All Children Grow Up. Except [Two]

What’s the most common question a bride is asked halfway through the engagement?

“How’s the wedding planning going?”

This is a rather dangerous question to ask. I’m sure the asker thinks it’s a polite, generic question asked in an effort to feign genuine interest in the millions of details swirling through a bride’s brain at any given moment. The asker probably assumes that he’ll receive a simple, “It’s going well” and a smile, and then he’s off the hook and can move on to the next question.

Well, folks, I’m here to set the record straight:

Halfway-ish through the engagement, if you ask me “How’s the wedding planning going?” you’d best be prepared for a good half-hour discussion on the mathematics involved in selecting bridesmaids’ dresses, the frustration of coordinating a kind-of-destination wedding, strategies to find what you’re looking for at an antique store, and tips and tricks for sewing bow ties (more on that later!), among other things.

I say half an hour because that’s about how long I can go without pausing for a breath, at which point you can make a speedy escape.

Unless, of course, in your naivete, you contribute your thoughts on any of these topics, affording me the opportunity to inhale quickly before diving into my next lecture.

In an effort to save you some time, I’ve come up with a list of questions you can ask a bride nearing the halfway point of the engagement that won’t commit you to any more than, say, five minutes worth of an answer. The trick is to be specific, and stick to topics you’re at least vaguely interested in.

  • What does your dress look like?
  • What are you colors?
  • What shoes are you wearing?
  • Have you picked a song for your first dance?
  • Have you picked a hairstyle?
  • Are you wearing a veil?
  • Where are you going for your honeymoon?

That last one is really the best question, because everybody likes hearing about other people’s vacations—it’s a great opportunity to talk about your own favorite vacation spots or offer advice if you’ve visited the locale of choice.

So, hive, go ahead—ask me.

“Where are you going for your honeymoon?”

I’m so glad you asked!

We’re going to Walt Disney World!

Because we are, in fact, just a couple of kids.

peterpa

From Disney’s Peter Pan / Image via Disney Screen Caps

I know, I know, Disney will NOT be a relaxing vacation, but Mr. Potion and I just aren’t beach people—we both burn rather easily (especially me), and if we went to some sort of all-inclusive resort type place we’d probably spend the whole time just drinking at the pool, which we could do anywhere, really, without having to go some place expensive. So while Disney won’t be a laid-back, lounge-all-day honeymoon, it will be a lot of fun, and the kind of magic you can literally only experience at Disney.

We’ve been talking about a Disney honeymoon for as long as we’ve been talking about getting married, and that’s…a long time. To be honest, I’m not sure why we originally decided on it. I know at one point we’d been tossing around the idea of going on a cruise around the Mediterranean, and I found one that lasts 30 days, which we both agreed would be pretty impossible to swing for a honeymoon (though it would be AWESOME).

Interesting aside: back in the day, that’s what a honeymoon was—a journey of a month or even longer during which the couple really got to know each other for the first time. Wealthy couples, anyway—not-so-well-off couples didn’t take a honeymoon at all. They just moved into their new home together. Wealthy brides were also the only ones who wore white dresses, too, not because it symbolized purity, but because white fabric was expensive and keeping it white was even more expensive, and therefore it was a status symbol. But I digress.

So, yes, DISNEY. Are we crazy? Perhaps. Will it be expensive? Hell yes. Will it be worth it? ABSOLUTELY.

Whenever wedding planning starts to feel stressful, or we go for a week without seeing each other because we’re both so busy and therefore lament the fact that November feels so far away, we cheer ourselves up by chanting DISNEY DISNEY DISNEY and bouncing up and down. (OK, I bounce up and down. Mr. Potion isn’t really one to bounce—he’s never been a pre-teen girl and therefore doesn’t have much practice.) This has become our simple way of saying, “Yes, this wedding stuff is kind of ridiculous sometimes and we really just want to be married already, but all of this will be worth it when we get to spend a week in The Happiest Place on Earth.

Where did you go for your honeymoon? Would you ever consider such a labor-intensive honeymoon, or are you more of a sit-in-the-sand-with-a-drink person? Does a theme park full of rowdy children just not scream “romance” to you, or do you see the adventure in it like we do?

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Mrs. Potion

Location:
Herndon, VA
Wedding Date:
November 2012
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    zippitydoodah 210 posts, Helper bee @ 12:25 pm

    I’m doing a Disney honeymoon too! We are NOT sit and relax type people… we went with my parents to the beach once and got bored after 2 hours (seriously) and ended up driving 3 hours to Disney world and spending the rest of the trip there haha. We’re doing 5 days at the Yacht and Beach Club (with Deluxe dining oh boy) and then we’re doing a 6 day Disney Dream cruise to the Bahamas. It’s going to be a super busy vacation and that’s how we like it :) We would both be bored to pieces laying on some beach somewhere, and well… we love Disney World :)

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 12:36 pm

    A few years ago I told Mr. Toadstool that if he wanted to marry me he’d have to take me to Disneyland for our honeymoon, I’ve never been and it sounds amazing, but realitu is we’re barely able to afford this wedding, a honeymoon’s not in the cards… for now.

