Two Is the Loneliest Number?

I am only having two bridesmaids: my sister and my best friend. I agonized over this decision for a bit, thinking that my “side” would look lonely and that it would look weird to have three times as many guys in the wedding party as girls. (I have three brothers, so our wedding party is overloaded with males.) Plus, think of how fun dress shopping would be for five or six girls!

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The perfectly mismatched-but-coordinated dresses would look a bit odd with only two girls.

I have several other lady friends I could have picked to fill things out a bit. In the end, I decided that I didn’t want to pick people for the sole purpose of taking up space. I love my friends, and while I’m sure we will find other ways to include them at our wedding, I wanted to keep the wedding party small. Things are logistically difficult when your wedding party looks like this:

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Plus, I don’t want our kids to look through our wedding album and wonder who the people standing at the altar with Mommy and Daddy are.

I know I’ll have a lot of fun with my two beautiful ladies on my wedding day and that I’ll have all the love from them that I could ever want. Plus, these ladies look pretty happy with their perfect pair of bridesmaids.

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Did you have a small number of bridesmaids? Did you ever regret not asking more people to stand up with you?

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Mrs. Treasure

Location:
Chicago
Wedding Date:
September 2012

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    jennifer_nz 330 posts, Helper bee @ 3:30 pm

    I had 2 bridesmaids and was so glad of that!! We didnt have to get up at 6 AM to start getting everyones hair and makeup done, it was easier getting dresses that only had to work on 2 people, getting ready there was just the 3 of us (plus hair and makeup) and it was so chilled out without a whole bunch of people crammed in there stressing me out!! Plus same concerns about having more people ‘just beacuse’…these girls really care about me and were so happy to be part of the wedding that I didnt feel that I missed out on anything by having a smaller wedding party.

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    SoCalBelle 101 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:38 pm

    I’ve got 3 for sure…he’s got 5. I thought about adding his sister to my side…but we’re not close, and it would make it more awkward that I’m also not planning to ask my brother and his wife who I’m not close with. I’ve made a list of other possible friends and went through thinking about who I have the most history and meaningful relationships with, and who would be the most reliable and fun… Unfortunatly that’s exactly how it divides up. (the people I’m “closest” to are the least reliable most dramatic ones…and my newer friends would be much better at keeping it light and organized – very tempting, but a guilty thought).

    I admire your fortitude in sticking to the smaller number…perhaps I should do the same.

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    gonnabeMrsHH, Guest @ 3:44 pm

    I have three and honestly, somtimes i wish i had none….#coordinating nightmares#

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    salmonette 54 posts, Worker bee @ 3:45 pm

    Exactly! Very well written post! I’m having my sister, he’s having his son. Easy to plan and coordinate! :)

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    scepter 333 posts, Helper bee @ 3:48 pm

    Sounds like you chose the perfect number for you. We have three bridesmaids and three groomsmen and I can’t imagine it any other way.

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    littlebluebride 118 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:54 pm

    I only have 3 bridesmaids. My best friend as my MOH, my sister and my FSIL (my Fi’s sister) I love it! Less stress, less dress shopping, plus we get to do everything together! I couldn’t imagine it any other way!

    My wedding party is also a touch guy heavy, we have 3 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen + 1 junior bridesmaid.

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    castle 1191 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:10 pm

    I actually think a smaller bridal party makes thins easier. And dress shopping for a large group of girls is not very fun :( Especially with opinionated ladies!

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    mrs.PHAN-tastic 129 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:10 pm

    I am getting married in 4 days and I only have 2 bridesmaids my only sister and his only sister. I did it for 2 reasons,# 1. it was either 2 bridesmaids or 8. Out of all of my close friends 8 is the amount I would have to include without someone feeling left out. If I just did family I could have 2 BMs and none of my friends could be hurt. #2. a big bridal party is even more stress on me, I have to worry about everyone finding a dress, paying for a dress,worrying about everyone getting everywhere on time, having 8 girls getting their hair and make up done, BM bouquets x2, wedding party gifts x2…on and on.

    Anyway, I can say with my wedding so close I am so glad I picked 2, it has been pretty easy dealing with everything for them, and I actually found out that some of my friends were relieved to not be asked because of all the added expenses. Everything will be wonderful for you, I just know it!

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    MrsKeAloha 1044 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:41 pm

    2 – Lucky you! I have five – Five… Five dresses to find on Five different ladies – I have some fabulous friends I have some wonderful people in my life so it sucks to say I wish I could have only had two or three – but I have Five, five wonderful women standing up with me and even more that will be hugging me after the I do’s

    Lucky you – you have Two

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:45 pm

    @Miss Ke Aloha – Thank you for this :-)

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    ShennaB2b 391 posts, Helper bee @ 4:51 pm

    I only have a MOH and FI has a Best man..both our BFFs for years. We were going to each have our siblings (my sis his bro) but since neither of us are that close to our siblings and they are both not financially stable it would have been more of a headache than enjoyment. It is so much easier for me to get up with the 2 of them rather than 4-8 people. Also made BM dress shopping way easy..pretty much here’s the color and length I like and the rest was up to her so my MOH got a dress she loves and didn’t have to compromise with anyone else.

