Oh My God. Shoes.

Anytime Mr. Ly or myself says “shoes,” the other immediately responds with “let’s get some shoes” which inevitably leads us to the viral video seen here:

Shoes—the full version—by liamkylesullivan / via YouTube

So, if you watch the video or just skip to about three minutes in, you’ll see the part where the saleswoman says: “Um, these run kinda small. I don’t think they’re gonna fit. I mean your feet are kinda big.” STORY OF MY LIFE.

I have long passed my obsession with shoes, due to the fact that shoes I love, shoes that are cute, shoes that people covet—don’t fit my feet. I still ogle really beautiful shoes, but I never ever buy them. It’s one splurge I don’t have to even worry about tempting me.

Here are some shoes I love:


Kate Spade – Lisa


Kate Spade – Didi (no longer available)


Badgley Mischka – Randall

(of course, two out of three are Kate Spade!)

So, you can see, I have high-end tastes when it comes to what I like, but sadly none of these shoes will fit my feet. My feet are the bane of my existence. They are long and wide—which makes shoe shopping a nightmare! If I had just average sized wide feet—I’d be ok with that, and could order up a size for the added width. Or, if I had long feet but of average width—that’d be cool by me, too. But no, my size 10 Wide feet do not fit into most shoes. Most designers don’t make wide shoes, and even if I buy the 11, which may fit, they are probably still too narrow and end up pinching my toes. Not good for walking, or dancing, or general happiness.

One thing I do not want to think about on my wedding day is how much my feet hurt, which is something I think about on a regular basis. However, I love the look of colored heels adding a pop of color, and how they make such visually stimulating images:

Navy and green elegant wedding 14-2

Photo by: Captured Photography By Jenny on Every Last Detail via Lover.ly


Photo by: Katelyn James on The Brides Cafe via Lover.ly

Since I want blue shoes, and I’m not willing to stuff my feet into pretty little designer shoes, I’m going to shop for some wide-width options available online. (Have you ever tried shoe shopping for wide shoes in a department store? I swear they treat me like a leper!)

I know there are wide options on websites like Zappos and other online shoe stores. But when I did a search for dress shoes available in a wide-with in blue, the results were less than inspiring. There were a total of 22 results, and three matched the idea of what I had in mind. Kind of.


Bouquets Mona on Zappos.com


RSVP Fran on Zappos.com


RSVP Perfect on Zappos.com

Really, shoes don’t matter that much to me, but more because I’ve resigned myself to the fact that shoes are more of a pain in the ass (foot—really) to shop for, and I can’t go to a store to try them on, so I might as well just suck it up and buy something online. While my dream shoes are really pretty, I know that my shoes will get me down the aisle, and probably save me a pretty penny too! I have some time before I need them, but I don’t see my options getting any closer to what I’d like versus what is available to me.

Anyone else have hard-to-shop-for feet? Any good online/in-store suggestions for shoe shopping I might not have considered?


Mrs. Lyre

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    girlygirl885 333 posts, Helper bee @ 6:53 am

    I definitely could have written this post! My feet are size 11 though, so I definitely have no room to budge. I can admire the pretty shoes but I’ve learned that they just don’t love my feet and I will end up in pain if I try to make them work.

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    Heather, Guest @ 6:56 am

    I am wearing the bouquets mona with my dress. I think that they are much cuter on your foot than with the picture. Also I don’t wear heels that much, but these seem like they are designed to last the whole night. Slip resistance on the bottom, extra stuff in the heel to keep your foot from rubbing. I have gotten a ton of compliments on the shoe already. Color is also better in person.

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    shortbread 290 posts, Helper bee @ 7:04 am

    I’m right there with you. I wear a size 11 so most department stores carry nothing in my size. I have shoe envy when I see my friends wearing the cutest size 7 or 8 shoes. If I go shoe shopping in a store I first find the shoes that are in my size and hope that they’re cute ones. I hate falling in love with a shoe only to realize the size ten is the biggest they carry.

    I do love Zappos for my huge foot but I wish I could try shoes on before buying them. I’m also looking to get blue shoes for my wedding day so keep us posted on what you end up with!

