Mrs. Mink’s Big Secret

I’ve been hiding something from you, hive. The fear that you’d think I was silly or wasteful has prevented me from sharing this with you. I also wanted it to be a surprise at our wedding and, though Mr. Mink doesn’t read Weddingbee, I know some of our friends and family do.

So I’m going to close my eyes and type it out really quickly. Here we go.

I am a two-dress bride.

Let me back up and start at the beginning. All of the dresses I felt drawn to in my preliminary searching for a wedding dress were by fairly expensive designers. I also wanted to try to buy from someone who was making their gowns in the America. I went to shops and tried on dresses and wound up with six dresses that I liked. I didn’t think I could afford any of them new, but could definitely afford them used or as samples. I started searching the sample/secondhand sites every morning for those six dresses.

Camille by Modern Trousseau / Kennedy by Amsale


Dari by Rivini, via Recycled Bride / Bernadette by Monique Lhuillier, via Style Me Pretty

L191 by Romona Keveza, via Project Wedding / Celine by Amsale, via Project Wedding

Then, I won a one-of-a-kind Jorge Manuel gown, The Star. I stopped looking at the sample sites. Jorge’s team flew me to Charleston to pick up my dress. Not knowing who would win the dress, Jorge wisely made it in a bridal size 8. Lindsey from Maddison Row clamped me into the dress, and I felt beautiful in it. But, I felt unworthy. I had settled on the idea that I would wear a secondhand wedding dress, and then I was whisked away to try on a one-of-a-kind gown (and put up in a villa at a resort for the night, too). I have to admit that I felt guilty. I figured out how to get a dream dress at a big discount. What about the girls out there who hadn’t done that? Did I deserve the dress more than them?

On the practical side, I also felt a little scared. I had read online that a seamstress could take a dress up or down a size or two. I wasn’t sure about my size in bridal sizing, but I was worried that altering the dress might ruin it. I was also worried about how much it would cost to do extensive alterations.

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Photo by Paige Winn

When I got home, I brought that gorgeous Jorge Manuel gown to a charming seamstress named Thuy, and she decided to do two rounds of alterations. She’d bring the dress down to my general size right away, and then I’d return closer to the wedding to having it fitted. Thuy loved my gown, but as she inspected it and clucked over adjustments she’d be making, I was worried about whether she could make it work. She had to work around the floral detail that stretched around the sides of the dress (my favorite part!) from one side to the other, and she also had to negotiate her way around pleats in the skirt.

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I love that this happened while I was wearing a stand-in ring. / Photo by Paige Winn

Soon after, I went to Boston for business and tacked on an extra day to visit with family. I was so worried about what would happen with the dress that I asked my mother to go with me to Vows, a store that specializes in selling sample dresses. I described a few of the six dresses I had liked originally, thinking that we could possibly find an inexpensive backup dress. Just a few moments after we separated to browse, my mother showed up next to me with an Amsale dress in her hands. It was one of the six dresses. I had tried it on at a salon early in my planning and didn’t think it was romantic enough for our venue, but I thought it was a gorgeous party dress. The sample was 70% off the retail price. We bought it. Vows had it cleaned and repaired a loose bow before shipping it to me in Virginia. I tucked it away on a high shelf.

For a while, I wasn’t sure what I was going to do. Thuy, the seamstress, did a great job getting The Star to fit me. Some pleats on the sides of the skirt were sacrificed, but I didn’t lose any of the beautiful details from the bodice. The only problem was that bustling the gown was going to be odd—it has what I believe is a court-length train (shorter than chapel length, about one foot of train on the ground). I think people usually just let that sort of train be. How the heck was I going to dance with a train? Since I couldn’t imagine it bustled, I figured I’d just deal with it as is.

A few weeks before the wedding, Jorge asked me to come to Washington, DC to help him announce this year’s winner of the Upon a Star contest. I resolved to ask his advice about bustling the dress that night. We went to dinner after the event and, out of the blue, he said something along the lines of “Are you going to change for the reception? I like it when brides change.”

I was shocked. Did he have some sort of extra sensory perception? Information about the sample, the bustling, and the alterations came tumbling out of me. It was the least eloquent I’ve sounded in a long time. At the end of our conversation, I felt like I had his blessing to wear both dresses.

So that’s the story of how I became a two-dress bride.

Are there any other brides out there who have two dresses? How did you wind up becoming a two-dress bride?

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Mrs. Mink

Location:
Charlottesville, Virginia
Wedding Date:
June 2012
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    eagle 1552 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:40 pm

    Thanks for sharing your big secret Mrs Mink! :) I love both of your dresses so much. The Amsale dress is so classic while your Jorge Manuel gown is so modern – best of both worlds!

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:53 pm

    I’m OBSESSED with that Amsale dress. I loooooove Amsale’s designs so much.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 3:00 pm

    Both dresses are so beautiful, you are one lucky bride :)

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    lindsey.sturges 54 posts, Worker bee @ 3:05 pm

    I tried on an Amsale during my dress search and had the same thought as you – not “wedding” enough but I would love it as a party dress! Sounds like you came up with the perfect solution

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    mrsdtmajor 1579 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:07 pm

    I’m a two dress bride. My wedding gown is beautiful but it wasn’t what I always envisioned myself wearing. I wanted something I could dance in all night. Since my wedding gown was a gift from my grandmother we decided there was money in the budget for me to have a second gown. So I found a pretty white bridesmaid dress that I could wear during the reception.