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    future_schu 480 posts, Helper bee @ 5:02 pm

    I’m having 1 bridesmaid and a man of honor, my FI is having one groomsman and a best man. My brother is my man of honor, and honestly- he’ll probably spend most of the time with the guys anyway. I’m so glad I only have one BM, and that she’ll get to have her pick of what she’s wearing :)

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    pokey_dc 85 posts, Worker bee @ 5:13 pm

    We’re only having one each. Makes things easier all around. And cheaper ;)

    I too love the pictures you posted, but when I think about it, we can have something similar with our families (I’m one of 6 he’s one of 5).

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    jaina8851 107 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:17 pm

    We decided to have a family only bridal party, and I left the numbers up to him. I have three brothers and no sisters, and he has two brothers. I told him that if he only wants to have his brothers as groomsmen, then I would ask two of my female cousins. But, if he wanted to include my brothers, then I would ask another cousin, his cousin who he is extremely close to, and his sister in law. While I would have been happy with either option, I’m glad he picked the second so that my brothers could be included in his side and so some girls that he is close with could be included on mine. It works out well for me since I basically have no girl friends, haha…

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 6:13 pm

    My MOH had just two ladies (I was one of them), and it was so nice to just have the three of us, definitely made pictures and dress searching easier :)

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 6:18 pm

    I have three. It’s a great number for me. My sister and closest friends without having a parade.

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    Mashiara 196 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:38 pm

    I’ve also felt the strain of ‘keeping it even’. I have two best girl friends and his sister, while he’s in a fraternity and originally wanted to have 7! We’ve decided on a number around 5. I’m not going to ask anyone just to fill the numbers, but i AM hoping two of my outlying friends step up and into the positions in the next year. Two sounds perfectly fine!

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 6:59 pm

    If we didn’t do the whole shebang I would have had just one attendant and been okay with it — I wanted to have my flock of ladies, though, and fought for it! It’s a bit more logistically challenging, so I can see how that would be a nice change, if you only had to “manage” two people.

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    JRobinson 82 posts, Worker bee @ 9:28 pm

    Im in the same boat. It feels great to hear all the encouraging “pros” of having a smaller bridal party.
    Congrats

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    minimoo 120 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:14 am

    I am also having a smaller side of 3 people with my sister and his two sisters whereas there will be 5 groomsmen (none of whom are related to us). I would like my best friend to stand with me but I didn’t want another person in my bridal party because of the logistics (I don’t live in the same country as any of my bridal party, we couldn’t shop together and coordinating another person in yet another country was too much like hard work), so she’s going to read at our wedding instead. I also thought it might look weird that I have a smaller number, but I much prefer it now.

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    doobie217 8 posts, Newbee @ 3:20 am

    We are actually having no bridal party at all…just the two of us. I have too many close friends to put any above anybody else, and my groom has hardly anybody at all. He works for a very small company and doesn’t really have any male “buddies”. We will have our sweetheart table for two at the reception and from what I understand, anyone that attends the wedding can be witnesses for the license. So there ya go…that’s how we are doing it :)

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    mrsmeyers 144 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:54 am

    that sounds awesome! only 2 girls! so much less to worry about. so much less to pay for each girl! so easy to find 2 dresses!! i lovee all of it! and its who u especially want which is the most important of all!

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    gill84 731 posts, Busy bee @ 6:31 am

    I also had my sister and my best friend, and it was perfect! No regrets :)

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    mrsdtmajor 1579 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:58 am

    We’re having 4 each. He picked his closet friends and i picked mine. I decided not to have any of my family because they all live out of state and i wanted my bridal party to be close by so they can help out (a little selfish maybe?) It’s been pretty easy planning with them. I have a great group of friends and they want to help out as much as possible to alleviate as much stress from me as possible. Love those ladies!

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    paw 871 posts, Busy bee @ 7:07 am

    I had 2 as well! My sister and his sister. This made the most sense for us because I have a couple close friends from college, one from high school, and a couple from law school. So, if I didn’t do just 2… we would have been at 7, and I didn’t want to deal with the drama of so many. :)

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    coyote 1578 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:52 am

    I have 6 bridesmaids, but just last night I was lamenting to Momma Coyote that I wish I only had 3… The logistics are it are so confusing/overwhelming!

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    veggie_rachel 575 posts, Busy bee @ 10:03 am

    I’m likely only having two also (though I keep tossing around the idea of asking a couple more). And I’m still doing the mismatched dresses. Is that crazy? I told my girls they could wear whatever they want, I just gave them my colors. And then told them if they REALLY wanted a dress that wasn’t in our colors they could wear it anyway. Am I asking for trouble on this?

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:19 am

    @ Veggie-Rachel – This was my initial plan, but it didn’t work out so well. Stay tuned for more on that. My advice is to make sure you REALLY trust your girls’ sense of style.

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    Tluna, Guest @ 12:44 pm

    I have 3 sisters and 3 besties!…that’s alot of bridesmaids for my taste, so, I opted to just go with my MOH and we’re having a “best woman”…dress shopping was easy!! They both love their dresses and my FH doesn’t have to worry about his tiny family all being up in front with us at the altar! (he has 2 brothers and 2 male cousins..thats all)

    Made sense to us to have it more intimate, stress free and now our family can just relax and nobody’s feelings are getting hurt! :)

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