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    FutureMrsSpencer 526 posts, Busy bee @ 7:05 am

    Have you thought about some flats? I wear a 10 wide and I hate high heels. I love they way they look but I am past the hype of buying shoes that I can’t walk in. If I can’t be in them all day, I don’t want them. I have been looking for a cute pair of hot pink flats for the reception but haven’t found a pair that I am so in love with yet. Good luck!

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:06 am

    The second pair of Kate Spade shoes are to die for! I think my favorite is the d’orsay RSVPs. Designer shoes are pretty, but no one’s going to see them under your dress, so you might as well get someting comfy and affordable.

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    booradley 2467 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:07 am

    I have wide feet and am a size 10.5. Try Stuart Weitzman. Amazon has good deals on them, too. Mine were $75 and I got a size 11.

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    MsVoyageur 1384 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:10 am

    Girlll you need to shop at Nordstrom. They shop in specialty-sized shoes, especially wide shoes. My mom is a size 5 1/2 wide. She can find the best shoes at Nordies!

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    pigment80 205 posts, Helper bee @ 7:17 am

    I second Nordstrom. Or even Nordstrom Rack. They have a HUGE array of larger sizes and they’re really cute/fun/funky! At Nordstrom Rack they do a sale once a month on larger shoes – so you might even get a great sale!!

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    BlairKid, Guest @ 7:18 am

    I have the same exact feet, size 10 wide. Shoes are pretty, but painful for me. I try to stick to flats, but part of me really wants to wear pretty shoes, if not just for my 10 minute ceremony and some pics then put on flats for the reception, but that could mean tripping over a dress that was tailored for heels………..soo, pretty flats it is, nobody truely sees shoes under the dress anyways right?! I’ve found these that might work http://www.dessy.com/accessories/closeout-peep-toe-satin-ballet-flat/

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    Miss ABC 208 posts, Helper bee @ 7:19 am

    I am not a big “shoe person” either. Good luck with your search! My favorite are the RSVP pair. I love bows!

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    mswizard 554 posts, Busy bee @ 7:22 am

    Oh my gosh I am obsessed with that first pair of Kate Spades. I swear one of these days I am just going to splurge and buy a pair of her shoes, I love them all so much.

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    Laurel43 15 posts, Newbee @ 7:30 am

    Maybe check out the Lulu Townsend shoes, particularly the Bailey pump: http://www.dsw.com/shoe/lulu+townsend+bailey+pump?prodId=225142&productRef=SEARCH

    They come in wide widths!

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    lisaelanna 530 posts, Busy bee @ 7:36 am

    I think DB sells shoes in larger sizes. I got the pair I wore for my wedding there – they looked really similar to the RSVPs (but in my opinion cuter) and you will be able to go actually try them on.

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    dragonlover 578 posts, Busy bee @ 7:37 am

    I love shopping for shoes. I’m really lucky my feet are a size 7 to 7.5 wide, so normally i have to order 7.5 to 8.

    My college roommate, and one of my bridesmaids, is a size 14. Literally, if she gets heels she normally has to have them customer ordered.

    Hence my bridesmaids are getting – wear whatever dress shoes make you happy.

    Otherwise it will be impossible.

    BTW, this might help you. Offbeat bride did a post about wedding shoes for those with large shoe sizes – http://offbeatbride.com/2012/07/wedding-pumps-in-larger-sizes

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    mslyre 512 posts, Busy bee @ 7:38 am

    @Shortbread: I hear ya! Even though my feet are “technically” a size 10, most 10s never fit!
    @FutureMrsSpencer & @BlairKid: Flats still hurt my feet because besides being big and wide, I have a ridiculously high arch, so flats sometimes make my feet hurt worse than heels! Also, Mr. Ly is 6’1″, and I’d like to have some height next to him! :) I will bring back-up comfy shoes probably!
    @Zouave: Thanks for the tip, I will check them out!