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    mslyre 512 posts, Busy bee @ 3:11 pm

    Seriously, I am in love with both of your dresses. They are so different, and unique, and they both fit you so beautifully.

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    FutureMrsKamilDark 303 posts, Helper bee @ 3:21 pm

    I think anyone who wants to be a two dress bride should rock it without feeling any guilt or shame! You won an amazing contest, and ended up with two amazing dresses! Go you!

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 3:25 pm

    They’re such different dresses, I can see how you ended up with both! :)

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    mink 2178 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:36 pm

    @Miss Eagle: I kind of love that they’re not really “related.” I imagine some people think it’s almost jarring!

    @Miss Treasure: I’m a huge Amsale fan, too. Obviously, I’m a gigantic Jorge fan!!!

    @Mrs. Pony: Aw, thanks Pony!

    @lindsey.sturges: I could have seen the Amsale for a ceremony in a hotel or private club. It didn’t seem like the dress for a ceremony in a vineyard…of course, my ceremony didn’t wind up being in the vineyard!

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:39 pm

    I love both dresses, your reception gown is just breathtaking.

    I don’t think I’d like to change for the reception, I’m adamant about wearing the same dress cause well.. it’s going to be expensive and I want to take advantage of it, but I like when some brides change cause some dresses might be too fancy or big for a reception.

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    mink 2178 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:39 pm

    @MrsDTMajor: Yay! I hope you rock that second dress!

    @Miss Lyre: Hee hee. Do you think everyone’s realizing that the Bees know which dress of the six is mine? :)

    @FutureMrsKamilDark: Thanks! I was hoping that would be the response!

    @Miss Dragon: These comments are making me feel so much better. I really thought everyone would think I was so foolish for having two dresses.

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    trailmix 6663 posts, Bee Keeper @ 5:39 pm

    Wow, double the fun, both are so gorge!!! ( although my fave is def the Jorge)

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    turkey 654 posts, Busy bee @ 5:48 pm

    Such a fun thing to do!! How did your guests react? Were they WOWed twice!?!?

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    mink 2178 posts, Buzzing bee @ 6:17 pm

    @Miss Toadstool: I totally understand. My situation was so, so different. My two dresses retailed for a lot, but the cost to me was a fraction of that…less than what most people spend on a wedding gown.

    @Mrs. Trail Mix: Thanks! I love the Jorge gown, too! It doesn’t hurt that he’s amazingly nice.

    @Mrs. Turkey: A lot of people were shocked…a few had to ask because they had never heard of a two dress bride!

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    priyathescientist 1514 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:26 pm

    I love the idea of being a two-dress bride! You wear something official (and potentially heavy) for your ceremony, and then something fun and flirty so that you can enjoy yourself during the reception.

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    bridesmomma 456 posts, Helper bee @ 8:37 pm

    I am excited to see photos of you in both of your gowns!!

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    eagle 1552 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:52 pm

    @bridesmomma: you will love the photos! (hint: I’ve seen some already and Mrs. Mink is DROP DEAD GORGEOUS! Most stunning bride I’ve seen in a very, very long time).

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    mcdonald_515 93 posts, Worker bee @ 1:20 am

    I like the idea of a two dress bride but it is not for me! I am SO IN LOVE with my dress I do not think I will want to take it off for days. I am trying to think of other reasons I can wear it… haha :) you dresses are beautiful

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    All In 1550 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:43 am

    I think you have a lovely, humble attitude, and no one should judge you for being a two-dress bride–it sounds like you’ve made the right decision for you!

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    ebats 49 posts, Newbee @ 6:54 am

    both are stunning. you go girl.

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    mink 2178 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:27 am

    @priyathescientist: For me, it was daytime/romantic/vineyard to night/sleek, party. I felt amazing in both dresses!

    @bridesmomma: I have proofs, but I’ll share the final images soon!

    @Miss Eagle: Aw, thanks, Eagle. Thinking about it, you’re having a two dress wedding! Double the pretty!!!

    @mcdonald_515: I love both of my dresses, though! I just don’t think my Jorge Manuel gown would have been best with a bustle. :)

    @All In: Thank you, so much. You are too kind!

    @ebats: Thanks!!!

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    castle 1191 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:21 am

    I love both you dresses and I can’t wait for the recaps!!!!

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    scottishmrs 3213 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:33 am

    That’s such a nice story! By the way… I really want to know what shoes you ended up wearing for the wedding! Could you do a post on them soon?

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    Miss T-Rex 688 posts, Busy bee @ 9:39 am

    With a deal like that go for it! Yay! :D

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    WangYue 36 posts, Newbee @ 12:10 am

    I love the details on the dress,especially the pattarns.

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    CoolestBrideEvah 2 posts, Wannabee @ 3:47 pm

    I’m waiting for my Romona Keveza L191 to arrive and I’m so excited! At first I had a simple tea-length dress that I was planning on wearing for both ceremony and reception, a dress I bought off the rack and got altered beautifully but I was never sold to the idea of wearing a short dress for the ceremony, even if it’s going to be a garden humanist ceremony, it’s not an intimate wedding, I’m getting married in Ireland, in a Golf club mansion, in front of 150 people, I’m from Canada and my fiancee is irish so we’re traveling for the wedding. I always felt I needed something more WOW. So after hours of research I got lucky and found this dress and won the bidding on ebay, on a brand new Romona Keveza sample, measurements are perfect, I just ordered it, can’t wait to try it on and hopefully it fits! The funny part is that the Romona Keveza turned out to be less expensive than the first tea-length dress…

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