Apple-y Ever After: Dress Regret, and Other Stories

Before I get into the thick of my recaps, I want to back it up a bit (back, back, back it up!!) to early August when I was home for my fab bachelorette party. We need to discuss my wedding dress. My fabulous, gorgeous wedding dress.

While I was in Seattle for the bach, as usual I knocked out two wedding tasks with one plane ticket (or however the saying goes) and scheduled my final dress fitting for that same weekend—it would be the last time I was in town prior to the wedding and I wanted to be sure that any changes that needed to be made were done in time for the wedding.

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Those ruffles! Sigh.

I tried on the dress a total of three times (including when I first laid eyes on that baby) prior to the wedding.

As you may recall, I initially tried on my dress on a bit of a whim – it didn’t fit my original dress aesthetic, but I saw it in the window and thought it would be a fun dress to try on. It was so crazy sexy cool! And different from most other wedding dresses I had seen. Lo and behold, I loved how it looked when I tried it on and it fit like a dream right then and there off the rack. I was smitten! So I bought it.

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Now, let’s get real here. After I had purchased the dress and went in again to have it fitted, I had some serious wedding dress regret. As you can see, my dress is, well, ruffly. Fluffy. Froofy. Puffy. Not your typical, classic wedding dress.

It wasn’t that I didn’t like the dress the second time I tried it on, but I got really worried that Mr. CA wouldn’t like the dress. Nagging doubts kept creeping into my mind: He’s going to think it’s too froofy. He’s going to think it’s too ruffly. He’s going to think it’s not classic enough. He’s going to think I look silly. He’s going to hate it.

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Look at all that ruffly fabulousness.

I hold Mr. CA’s opinions very highly and I was worried that he was going to think I looked hideous and silly on our wedding day. I worried that I would look back at pictures and think how dated the dress looked. It was not a fun feeling, particularly after my mom had spent so much money on the dress. I wanted to be in love with my dress, but it was hard when I thought Mr. CA wouldn’t like it. I kept my worries to myself, but they lingered in the back of my mind.

Needless to say, I was a bit apprehensive when I went in for my final fitting. In fact, I was dreading it. But you know what? When I went in that last time and they tucked the veil into my hair, and I slipped my feet into those sparkly Kate Spade beauties, and I wiggled into that frothy confection of a dress? I loved it. I absolutely loved it. I felt like a princess. A bride.

And after that, I realized something. Something that all of the wedding blogs and inspiration photos and pretty pictures had clouded in my wedding-inspiration-addled brain. I knew that Mr. CA would love me in that dress on our wedding day because guess what? I loved it and I thought I looked pretty smokin’ in it. Yep, I did. I said it. I looked like a bride. A real bride. And ultimately I knew it wouldn’t matter what I was wearing on our wedding day – Mr. CA would say his vows to me if we were both wearing paper bags and he would still be the happiest man alive because he loves me that damn much.

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We replaced the brooch that came with the dress with one my mom let me borrow – my “something borrowed!” Silver and pearls from Japan, given to her when she was living there.

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Wedding dress bliss. I think I’m demonstrating the froofy-ness of the ruffles for Mom CA and MOH. That, or saying “get in mah bellay!”

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MOH attempting to bustle all of those ruffles. Tough job!!

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Vogue.

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Happiness!! With my sister and my mommy.

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Did I mention that I flippin’ loved my veil? Yeah. I flippin’ loved my veil.

Did I mention that I flippin’ loved my dress? Yeah. I flippin’ loved my dress.

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On the bridal salon’s awesome runway. Happy girl!

Just remember that. If you get stressed about your weight, or you start having whispering doubts about your dress, or you decide to go with something a little different and crazy for your big day, just remember that what matters is you and your partner getting up there and vowing to stick it through for better or for worse. What you’re wearing doesn’t matter in the end.

What matters is that you pick a dress that you feel awesome in, a dress that makes you smile. That happiness will shine through on your wedding day. And guess what? Mr. CA loved my dress.

Did you have dress regret? Were you able to get over it, or did you decide to go with another dress? Anyone else out there go with mega-ruffles?

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**All photography in this post is personal**

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Mrs. Candy Apple

Location:
Princeton Junction, NJ/ Seattle, WA
Wedding Date:
August 2011
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    brooch 1760 posts, Buzzing bee @ 1:47 pm

    Aww, I loved this post Mrs. Candy! So well said. Dress regret is something I am very familiar with (crying dress 1, 2, 3+, times) but I cannot agree more: if you love it, he will love it! PS – You look flippin’ fantastic in this dress!!!! I’m glad you kept it ;-)

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    cwbrown85 135 posts, Blushing bee @ 1:49 pm

    STUNNING! I had the same issues with my dress (i still have them). I too am a ball gown girl and I always like “it is too poofy” but I love my dress so much I would never change it :)

    You look AMAZING! congrats, girl!

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    hyena 2537 posts, Sugar bee @ 1:52 pm

    You look gorgeous, CA. Glad you kept it!

