Favors Aren’t Our Favorite

When we first started delegating money to different things in our budget, one of the things we did not delegate a single cent to was favors.

Womp womp.

It’s not that we don’t appreciate our guests’ time and company, and the effort they’ll make to get there. Quite the contrary, actually. And some favors look totally adorable:

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Image via Your Ultimate Wedding Favors

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Image via Style Me Pretty / Photo and favors by Winnie at Beau-coup

It’s just that, for Mr. Wizard and I both, there hasn’t been a single wedding favor that we’ve ever received that we found worthwhile. (Sorry to everyone whose weddings we’ve attended and gotten favors!)

The favors that are edible ”” chocolates, fortune cookies, or the ever-popular Jordan almonds ”” get eaten as soon as we sit down out of boredom waiting for the reception to begin. The favors that are “activities” ”” seeds to plant, flavored salts, etc. ”” usually get discarded. The favors that have the couple’s names and wedding date on them ”” Christmas tree ornaments, wine glasses, matchbooks, etc. ”” fall under the category of “no one cares about your wedding as much as you”: why would we want to look at our random-cousin-twice-removed’s wedding date every time we wanted a glass of wine? In short, we don’t go to a wedding for the favors, and we don’t find them particularly useful or meaningful, so we decided to ix-nay the favors at our own wedding.

However, we didn’t want our guests to go home completely empty-handed, so we came up with something that will kill two birds with one stone. Remember when I was telling you about our cookie table? Well, one of the classic “problems” (not that this is really a problem, in my book!) of cookie tables is having way. too. many. cookies, and the bride’s and groom’s parents having to deal with the leftovers after the fact. So, to avoid saddling our parents with 200 cookies each, we decided that, in lieu of favors, we’d supply plastic take-home boxes, so that our guests can load up on cookies on their way out. That way they get to take home at least something (and something that happens to be delicious), and our parents won’t have to add “deal with unfathomable amounts of cookies” to their post-wedding list.

What are you doing for favors? Are you letting your guests take home food or desserts from the wedding to minimize the leftovers?

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Mrs. Wizard

Location:
Pittsburgh
Wedding Date:
June 2012
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    eagle 1552 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:55 am

    I like your idea way better than favours! If you wanted to jazz up the take out boxes, you could get a custom stamp (or just a regular stamp) and emboss something on them. Might make them a bit prettier and more wedding-y :)

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    Cara, Guest @ 7:58 am

    We’re doing a candy bar with the cake and letting people take a bag of their choosing home with them…so similar to what you’re doing. I don’t think I’ve ever had a single favor make it home with me either, considered doing a cute little jar of honey (since his/my new last name sorta means honey in Spanish) but then realized that most people would probably just leave it on the table being like “how the hell do you expect me to get this thing home? what if it breaks? it’s sticky…” lol

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    unicycle 476 posts, Helper bee @ 8:01 am

    I agree with you! We’re doing the candy buffet with take home bags as our favor too. Win-win.

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    coyote 1560 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:13 am

    Great idea!! We’re just doing the good ol’ jordan almonds and maybe a donation. Haven’t decided yet… Mostly because I don’t care about favors. :D

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    mkim 611 posts, Busy bee @ 8:15 am

    I agree, FI and I don’t really like favors. But we love photobooths, so the pictures from the photobooth will be our guest favors.

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    Seaside 691 posts, Busy bee @ 8:16 am

    Damn you just crapped all over our favors haha…we’re doing monogrammed champagne glasses, and I am in love with them. I think favors are entirely personal- someone’s alwasy going to complain about whatever you give, or if you don’t give, or whatever. I like the cookie doggy bag idea though- you should look on Nashville Wraps, they sell a milion really cute different options for food packaging, adn I think they can slap a logo on them too if you wanted.

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    KimbeeQ, Guest @ 8:25 am

    We are doing mini ketchup bottles. With a pittsburgh theme we though 2oz Heinze Ketchup bottles were a good fit, and we figured even if everyone left it behind, we use ketchup enough to use whatever is left.

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    mswizard 554 posts, Busy bee @ 8:27 am

    @Seaside: Oh shoot haha I’m sorry :( I generally just don’t like decorated drinking glasses…like I don’t even buy souvenir/logo glasses from amusement parks, vacations, etc. That could be just me though! And I totally agree that someone is going to complain no matter what you do, so do whatever you want and screw what they think :)

    I looked at that Nashville Wraps site, that place looks awesome! Thanks for the suggestion!

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 8:30 am

    We’re doing an edible favour but it’s all my Dad’s dreamed up idea and I think it will be useable at the wedding itself (which is what we want!). Free-for-all cookies sounds awesome!

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    scepter 333 posts, Helper bee @ 8:35 am

    I literally could have written this post word-for-word! One time we received a monogrammed hat that had the couples name and wedding date on it. When in the world is it going to be an appropriate time to wear that hat?

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    Teeny287 59 posts, Worker bee @ 8:37 am

    We are doing s’more’s kits. I haven’t decided if I want us to prepackage them or set up a booth for people to grab if they want. The cookie bar is a great idea!

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    Kylemarie8584 101 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:41 am

    We are doing the candy bar thing too with little take-out boxes!

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    hawk 1117 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:43 am

    I feel like we’re on similar pages when it comes to favors. Like @mkim we’re doing a photobooth as an activity/favor since I’m photograph obsessed. I think sweets is always a winner! I would love to take home a bag of cookies.

