-to but this one gives a more photos: http://allthingsmamma.com/2012/01/how-to-make-tissue-paper-pom-poms/

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    fionak 155 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:09 am

    Yay! I’ve been hoping the Bunting recaps would start soon!

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    bunting 687 posts, Busy bee @ 6:21 am

    @penguin_girl_0413: Despite experiencing the PWD, I still thoroughly enjoyed the state of newlywedded bliss with Mr. Bunting. I completely understand your concerns about not wanting to start your new marriage with the blues, but I wouldn’t say my PWD made my new marriage any less wonderful. :) I think, aside from time, a good solution to ward it off is to re-direct all the energy you put into wedding planning into a new hobby with your hubby or something like nesting. That, and to keep reminding yourself that you have plenty of other milestones to look forward to yet!

    @Mrs. Parasol: Vow renewals, anyone? :D How long do you have to wait to renew your vows…?

    @Mrs. Brooch: Aww, thank you so much, Mrs. Brooch! I was slightly nervous about this post because I wasn’t sure how many others experience this. I’m so happy to hear that my words have resounded with some!

    @Christina: Glad to hear you’re getting over it, too! And congratulations on the pregnancy! I imagine that will continue to keep you quite occupied. :)

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    bunting 687 posts, Busy bee @ 6:25 am

    @Miss Fox: I used to do that with weekend events, too. Usually I tried and planned something for the future shortly after, even if it was weeks down the road, so that I had something exciting to look forward to again. I love that photo, too! Just wait until you see the animated gif I made with the rest of those shots…

    @GreenDream: I’m glad you’re sticking around with us even after your wedding! The WB is such a wonderful community and I love how many married women are still active on the boards.

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    hawk 1117 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:57 am

    I am so excited to see your beautiful photographs and hear all about your day!
    The idea of PWD makes me a little nervous. I have so fully invested myself in planning that I don’t know what I’ll do with all my free time post wedding!

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    ladyfingers 1257 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:26 am

    SO EXCITED! I was afraid I was getting PWD the day after, but it passed… probably because I immediately launched on my omg-house-and-baby kick.

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    porcupine 633 posts, Busy bee @ 8:07 am

    Love the last photo! I keep telling people this won’t happen to me, because I am so DONE with planning, but I’m sure there will be an inkling of oh, crap that’s it?

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    ItsPronounced_ABear 715 posts, Busy bee @ 11:59 am

    Welcome back! Can’t wait to see all your details come together!!

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    coyote 1563 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:19 pm

    Yaaay Bunting recaps!! I have a feeling I’m going to get hit with a bit of PWD too…

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    marmalade 296 posts, Helper bee @ 1:49 pm

    YAY!!!!! Your wedding was beautiful and I can’t wait for the recaps!

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    petitfour 695 posts, Busy bee @ 4:30 pm

    We are only 5 days out from our wedding but I have almost been in tears a couple of times because our amazing day is over.
    I’m one of those people who thinks that half the fun is the anticipation!
    I even found myself wondering if any bloggers put off recaps because they are dealing with pwd. So bunting, you aren’t alone and I thank you so much for writing this. Just know that all of us love you and we’re so excited to see your recaps

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