Sweating the Small Stuff

We asked our wedding guests for a bit of wedding-day advice on our RSVP cards. We didn’t want to ask for marriage advice because we’d be getting plenty of that in our guestbook. So far we’ve gotten a few funny ones:


My grandma is glad I’m marrying a future doctor. It’s the most I can contribute to the family, having been an English major.


At least one of my guests will be sorely disappointed.


Great advice! At least fake it!


I don’t think shots are even included in our bar package. Nor am I capable of consuming 10.


A nod to the best musical collaboration of our time

But I noticed there’s a bit of a theme going on with he rest. A lot of people told us to enjoy the day or didn’t write anything at all, but many people have cautioned us against stress.



I am now worrying about excessive perspiration with all those layers of tulle. I’m sweating just thinking about it:


I’m guessing “don’t sweat the small stuff” is just one of those platitudes people pull out when asked for advice, but still, I can’t help but imagine this is directed specifically at me because I’m a generally stressed-out drama queen. I’m trying to keep this advice in mind every day, but to be honest, it’s not helping. At all.

All I do is worry about the wedding details. For the past year or so, I’ve been a slave to my wedding to-do list, and now that it’s almost all done, I’ve become a slave to the logistical planning. For instance:

  • How will we make sure our overnight bags make it to our wedding-night hotel room?
  • What happens if the venue forgets to put our cake-cutting knife on the cake table?
  • Where do we go after we enter the reception to our jazzy entrance song?
  • How do we transition from exiting the church amid cheering and wolf whistles to wrangling family members for photos on the church steps?
  • How will we ever get all of our wedding stuff (centerpieces, candy-buffet glassware, table numbers, etc.) to and from the venue without renting a U-Haul?
  • What do we do if our photo-booth backdrop is too big for the reception space?


Personal pic

This is a dramatic re-enactment of me sweating the small stuff.

I’m confident that our wedding will be beautiful and wonderful and I’ll be married to Mr. Unicycle at the end of it, which is all I really want anyway, but I still have these worries running through my head constantly. My plan is to reread this post some time in July and laugh heartily at what a psycho I sounded like. But right now, I’m too stressed out to laugh heartily.

So tell me: What are you most worried about for your wedding day? What’s the best wedding advice you’ve gotten?


Mrs. Unicycle

Chicago, IL
Wedding Date:
June 2012
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    FutureMrsKamilDark 303 posts, Helper bee @ 3:24 pm

    I’m worried about my parents creating a scene. They are no longer together, and it’s not exactly amicable when they get together.

    And how cute is it that your grandmother is so excited about the future doctor in the family???

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    shortbread 290 posts, Helper bee @ 3:32 pm

    I love the idea of asking for advice on your RSVP cards. I may have to do that just to see what people write.

    Our wedding is in Scotland, and as a result I have a lengthy set of fears. However, the biggest fear is some of my closest family not making it to the wedding on time. It’s four thousand miles away from home so anything can happen with flights, connections and delays. Of course, that fear may be for nothing but it’s still there. The second biggest fear is forgetting something here that I’ll need like my dress…but I’ll be in charge of making sure that doesn’t happen.

    I’m usually the more stressed of the two of us so I’m sure he’ll help me stay calm.

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    letterlove 137 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:51 pm

    I love that you asked for wedding advice on the invites!! That’s such a fun idea

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    soyjoy222 3817 posts, Honey bee @ 5:41 pm

    These are hilarious! I wish I would have had some more creative responses!

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    Victoria, Guest @ 5:51 pm

    Take to heart what they are saying. I got married last Saturday and the hotel was a train wreck (because the Kardashians were there- true story), my flowers were wrong, the cake wasn’t right, one of the ring bearer’s pants got burned while being ironed, a bridesmaid’s shoe broke right before the wedding, the venue didn’t put up our photo booth, they forgot to put a box out to put our unity letters in, the programs weren’t passed out, the card box I slaved over was lost, and they forgot to set up our sparkler exit. I know it sounds like a lot, but honestly, I was the ONLY one that noticed- and I didn’t even notice until we were looking back while on our honeymoon. The guests are STILL raving about wedding and how amazing and perfect it was- and you know what? It WAS perfect- it was the best day ever. More than I ever could possibly imagine went wrong, and it was still all details. My father-in-law wore the best shirt the day of our rehearsal and it set the tone for the weekend. The shirt had a picture of a wine cork screw and it said “Screw It!”. It will still be your day, still be perfect, and will still be marrying the man of your dreams. Just enjoy every second.

    The best advice I got was to take time to stand back in a far corner during the reception and just watch for a few minutes- take in what you have created and the joy around you. It sounds like such simple advice- but it brought me to tears when I stepped back and took note of all of the love around us and everyone enjoying what we had worked so hard to create.

