When it came time to decide who was going to officiate our ceremony, Mr. Dalmatian and I were a little bit lost. Neither of us are religious, nor are we getting married in a religious setting, so that did not provide an easy answer for us.
Nor do we have a friend like Joey who could become ordained on the internet.
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So, feeling a little lost, I turned to what I had found to be a great resource: the Favorite Links page on our venue’s website (any Nashville brides out there, I recommend you check it out). From here, we found Bill Covington. He has evidently performed a crazy amount of ceremonies of all shapes and sizes here in Nashville. Great! But then we had another decision to make…
The fee that he charges appeared to be reasonable compared to others that we researched, but there was also an additional fee for any meetings before the wedding.
My first instinct was that there was no question – we had to pay this extra fee and meet him before the wedding. But as the countdown has decreased and the “wedding money spent” column on our spreadsheet has increased, my stance on the situation has changed.
Mr. Dalmatian has always been all for skipping the pre-wedding meeting. Have I mentioned that he is the one in the relationship that actually likes to adhere to the budget? Yea, he’s silly like that. I think what brought me over to his side was when I wrote our ceremony (more on that to come). I realized that I, as a very detail-oriented and slightly obsessive-compulsive bride, wrote out everything that we wanted. Word. for. word.
So here I was, a little over a month before our wedding. At this point we have already committed to the officiant (in the form of a deposit and the fact that every other possibility was probably booked), and I had already determined the details of the ceremony wording. So what exactly would a meeting accomplish? Yes, we could shake hands and say hello to him, but I have been assured that he will arrive when we are taking pictures, and we will have plenty of time for pleasantries as the guests are arriving before the ceremony.
Am I a little nervous about not meeting our officiant until the day of our wedding? Yes. But have I come to terms with the fact that for us this makes the most sense? Yes. For some couples, the person that officiates the ceremony is a very important aspect of the wedding. For us, it just did not work out this way. The words of the ceremony will be what makes it special, not the individual who is saying them (other than the parts that are spoken by the bride and groom and reader of course!).
Did you have any vendors you didn’t meet until the day-of? Is someone special officiating your ceremony?