Bridezilla

We’re all familiar with the term “bridezilla.” Heck, there’s even a show entirely dedicated to showcasing brides behaving badly.

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Image based off artwork created by Weddingbee; Edited by Mr. Unicorn

I was determined not to be THAT bride.

I’ve been pretty flexible with my bridesmaids’ dresses, I’ve been super accommodating with the groomsmen’s attire, and I’ve made concessions here and there with other wedding details.

When we had to change our venue, I admit I had a bit of a sob-fest. But who wouldn’t??? The farm wedding that I had spent three months planning seemed to be falling to pieces, and even though people kept telling me that “it’s about the marriage, not the wedding,” I couldn’t help but be upset. As time went on, I got over it and threw myself headfirst into re-planning the wedding.

Still, there are times I feel like a Bridezilla.

Example A:

My mother and grandmother took me wedding-shoe shopping because the original shoes I bought were WAAAAY too tall; I would have towered over Mr. U in all the photos, and while that may not matter to some people, it mattered to me. So off to the mall we went. I had seen gorgeous pictures all over the internet of brides with colorful shoes, and I was determined to incorporate at least one of my wedding colors into my bridal look. Shoes seemed like the best way to do just that. I was thinking of going with either navy or peach. I know I’m not the only girl that loves the colored-shoe trend. All those guilty of jumping on the colored-shoe train, raise your hands high!

Nothing could have prepared me for my mother’s vehement opposition to colored shoes. In her own words: “Navy shoes??? With your wedding dress??? That’s so tacky! You’re wearing white shoes, missy.” Except she said it in Spanish, so it sounded more angry and dramatic.

I politely explained that I had my heart set on either navy or peach shoes, and that I was going to wear whatever shoes I pleased on my wedding day. Well, then it was my grandmother’s turn to call me tacky and insist on white shoes. When she threatened to buy a pair of white kitten heels for me, I found myself in an awkward position. If she bought the shoes, I would feel obligated to wear them. If she didn’t buy me the shoes, then she would undoubtedly give me the cold shoulder for the remainder of her stay with us.

“But it’s MY wedding.” Oh no. There it was. The dreaded Bridezilla catchphrase and I was the one saying it.

My mom and grandma glared daggers at me until I meekly accepted the shoebox containing the white kitten heels I didn’t want.

I was torn. I felt like a Bridezilla for saying, “It’s MY wedding!” On the other hand, I’m not happy with the shoes we bought. I know that as far as the big picture, shoes really don’t matter.

What do you think, hive? Was I a total bridezilla? Should I use this tutorial to paint my boring white shoes the color I want? Or should I just give in and wear the darn things just the way they are?

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Mrs. Unicorn

Location:
Atlanta, Georgia
Wedding Date:
September 2012

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    soyjoy222 3814 posts, Honey bee @ 1:02 pm

    I just wanted to tell you that I am SO in love with these edited unicorn icons. Hilarious!

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    amethystmeg 235 posts, Helper bee @ 3:15 pm

    Woah. Your shoes have nothing to do with anyone else’s happiness. I am sorry your mom and grandmother put you in that position although I am sure they just wanted to make sure you look beautiful on your big day (albeit, THEIR idea of what would make you look beautiful). I say, dye them and don’t tell them… because it is none of their business.

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    MsMagtoMrsK, Guest @ 4:26 pm

    I am having a similar situation with my FMIL. Everytime I or my fiance shows her something we like or are planning she shoots it down and once she even laughed out loud! It makes me mad, but I have to remember that she doesn’t read wedding blogs and we will still do what we want since my fiance and I are the ones getting married. At the end of the day it is your wedding! If you think that you will be sad not to have a cute colorful shoe picture, then paint them (LOVE that idea!). If it doesn’t bother you that much then wear them as is.

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    pumalvr 109 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:08 pm

    Weddings bring out the crazy in people that you’d least expect. My mom was horrified when I chose to wear these shoes for my wedding (http://imgur.com/83sax). I thought they were cute because I wore a tea length dress, and I could easily rewear them after the wedding. She ended up agreeing they were really cute with my dress.

    You’re honestly not obligated to wear the shoes, and I think your mom and grandmother will love whatever you choose to wear.

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    The Torpedo Factory 94 posts, Worker bee @ 7:40 pm

    you have the right to wear the shoes you want…and it does not make you a Bridezilla. I think it is unfair of your mom and grandma to force you to do what THEY want. I would wear the shoes for the rehearsal dinner and then wear what you want for wedding day. Mom and grammi need to understand that this is YOUR dream wedding :)

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    CharmBracelet 209 posts, Helper bee @ 8:08 pm

    You could wear the shoes your grandma purchased just for you but wear your navy and peach colors on your toes! It could be like a little secret you keep until later and show them how you oh-so-cleverly incorporated your colors. Or you could have a change of comfy shoes to wear later on. :)

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    bunnybeau 24 posts, Newbee @ 9:35 pm

    Dude…agree with all the “wear what you want”s. But, I also dig Mrs. Pony’s suggestion. I am totally at the “whatever, I’m done with people getting emotional about stupid ish” point in my planning process…some things I’m just not gonna fight against anymore. You could be a two shoe bride :]

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    cowpoke06 169 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:43 am

    I would still go out and buy the shoes you want. It’s going to bug you the whole time and every time you look at your wedding pictures you’re gonna have that deep inner, “sigh.” Wear those to the rehearsal or something and get the shoes YOU want for YOUR wedding. It doesn’t make you a bridezilla to want to be happy. Sometimes you just have to pull the bride card. Now when you start bossing people around, throwing temper tantrums and demanding things – then we’ll just host a good old fashioned intervention :)

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    gonnabeMrsHH 466 posts, Helper bee @ 6:39 am

    Totally NOT bridezilla!
    I understand that you dont want to upset your mom and granmother, but really…it is your wedding and imo, the wedding is supposed to reflect what you and your groom want/love. I would prob wear the white shoes to the rehearsal dinner or some other family related wedding occassion, but i would totally get the navy shoes for the wedding :)

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    blonde17jess 1290 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:56 am

    You could always wear the white shoes for the ceremony and get “fun” shoes for the reception. It may seem silly to change shoes, but then you get to make everyone happy, so I think it’d be worthwhile.

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    Mrs. Mouse 4702 posts, Honey bee @ 3:53 pm

    Getting to pick YOUR wedding shoes is totally a privilege of being a bride. Definitely not a bridezilla move, if you ask me. :)

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    cicijapan 263 posts, Helper bee @ 6:55 pm

    Wear the shoes you want! It’s your wedding pictures that you are going to look at for the rest of your life, you should enjoy looking at them.

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    Red Poppy 18 posts, Newbee @ 8:39 am

    I like the idea of wearing the shoes your grandmother bought you for the ceremony and for family pictures (not that they’ll even be visible! but you can point them out to her and your mom during that time), and then changing into something more fun for the reception and have your photography take some pics then. Because honestly, unless they go out of their way to take photos of your shoes, the color or style don’t make a difference! I wore black sandals I already owned and got some resistance at first from my sister and fiance, but in the end I was happy although no one even saw my shoes.

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    StoriaCrissosa 246 posts, Helper bee @ 7:39 pm

    I’d say either dye them, buy your own and don’t even wear the ones you want, or exchange them. It is YOUR wedding, that’s not being a bridezilla at all…. it’s stating facts.

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