    Your day will be amazing and I am SO looking forward to the pictures!!!!

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 6:51 pm

    I’m honestly worried that Mr. Dragon is going to faint or be paralyzed with panic and not be able to come out on time and screw everything up! It’s not something that I can do anything about other than support him through his stage fright, but jeez, I hope he doesn’t freeze up.

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    lisaelanna 530 posts, Busy bee @ 7:08 pm

    I didn’t really get any wedding advice, but I’m a sucker for giving it…and it kinda fits your theme (above). My friend was a groomsman in a wedding a couple weeks ago and he said the bride was a stressed mess all day. Its fine to stress out until the day of, but I say, on your day, just make everyone else do everything you’re worried about for you – everyone wants to help you out anyway sand they’ll feel included and needed if you give them something to do (so you can sit back and drink mimosas, haha). Also, bring extra booze for the limo. The included bottle of champagne many of them include is not enough for you and your whole wedding party. Three or four bottles should be about right lol

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    redrosewolf 19 posts, Newbee @ 8:36 pm

    Much like FutureMrsKamilDark, I’m very worried about my mom starting something with my stepmom. This is basically the only stressor for me of the entire wedding planning! How to keep my mom as far away as possible from my step mom so no scene can occur! Normally I’m not someone that stresses over a lot things especially for the wedding as my motto is “only myself and my fiance will know if something isn’t right so why stress” I think this is mostly because I was a band geek ‘Just keep playing no one will know any better unless you draw attention to it, just keep playing’ as basically been my outlook on everything! By the way I love some of the advice you have gotten. The unsual undergarments was the best!

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    potion 223 posts, Helper bee @ 11:11 am

    I’m trying to be positive- I’m trying to act like I’m not too concerned with tiny details, that things will just…work, and if they don’t, no one would notice…

    buuuuuuut secretly I freak out about everything all the time and we’re still several months away lol

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    ivorybuttons 1798 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:58 pm

    Just wanted to say these are incredible: such a great idea for response cards, and thanks for sharing the responses, I laughed and smiled and will take your friends & family’s advice to heart as well.

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    RochelleED 38 posts, Newbee @ 5:14 pm

    I’m still waiting for people to answer or give advice on the wedding details you worry about, Miss Unicycle.

    I worry about the same things!

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    rivendeler 1244 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:51 am

    Wow, thank you for your comment, so inspiring!!!! I can not believe all that went “wrong” in your wedding and still only you noticed it!!! Feeling a lot better, honestly 😀 Thank you!

    I am scared of:

    * Weather, of course!! We’re marrying in a garden and for me it’s very, very important the ceremony to happen in the open air as i am quite the nature-lover;
    * triping while going down the aisle! Seriously, my shoes are medium heeled so fine, but i am walking on grass, laying on my grandfather’s arm, on a dress that ONLY saturday i noticed how long it is indeed!!
    *my FI’s ex may show up……..well, if she DOES show up at least i truly hope she BEHAVES and doesn’t wear a ultra-mini skirt and almost no top..

    as for the rest, let’s hope for the best!! 12 days to goo!!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 6:34 am

    These are hilarious, I love your guests! I was most worried about rain, and then, when we got closer to the day, how the hell everything was going to get to the wedding and back cause it was so much stuff.

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    msfairy 976 posts, Busy bee @ 7:19 pm

    The rsvp responses are the cutest thing and such a fun keepsake.. LOVE!

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    coyote 1930 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:49 pm

    Love all the responses you got Uni! I am deff sweating alllll the small stuff right now!

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    msfox 1635 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:02 am

    Chica, I tooootally sweat about the small stuff, too! I think my biggest (and stupidest) concern is that the photog will get there to take “getting ready” shots, since she’s not coming until 11am or so. Or that my parents will be so on top of my case that I won’t get to dance. Oh, and that our reception ends so super early that it’ll suck. Meh.

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    SarahConnors 152 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:56 pm

    My mom gave me the best advice so far I think. We’re having a DW (a drivable distance though)- and I’m going up for 3 days prior with my maid of honor/sister who lives in another country normally. My mom said to get all the little stuff done so I can just bask in the happiness that surrounds this day. I have to say- she’s right! But I enjoy DIY stuff- so I’m basking in that as well.
    My biggest fear- torrential rain I suppose- or that any more loved ones won’t make it to the big day- my great-grandmother passed away just a month and a half ago and we’re just 10 days away from our wedding- and it broke my heart. I guess I also worry that it won’t come together like I’m hoping too. *sigh*

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:43 am

    My parents drove 600 miles this weekend to help with wedding stuff. That greatly reduced my stress because we got soooo much done. Now off to taste wine for our welcome cocktail party!

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