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    DiDiCicero 16 posts, Newbee @ 1:57 pm

    I recognize that place. I live in Seattle. I loved dress shopping at La Belle Elaines :) love the dress, and totally agree with you. I picked my dress much the same way you did…it looked fun, and I love the way I feel in it when I try it on…So way to stick with it!

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    doily 1720 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:03 pm

    I love that dress on you CA! I feel really blessed to have not had any dress regret. I was afraid when I tried it on at my first fitting, that I would no longer love it or have a tinge, but it didn’t happen. I LOVED it. I’m so excited to wear it!

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    trailmix 6663 posts, Bee Keeper @ 2:11 pm

    Gosh, I love your dress, those ruffles really are to die for!

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    Pincushion 1074 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:11 pm

    I felt the same way, wondering if Mr. PC was going to like me in my dress or think it was silly. So much stress! You really do look lovely though!!

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    woodpecker 270 posts, Helper bee @ 3:42 pm

    Aw, this post makes me so happy! You look amazing and thanks for reminding us of something I probably never would have thought :)

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    elizabeth2004 596 posts, Busy bee @ 4:28 pm

    This post is pretty much just what I needed right now. Thank you. And your dress is gorgeous!

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    ostrich 2402 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:13 pm

    *picking up jaw from the floor*
    your dress is SPECTACULAR…and so are YOU, CA!

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    turkey 654 posts, Busy bee @ 5:15 pm

    Wow – glad you stuck with that dress…gorgeous.

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    Coffee cup 2319 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:51 pm

    I love the uniqueness of the dress, I actually love how puffy it is.

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:53 pm

    You look stunning! Def a great decision!!!

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    penguin_girl_0413 116 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:00 pm

    WOW I love your post!!!!!! I bought a dress with a lot of ruffles too and I still have months to go until the wedding, but I am starting to worry and freak out that it will be “too different” from a normal wedding dress, and my guests will think it’s too much, and that my fiance will think it’s too poofy and fluffy and not like it. But you made a GREAT point and I’m going to focus on that instead of worrying (or at least try!). Thank you!!!!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 6:35 pm

    I can’t believe you would ever doubt your choice, but I completely understand worrying about your future husband liking your dress. It’s so weird that someone so important to the wedding day has no idea what your attire will look like.

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    Mrs. Dragon 813 posts, Busy bee @ 7:01 pm

    This is something I need to keep in mind! Sometimes I feel a bit of regret just because I didn’t actually try anything on and I can’t help but keep window shopping. :) I love your dress!

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    candy apple 1877 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:37 pm

    Oh you guys sure know how to make a girl blush!! Thank you for your sweet comments.

    DiDiCicero: YES, La Belle Elaine’s! :)

    Miss Doily: Awesome, awesome, awesome. I’m really glad I got over my dress regret!

    Mrs. Pin Cushion: Yes, so much stress! I can’t believe I put so much pressure on myself about a dress.

    elizabeth2004: Excellent :)

    Mrs. Ostrich: Oh, you.

    Coffee cup: Thank you! Yes, the uniqueness is what drew me to it in the first place, and what ultimately made me love love love it.

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    Whiteshi, Guest @ 7:39 pm

    The dress is great!You look gorgeous on that!Thanks for sharing!

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    candy apple 1877 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:41 pm

    penguin_girl_0413: I had these EXACT same concerns (will people think I’m totally weird/insane)! Put them out of your mind. I mean it. You will ROCK those ruffles, and you will look fierce and amazing and your partner will think you are the most beautiful person in the world. I promise.

    Mrs. Pony: Yes! It was so strange not having his input on this when I tried to involve him with so many other decisions.

    Miss Dragon: I think the window shopping is what made me go all crazy :) It’s easy to over-analyze your decision, especially when you have a lot of time between when you buy the dress and the wedding.

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    earrings 2611 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:59 pm

    Wonderful post and you look incredible in that dress :)

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    mssocks 1336 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:23 am

    Great post!! I’m so glad you stuck with your FABULOUS dress. You looked seriously amazing on your wedding day and that dress is just jaw-dropping.

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    JD193 56 posts, Worker bee @ 6:55 am

    Seriously, THANK YOU for writing this!! I’m getting married in just under 2 months and I have dress worry all the time – does it look stupid, will everyone hate it, will my fiance hate it, will i hate it in 5 years?? And, my dress is kind of similar to yours, so this post really hit home! I also keep trying to remind myself that not only did I love it when I tried it on, but I still haven’t been worried enough to go try other dresses on, which says something, and – like you said – at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter THAT much. It definitely makes me feel so much better to know other brides had similar worries though!

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    happybbbeee 1339 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:46 am

    What a perfect post! I love the positivity you just shared with all of us! Thank You!!

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    coyote 1548 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:58 pm

    Love this post CA… and yea, I’m glad you got over your dress regret because that dress really IS flippin’ amazing! :D

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