Wedding Weight Pressure

Weddings and weight pressure somehow seem to go together—and not just because they alliterate. There is a huge amount of expectation for brides to look their “best” on their wedding day, which is somehow equated to being skinny and losing weight. The focus is on the bride.

Has anyone else seen this Verizon commercial?

I think it’s amazing how the pressure to lose weight is transferred from the bride to the father of the bride. I mean, I support physical fitness/healthy weight loss in the general sense, and I understand that big events give you that little extra ounce of motivation…but seriously? What happened to simply enjoying an event?

What do you think about the commercial?

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Mrs. Bracelet

Location:
Frankfurt, Germany/Rapid City, SD
Wedding Date:
September 2012
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    mslyre 512 posts, Busy bee @ 8:38 am

    My whole family is in on the weight loss thing right now. My brother is getting married in October, so my parents have TWO weddings to really motivate them. I will say that my dad has lost the most weight of any of us, and it really makes me so happy because I know he’s getting healthy not just for our weddings – but so he can live longer and be there for all our important events… maybe there is something to this commercial.

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    nursemel 1070 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:42 am

    I think it’s great. The U.S. is one of the fattest countries on the planet. There is nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight and live healthier. I would rather see commercials that promote weight loss over those that further promote the obese culture we live in today.

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    wb3245 4225 posts, Honey bee @ 8:43 am

    I actually like the commercial to some extent, but everyone should feel beautiful just the way they are (male or female).. Granted, I am working on losing weight in time for my wedding, but it’s because I don’t feel beautiful just the way I am, and, mostly it’s that middle section pudge that needs to go :)

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:44 am

    I saw this commercial and rolled my eyes so hard I’m surprised they’re still attached to my body. I hate the pressure on brides to lose weight. I think weddings are a great motivating factor for people who want to lose weight anyway, but the pressure is still there for people who are healthy and happy with the way their bodies look. It’s ridiculous.

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    The Torpedo Factory 94 posts, Worker bee @ 8:50 am

    I think it would be fine, if the commercials WERE promoting health, but this one is not. It is promoting the fact that you have to be a certain size and look a certain way to be beautiful or accepted. Dad did not lose weight to be healthy he lost it to look good for his daughter’s wedding. I know quite a few people (myself not included unfortunately) who are healthy and do NOT meet the NORM of what society considers beautiful.

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    Dela2012 133 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:55 am

    @Miss Treasure: Agreed!

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    rubyred605 1283 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:56 am

    I hated this commmercial. Fat is not ugly. Thin is not beautiful. What makes you ugly or beautiful is your character.

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    msfox 1635 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:07 am

    This commercial makes me laugh a bit, and then it made me think “maybe *I* should do that” and then.. I just didn’t. My whole issue with losing weight/working out/etc specifically for the wedding is that.. if you never looked like that before and you revert back to your old ways after.. is it really *you* on your wedding day? I know a lot of people may not agree with that, but it’s always floated around in my mind a bit. I tried to eat healthier before the wedding, but that was about it. Looking back, sure, I wish I lifted a few more weights (hate my arm fat) and did a bit more cardio, but what can you do?

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    wb3245 4225 posts, Honey bee @ 9:08 am

    @cubicalmouse: I agree with you 100% on that one!!

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    shortbread 290 posts, Helper bee @ 9:20 am

    I do have to say that our wedding has gotten my fiance and I both on a track that we hope to continue. We’ve learned so much about nutrition and our bodies after doing our Whole 30 program. Once we finished the program we just couldn’t go back to our “old ways”. I hate the added pressure that weddings bring for the bride but for us it’s exactly what we needed. I lost 13.5 pounds in 30 days and cannot wait to lose the final 10-15 pounds.
    I also think about our pictures and don’t want to have any regret that I wasn’t the best ME possible. I will never be a size 5 but want to feel good about myself that day and afterwards.

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:33 am

    @Mrs. Fox: “I wish I lifted a few more weights (hate my arm fat)” Death to the person who said everyone HAS to wear sleeveless/strapless wedding dresses!