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    mslyre 512 posts, Busy bee @ 7:43 am

    @MsVoyageur & @pigment80: I will definitely check out both Nordstroms & The Rack. I have both, luckily, within 10 minutes of me! It’s been so long since I actually tried shoe shopping in a store, I never really thought about it! Thanks!
    @Laurel43: You may have just found me my wedding shoes! That shoe is SUPER cute! I may have to order them! For that price too, it can’t be beat! Thank you!
    @lisaelanna: I’ll check out DB! Thanks!
    @dragonlover: Wow, size 14… yikes. I shouldn’t complain! Thanks for the link, I will go check it out!

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    BookishBelle 1629 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:47 am

    milkandhoneyshoes.com they’re custom shoes (for the same price as a pair of Kate Spade shoes) and their customer service is great, if you contact them and let them know you want a wide size I’m SURE they could do it :)

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    msfairy 976 posts, Busy bee @ 8:31 am

    Those BM Randall’s are so narrow! I ordered them on sale once and had to send them back because while they were so adorable, they hurt standing.. as in the second I put them on. I can’t imagine walking five minutes in them let alone an entire evening!

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    ILuvPink 9 posts, Newbee @ 9:01 am

    I don’t know if anyone else has had this problem, but I think RSVP brand shoes run really small. I have ordered 3 different styles of this brand from Zappos, and even gone up a 1/2 size, and they squeeze my feet like you would not believe, to the point I lose feeling in my toes! And I don’t have wide or hard to fit feet. So beware if you pick RSVP ones!

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    mholden 167 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:17 am

    These may not be the color/style you’re looking for, but Ariel on Offbeat Bride did a post this morning on larger shoes!
    And a couple older ones:

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 9:21 am

    Those second pair of Kate Spades are so beautiful! I’m so picky about how shoes fit, and I totally lucked out finding a comfortable pair on the first try.

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    Merelymere 476 posts, Helper bee @ 9:23 am

    I feel your (sometimes actual) pain! I wear a 9 1/2 or a 10, but I usually have to buy a wide to accommodate the front of my feet, which have both been broken in strange ways. BUT my heel is NARROW. So if I buy heels, I have to hunt for a pair that has a strap that fits around the ankle so I can be reasonably sure that I won’t walk out of my shoes. I have 10-12 pairs of heels that I would wear for special occasions, etc. that I can’t wear anymore since I broke the left foot. I have actually considered buying a “plainer” pair of shoes than I want, then purchasing a clip of some sort, probably from someone on Etsy, to pretty them up.

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    LaughLines 346 posts, Helper bee @ 9:32 am

    Oh, larger feet can be so hard to shop for, especially wide or half sizes. I feel for you! I was wondering about Nina’s Design Your Own Shoes but I don’t know if they come in widths?

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    jennicole01 371 posts, Helper bee @ 9:34 am

    Have you tried endless.com? I think it’s much easier to search than Zappos. Good luck!

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    viewfrmhere 333 posts, Helper bee @ 9:51 am

    Just after reading your post I saw this on offbeatbride:

    It’s a whole list of cool looking shoes that come in wide. Even if you don’t like any on the list, maybe those brands have other shoes? I hope you find something awesome!

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    crosswordpuzzle 138 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:02 am

    Miss Lyre! You and I are in the same shoe boat! I was desperate to find navy blue shoes and I also wear a size 10 with wide feet as well. I couldn’t even fit a pair of badgley mischka’s past my toes. After ordering at least half a dozen shoes online and trying on, like, 30 pairs in stores, I finally settled on these: http://www.zappos.com/j-renee-rosina-navy and I *LOVE* them. I was hesitant to buy them initially, but when I became desperate I just bit the bullet and ordered them and they are so much prettier in person! And they pay homage to the Kate Spade Charm beauties that I had been lusting after for months. So I got the style of shoes I wanted and didn’t feel guilty for dropping the $$.

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    genie 723 posts, Busy bee @ 11:15 am

    Have you looked at Ninas? The green shoes in the photo are Nina, and I actually wore the pink version of them! I think the Randalls and the Kate Spades are so beautiful!