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    hassle_j 798 posts, Busy bee @ 8:44 am

    The best giveaways I have ever gotten were: A drink coozie, and a cute bottle of olive oil that I kept in the kitchen and used all the time. :) I do like chocolates and jordan almonds as giveaways, but I usually eat them AT the reception!

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    bunting 687 posts, Busy bee @ 8:50 am

    I’m sorry but… there is no such thing as TOO MANY COOKIES!!!

    You can saddle me with 200 cookies any day. :D

    (p.s. this of course means i love your cookie idea!)

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    cancanny 61 posts, Worker bee @ 9:09 am

    I am similar to you: I was FIRMLY a “no favor” gal, but then there was an aspect of the wedding (for you the cookie bar) that kinda snowballed into favors…

    You see, we are having our wedding at my mom’s house in the country. And the guests will be asked to park a short walk away… it gets DARK in the country! So, after thinking about xmas lights, tiki torches, solar lights etc etc etc. We realized the best option will be to give out small LED flashlights as “favors” to get people to their cars! Bonus: those camping on the grounds with us will have lights to get around, and anyone who forgets their favor in their car? Well, INSTANT safety feature (I believe every car should have a flashlight in case of emergencies). TA DA!

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    red_pepper_gal 1754 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:14 am

    I am so jealous of your guests. Now it is 10 AM and I want cookies!

    We’re giving away chocolates, which I absolutely expect to be eaten earlier rather than later, and we’re also having a photo booth, so the favour aspect is well taken care of! And hopefully not in the “Wow, why did I get this?” kind of way.

    For the record – worst favours: a baby tree, and a champagne glass with a paper butterfly attached.

    Where am I going to plant a tree? I live in the city! And what am I going to do with a champagne glass I can’t even use?

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    FutureMrsSpencer 526 posts, Busy bee @ 9:31 am

    We are doing edible favors also. A friend of mine makes cake pops that are so cute. Right at the beginning of planning, I was told by many that favors are a waste because some people don’t take them and some just throw them away. So I thought about something that would not go to waste. Cake!!! With the viennesse table and chocolate fountain at the end of the reception, no one will want to eat their cake pops, but they can eat it the next day or give to the kids.

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    newfiebullet 1293 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:36 am

    Love your idea! I also hate things with the couples names and dates. That’s never made much sense to me.

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    Bridecc 74 posts, Worker bee @ 10:31 am

    We did a donation to Greyhound Rescue. I also made a flip book with our dogs wearing thank you signs and costumes for guests to take home. And Yes, the cover of the flip book had our name and date on them, and Yes, I also had about half of them left behind. However it was a big hit and one of my favourite projects.

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    iammcdibble 995 posts, Busy bee @ 10:33 am

    Don’t love favors either, the only goot ones are food.

    I am planning on doing a candy bar, but along those lines, I definitely think the cookie idea is an excellent one. I don’t know many people who turn down free cookies.

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    melissa, Guest @ 11:29 am

    I love your favor idea! We’re having a photo booth and we will be giving them a bookmark sleeve to put their photo strips in. they can use it as a bookmark. We are also having a 24 foot dessert table too!

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    misssemi 156 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:35 am

    Edible favors are the way to go, in my opinion. I’m toying with the idea of meringue mushrooms to go with all of the birch, fern, moss stuff we’ll have going on, and our reception venue overlooks the woods…but I’m planning from afar and I’m not sure I’ll have the time the week before the wedding to make and assemble them.

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    milissae 149 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:21 pm

    We are making birdseed ornament favors. The tag will read “Hang on a tree at your home to hear spring birds sing”. Our rustic them is nature, trees and birds.

    The cost to make 100 favors, About $35. Of course that is not including the hours of my time!

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    pharlley 27 posts, Newbee @ 1:41 pm

    AGREE!! When deciding our favours, we looked at all things practical, and settled on reusable shopping bags! The key thing to the success here was that we did not use either grey or purple (our wedding colours), we ordered them in black. The best part– THERE IS NO MENTION OF ME, FIANCE, OR WEDDING DATE!! Because, as you mentioned Miss Wizard, no one gives a hoot about your date except you and maybe your parents!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 2:37 pm

    I totally agree with your philosophy on favors! We did the same thing (except with a dessert table). I think people preferred it to a ‘traditional’ favor :)

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    Teirk 50 posts, Worker bee @ 7:56 am

    I was against favors for the same reasons you outlined, but was open to the idea of edibles/consumables – homemade pickles or homemade soap, for example. My mother hit upon the perfect idea of homemade infused olive oils in little glass bottles with corks. Sold! We buy olive oil by the gallon and I am obsessed with glass jars and bottles. It hits all the right buttons for me and I’d like to think people will get some use out of it! Currently on my way to the Strip District to load up on cheap rosemary, yay!

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    msfox 1635 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:46 am

    Super smart! It’s a win-win for all.. get rid of extra cookies, and not spending much money on the favors! I would totes hoard up on all those cookies. ;)

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    SaraKD 95 posts, Worker bee @ 12:26 pm

    We are making tile coasters for our favors. Each person will get two. There is no date or anything on them. They will be in our wedding colors, I had planned on doing black and white but couldn’t find any paper I liked. Who can’t use coaster? What do you think? I still have time to change the favors.
    Here is a link:
    http://blueprintcrafts.com/2010/04/tile-coaster-tutorial/

    Any suggestions would be appreciated. Would you be happy getting these?

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    Scottish 78 posts, Worker bee @ 8:44 am

    I love this “truthbomb” post about favors. haha. I totally agree with your reasoning but for some reason I really want to find some awesome favor for my guests. No idea what that will be yet, but I’m not giving up hope yet!

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