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    msfairy 976 posts, Busy bee @ 10:53 am

    I don’t agree that brides/or anyone else for that matter should feel pressure to fit a certain body image for their big day. However I like that the commercial puts some emphasis on being healthy, which I think a lot of people (myself included) could do a better job doing (leading a healthier lifestyle). The wedding is helping me establish some healthier habits that I hope will last after September (visiting the gym more and drinking more water).

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    genie 723 posts, Busy bee @ 11:18 am

    I feel like everyone in my family lost weight for the weddings except for me! My body shape looked very different from when I tried on the dress to when I wore it, but the pressure to lose weight retroactively worked on me. I was so stressed the whole time, eating crap, and trying to redeem myself with a healthy diet and a run here of there. It was annoying. But on the day of, I probably had lost 3 pounds due to stress in one week, and I felt I looked beautiful, even though I wasn’t the size 6 I once was. My next goal is to get back to that size 6, but just for me, not for a wedding.

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 11:41 am

    @Miss Fairy: Totally agree with everything you’ve said, Miss Fairy!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 2:21 pm

    Agree completely with Miss Fairy!

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    LG, Guest @ 5:37 pm

    @Misstreasure AGREED!

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    priyathescientist 1514 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:16 pm

    Ugh. Everybody is beautiful. Cliché, but true. I think it’s great to use a wedding as motivation, but it shouldn’t be a source of stress.

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    Eggala, Guest @ 6:21 am

    I HATE the wedding weight pressure. I love myself exactly the way I am, and this is the person my fiancé fell in love with. I would hate to look back at wedding photos in the future and instead of thinking about how happy I looked, be sad because I had not been able to maintain an unrealistic weight. Thanks for starting this discussion.

    Did anyone read the ny times article about how men are now also feeling pressure to lose weight so they won’t look huge next to their newly skinny brides?

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    Ms Tee-Off 57 posts, Worker bee @ 1:03 pm

    I am never against a campaign that encourages a healthy lifestyle of eating right and exercising. If a special event is your motivation, so be it.

    I love all the comments that say “I love myself the way I am” … I think that is really great and how it should be. But to celebrate a new found way of being healthy should not be frowned upon either.

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    lynn, Guest @ 10:26 am

    I thought the commercial was cute. We do live in a culture where obesity is epidemic, and I think its important to look at healthy living. I liked the commercial because they showed a man who was obviously overweight, and making healthy lifestyle choices to get in better health. My best guess is that it probably hit home for some people who want to try and improve on their health to make sure they are around to enjoy precious moments in their families lives. I probably would think differently if the commercial showed a twig thin lady worried about not being a size 0 or something ridiculous.

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    WaitWhat 27 posts, Newbee @ 10:53 am

    I think it is silly that people try to lose wheight for a wedding, great if it is something that you can keep up with, but not if it is just to look “not like your self” in pictures for one day.

    And, I think the commercial was more about all the ways to use the cell phone. The wedding part probably only stands out to people who are ass-deep in wedding planning. It isn’t like it starts out with him looking at his daughters wedding invite and obsessively checking the count down.

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    athenaminerva1011 13 posts, Newbee @ 1:51 pm

    i love the commercial.

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    guests, Guest @ 4:35 pm

    I agree with Miss Fairy! I am trying to do the same.

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    Cheryl, Guest @ 1:00 pm

    Great discussion topic. I just got engaged a few months ago, and I certainly have a few pounds to lose. I was really frustrated because I don’t have lots of time to hit the gym 5 times per week. I also really don’t want to spend lots of $$ on a trainer. So, I found a great book, called Skinny Sexy Bride.

    Despite the title (which is totally and utterly offensive, and reinforces bad stereotypes), the workout plan was really good and the author really teaches a lot about proper eating. It’s totally simple and only takes 1 hour per week. I just have a problem with the title, poor choice if you asked me!

    I think you can find the book on Amazon.

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    Ms CH 132 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:35 am

    I actually see nothing wrong with that ad! He was overweight and needed to lose it

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