I’m mostly a loner. I have a very good relationship with some acquaintances and coworkers, but truth is I can count my friends on my fingers.
Now, my relationship with my girlfriends might seem odd to a lot of people. Four of them moved away for school and three of them never came back; the two who live here now have very hectic schedules and we don’t see each other a lot.
We text or message every once in a while and go for a coffee every now and then. In our school years we only got together during summer and winter vacation. We could go the entire year without hearing from the others and still talk like we saw each other yesterday. That’s the beauty of my relationship with these girls—time freezes when we’re not together.
My friends love Mr. Toadstool and always knew we’d end up getting married, so they’ve been talking about my wedding and planning my bachelorette party way before it was a reality.
I know there’s a chance not all of them can make it to the wedding, but I don’t want to think about it just yet. In the meantime I wanted to ask them to be my bridesmaids (!). We’re all American influenced, and they knew I wasn’t likely to have the traditional church wedding, so we’re kind of on the same page. One of the first things BM A asked me after I told them about the engagement was: “So which color are we going to wear?” I told you, same page.
So how to ask them? Facebook message? Phone call? Text? Invite them for a coffee? I could have done all those, but I’m neck deep into wedding blogs and the wedding world says you should do something special to ask your ladies to stand with you. OK, not really, but I wanted to do something special.
So I decided to give each a ring, and since we don’t have Ring Pops in México I decided to make rings for them. I know I saw this somewhere, but don’t remember where so I lack a source for the time being. But anyway…I made them rings from pipe cleaners and chocolate Kisses.
I picked these latte colored pipe cleaners because they were the closest I found to gold. I twisted them on my fingers twice to make the ring shape, put a chocolate on top, and held it there by twisting the remainder of the pipe cleaner.
Well, I had the rings, five of them to be exact—now I needed to pack them.
I put each ring in a box, added a little card with the date and place of the wedding, and topped it with a little message I wrote for each girl.
The message goes along the lines of:
I’m sending you this to tell you you’re a very special person in my life
and distance or time can’t change that. I’d love for you to be next to
me the most special day of my life.
I know it’s a tricky situation and I’ll understand if you can’t make it,
but I want you to know we’ll have a spot saved for you that day.
I want to know…Would you be my bridesmaid?”
I hand delivered two and sent the other three by post. Bad idea—only one made it to its destination…bad luck. I had to sent pictures of the package to the two girls who didn’t get their package; good news is all five of them said yes…yay!
It kind of sounds like a teenager inviting her friends to her Sweet 16, but my friends loved it and that’s what matters, right?
Did you do anything special to ask your bridesmaids? Did thay say yes?