A Bad Dress Rehearsal Means a Good Performance*

*Disclaimer: I am not trying to imply that a wedding is a performance, because I truly do not think it is, but I still think that quote fits here.

Hive, I cannot thank you enough for all of your kind words of support on Saturday. I read them all as I was getting my hair done that morning, watching the rain pour down outside, and they made me feel so much better.

Everything was out of perspective for me. Because I was acting as my own decorator, DJ, cake baker, coordinator, and everything in between, I was wringing my hands over the details. Up until the rehearsal I was essentially the only person who knew exactly what was supposed to happen when, so I had to direct everyone and everything, and I was still trying to direct on the wedding day. But reading your comments reminded me to just let things go and be present to experience the day.

And you know what?

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Guest photo

Everything turned out perfect. More perfect than I could have imagined. As my aunt drove me from the hotel to the venue for our first look, the sun suddenly came out, the ground dried up, and the weather was entirely perfect from then on. We were wed outside in the most perfect ceremony with those mountains in the background, and it was exactly what I had pictured and dreamed of. And because I let go of the control freak in me (not an easy thing for me to do), I was able to consciously make memories and experience the day, and it was absolutely beautiful. Things went wrong, no one danced at the reception, and it ended two hours early because everyone had left. But I had a husband, I had heard from everyone how beautiful the day was and how much they enjoyed it, and I had had the time of my life, and that’s what mattered.

I won’t say that all the worry was for nothing—there were legitimate concerns in the hours leading up to the wedding, and not just about the weather. But everything turned out perfectly, and I could not have asked for a more perfect wedding day. When we got back to our hotel room that night, before I even took my dress off, I plopped down on the bed with my laptop and wrote out every little detail and memory that I could remember because I already felt those tiny moments slipping away from me. I told Mr. Wiz that it felt like when you wake up from a dream and you can feel the details rapidly fading, and all you’re left with is impressions. I wanted to preserve those details, because I never want to forget a second of that day.

Now we wait for our professional pictures and video, but for now I am enjoying watching guest photos roll in on Facebook. I can’t wait to come back and share every last detail with you all. Thank you so much again for all of your support; it really meant a lot to me.

Love love love,

MRS. Wizard!

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Mrs. Wizard

Location:
Pittsburgh
Wedding Date:
June 2012
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    Miss ABC, Guest @ 5:37 pm

    You make a beautiful bride! So glad that everything worked out perfectly.

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    sundaylouu 26 posts, Newbee @ 6:19 pm

    This is so great to read! I’ve thought of you a couple times the last few days wondering how things went. CONGRATS on being a Mrs!

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    sunhat 1453 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:24 pm

    I’m so happy you had a wonderful day and got to enjoy all of your hard work! Can’t wait to see lots of pics!

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    Mrs. Dragon 813 posts, Busy bee @ 6:30 pm

    Hurray! You two look wonderful!

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    genie 723 posts, Busy bee @ 9:55 pm

    You look so happy! And the sun shined! I’m glad your day turned out great despite all of your worries!

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    village_skeptic 1861 posts, Buzzing bee @ 11:04 pm

    You look gorgeous! So happy that you had the day you wanted. Great instincts to write everything out — while I couldn’t possibly have done it that night, I’m in the process now.

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    msfairy 976 posts, Busy bee @ 3:23 am

    Yay!! Congratulations!!! So happy everything worked out so beautifully and you have such wonderful memories!! :)

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    steph01924 308 posts, Helper bee @ 6:54 am

    Congratulations!!!

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    AT, Guest @ 7:45 am

    You look so beautiful and happy! Glad everything went smoothly and you had a wonderful wedding day!

    If times were tough earlier, it is not your fault. I can’t stand terms like control “freak” and “bridezilla” etc. because how can we be brides AND planners extraordinaire AND agreeable cool cucumbers! Getting married (esp on a budget/with a lot of DIY) is a superhero feat! On top of being thrilled about getting married (of course), you should be proud cuz the wedding itself is indeed an accomplishment! I’m so glad everything worked out–congrats!

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    t3al3af 61 posts, Worker bee @ 8:00 am

    You look stunning! I’m so happy that things turned out for the best on your special day! I can’t blame you for stressing – lord know’s I will when the day comes! Congratulations on becoming a MRS!

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    mrs.PHAN-tastic 129 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:36 am

    Congrats! I’ve been following your blog for sometime and I saw your last post before the wedding. I felt terrible, you deserved a special day and I could tell in your heart that you truly believed that it wouldn’t happen. I was so curious to see how it turned out and was so delighted when I came across this post with a picture of you OUTSIDE and smiling!! On my wedding day everyone said those cliche things that you probably heard over and over, “everything will work out” ” just remember you’re marrying your best friend” ” your wedding is what you make of it” but you know what? Most of time, those cliche sayings are true!! I’m so happy everything worked out for you!! Welcome to the MRS. club!!

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    msunicorn 149 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:23 pm

    Congratulations, Mrs. Wizard!!! I’m glad everything worked out in the end!

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    alicia1745 1118 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:30 am

    Yay! I’m glad everything turned out & the weather played nice!

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    anemonie 1578 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:28 am

    I’m so, so happy everything turned out so well in the end! You look positively blissed out in that photo–very clearly enjoying the moment. I hope no creepy crawlies were there to distract from the joy!

    This gives me hope for my own outdoor wedding. I’m going to try to remember to let go and let things unfold as they will. Fingers crossed!

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    KristenK 189 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:22 pm

    Congrats! That is a great Photo!! You look sooo extremely happy!

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    mstiara 92 posts, Worker bee @ 7:38 am

    YAY!!! Can’t wait to hear the whole story!!!

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    cicijapan 263 posts, Helper bee @ 7:04 pm

    In so glad the weather was great!!

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    Mis Iris 218 posts, Helper bee @ 6:37 pm

    Congratulations, you look beautiful. Looking forward to more pics and stories of the day of! :)

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