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    steph01924 308 posts, Helper bee @ 11:28 am

    God, story of my life! I have the exact same problem — I can wear 8.5–9.5 shoes and my feet are W.I.D.E. The size up thing only works occasionally, and then sometimes the shoes are too big after awhile. It’s depressing to go shoe-shopping and everything is too small. I’ve given up on caring about shoes; I’m just lucky I live in Florida where it’s acceptable to wear flip flop type sandals throughout the year. Good luck and keep us updated, because yours will probably be the only shoe posts I’m interested in. All the other Bees’ make me sad.

  29. mstoadstool Member
    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 11:54 am

    Oh you poor thing!! My mom has this problem she has small and wide feet, so I know it’s a pain to find shoes for wide feet.

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    KatieBklyn 2528 posts, Sugar bee @ 12:57 pm

    I have totally ginormous size 11 WW feet, and the best shoes I’ve found come from Evans – evansusa.com. They don’t have any blue ones at the moment though – I’ve been stalking them religiously looking for wedding shoes.

    I’m thinking of going the custom route and emailed with a rep from shoesofprey.com who seems pretty sure they can customize a pair of shoes to fit my tugboat-sized footsies. They’re not super pricey and they have a really great return policy, so I think I’m going to give them a spin and see how they work out!

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    archer 551 posts, Busy bee @ 1:05 pm

    i have hunted everywhere for didi- i was/am obsessed with them1

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    coyote 1960 posts, Buzzing bee @ 1:21 pm

    UGGGGH I have the opposite problem. My feet are too small! Most shops start at size 6, but I’m a 5. The selection at a size 5 is just… terrible. Good luck in your shoe search… I feel your pain!

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    doily 1734 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:55 pm

    Can I just say that I am in love with those Kate Spade Didi shoes? I ended up being a two shoe bride, a pair of heels for the wedding and a pair of Toms for the reception. I’m glad that I had that second pair because my first pair were not that comfortable!

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    mshelle 4 posts, Wannabee @ 5:51 pm

    Good luck! I’m having the same issue but I wear a size 12 wide!

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    StacyM 55 posts, Worker bee @ 6:17 pm

    i love the colored shoe pics too! BUT I am definitely NOT too much of a heel person. I’m also cheap so why am I going to buy an expensive pair to change into another expensive comfy pair. My aisle consists of 2 flights of stairs and I’m not the most coordinated person during sober times. Needless to say, I ordered custom Converses and am making my bridesmaids wear them too.

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    Jeanne, Guest @ 6:36 pm

    I have a size 5, so I generally shop in the kids section because finding a cute size 5 shoe is impossible-I actually bought a pair of gold sparkly flats from the kids section for our wedding! >_<

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    Miss Ariel 83 posts, Worker bee @ 7:59 am

    Have you seen these (http://couture.zappos.com/kate-spade-new-york-karmen-cobalt-satin) shoes on zappos? They were one of my top shoes when I was looking and they’re Kate Spade. But I couldn’t justify the cost to myself and instead went with the RSVP Sadie.

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    PomSaysOm 5 posts, Newbee @ 3:56 pm

    I definitely know how you feel… I wear a size 13 in women’s, or a 12 wide in some brands. Most of the time I just wear men’s shoes because its easier. I have found that Lane Bryant and Avenue have larger shoes available, both in store and online. Good luck with your shoe hunt!

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    cicijapan 263 posts, Helper bee @ 6:05 pm

    Girl, I feel your pain. I’m a 10wide too. I get most of my shoes from EasySpirit but none are wedding worthy. I’m so glad you wrote this post! Thank you

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:24 pm

    Yup I too feel your pain. My feet aren’t as long as yours but I do have wide feet. So more often than not if they fit width wise, they are too long, or if the fit length wise they hurt because they are too narrow! I bought shoes online for my wedding, they are gorgeous but they are slightly too big! I am hoping some insoles fix the problem!

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    priyathescientist 1514 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:36 pm

    I really love those Kate Spade shoes. I’m sorry that you have trouble finding shoes you like. I have trouble finding tops, dresses, and swimsuits I like because I’m petite with a big bust, so I sympathize with you.

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