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    FutureMrsKamilDark 303 posts, Helper bee @ 12:39 pm

    I wish I could convince my FI to go, but alas… he will not. He says he’ll go when we have kids, though, so I can’t harp too much.

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    coyote 1576 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:52 pm

    My parents went to Disney for their honeymoon and they had the most amazing time! I am super jealous of your HM and am dying to go back to Disney!!

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    totheislnds 7804 posts, Bumble Beekeeper @ 1:04 pm

    My Parents went to Disney for their honeymoon 2 years after it opened! We are def beach people so we picked Jamaica but we have both been dying to go to Disney as well! Can you believe my husband has never been? that is just crazy to me.

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    abbylyn 409 posts, Helper bee @ 1:08 pm

    We had tossed around a few different options, but DW always came back. I looked at him at one point and said “so when are we just going to give in and do a Disney honeymoon?” Finances have postponed the trip semi-indefinitely, but we’re definitely looking forward to planning a trip!

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    MsRobyn 52 posts, Worker bee @ 1:12 pm

    Another story I heard about the origins of the word “honeymoon” was that way back when a couple got married the bride’s father would supply them with honey mead for the first month, hence honey-month.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 1:13 pm

    We went to WDW for our honeymoon and it was awesome! There’s so much to do there, you can make it as action packed or romantic as you’d like :)

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    potion 223 posts, Helper bee @ 1:14 pm

    It’s gonna be totally awesome!

    @totheislnds: Never been to Disney? You must remedy that as soon as possible! It’s the happiest place on earth!

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    gonnabeMrsHH 466 posts, Helper bee @ 1:15 pm

    Disney sounds great….
    Ive never been, and cant wait to go :)
    We couldnt choose where to go for the honeymoon, so we ended up booking for a short cruise and a couple of days Universal Studios afterwards :)

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    mvest 389 posts, Helper bee @ 1:21 pm

    We are going to Silver Dollar City (Branson, MO) for our honeymoon. Its close to home (3 hrs away) & won’t cost us an arm & a leg. Plus, there is so much other stuff to do in Branson. I can’t wait. It’s where we had planned a summer trip to long before we started dating, & its where we went on our first vacation together. :)

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 1:25 pm

    I love Disney! And I’m super jealous. Mr. D won’t go to Disney until we have kids to drag along. :)

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    ms. headphone 290 posts, Helper bee @ 3:19 pm

    We’re planning on taking a Disney minimoon before our big trip. Because we’re both using up a lot of our vacation time planning the wedding, we won’t have enough time to go overseas until next year.

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    ms. headphone 290 posts, Helper bee @ 3:20 pm

    I forgot to add that we’re going because I cannot wait to go to Universal Studios and see the Wizarding World of Harry Potter. MAIN REASON FOR GOING TO FLORIDA, EVER.

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    scepter 333 posts, Helper bee @ 4:15 pm

    We loved our trip to Disney World! I had the best time plotting out the rides you had to go to early in the morning, and then making a game of trying to wait in the lines the least amount of time possible. Which hotel are you staying in?

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    beanstalk 770 posts, Busy bee @ 4:28 pm

    I LOVE Disney!!! I grew up in Anaheim, so Disneyland was right there!!! Then when we moved to Miami we had Disney World a few hours north!!! I would have loved to honeymoon there… but Mr. Beanstalk isn’t too into rides. you two are going to have soooooo much fun!!! Disney really is the happiest place on earth!!

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    msfairy 976 posts, Busy bee @ 6:52 pm

    Disney sounds like a fabulous honeymoon!! We went to Disneyworld two years ago for the half marathon weekend, and loved every second of the parks and spotting the characters :) You will have such a great time!

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    Jeanne, Guest @ 11:10 pm

    We are going to Disney as a pre-wedding/early honeymoon a few months before our wedding-we are super excited!!!

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:25 am

    I’m shocked y’all aren’t going to Harry Potter Land (I have no idea what it’s really called).

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    tyler aka mr potion 11 posts, Newbee @ 8:14 am

    Yeah we’re going to the wizarding world of harry potter for aday!

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    alicia1745 1118 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:00 am

    Since Disney is literally right in our backyard… we went elsewhere. We took a week long cruise. We are totally water/sun people so it was perfect for us. Enjoy Disney!!

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    BRbee 246 posts, Helper bee @ 4:49 pm

    We honeymooned at Disney! We also hit up Universal for Harry Potter World. It was awesome! We went this past September right after school started, so there were no crowds and we got through everything quickly. We could wake up at 10:00 and still be done with the park of the day by 2 or 3. :)

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    CocoaBean 12 posts, Newbee @ 5:50 am

    Disney is the best grown-up trip I have even taken! EVER. You have to take a day to go to the Wizarding World of HArry Potter. It is AMAZING. The line for one ride takes you through Hogwarts, and it is super well done!

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