On Liking (Most Of) My Body”¦

I’m not skinny, it’s in my genes. I don’t think about myself as plus size, but I’ll let you decide by yourselves.

I’ve come to terms with my body. I’m curvy and thick, and as much as I exercise (which I don’t, but I’m saying this hypothetically) I would never look like this:

Image via lovelyish.com/ Jealous much? a little bit.

There’s a myth that the perfect women’s measures are 90-60-90 (or 36-24-36 inches for those in the English system).

That means 90cm boobs, 60cm waist and 90cm hips. It’s a curvy girl.


Holding my breath

Well, I’m curvy. I’m a 96-77-102 girl (38-30-40in). I’m definitely not skinny, but what can I do? I’m a Latin girl with curvy genetics (yes, I like to blame genes). I’m comfortable with my body for the most part, but I’m aware of my flaws:

  • Thighs: I have thick thighs; I say they’re thick rather than fat cause they don’t jiggle (yaay) because it’s all muscle. I have my dad’s mom to thank for it—she gave us big thighs and curvy legs, but thankfully they’re all muscle instead of fat.
  • Ribs: Yes, it’s a body part. The thing is, I have a broad rib cage which translates into a broad back and broad shoulders. It’s another of grandma’s gifts. This makes me look big in the upper part, so even if I have rockin’ abs (which I don’t), I’d still look big.
  • Boobs: They’re not big for some people’s standards; I’m a really full B or small C. I consider it a perfect size—not big enough to bother me, but big enough to look like I have some. Best of all I can gain some weight in the middle area without it being too noticeable.
  • Tummy: The dreaded part. I’ve never had a flat tummy. I guess I could if I exercised, but I don’t. I do have a waist line, which is great because it masks those little weight gains.
  • Arms: They’re not exactly big, but they tend to turn into what we call “the chicken wing”. You know, when your forearm dangles like a wing. Thankfully mine are not dangling”¦ yet.
  • Height: I’m short. I’m 1.56m high (5,12ft), so because I’m short, everything looks broader.

Now, let’s focus on the wedding. I’ll [hopefully] be wearing a big [BIG] dress that’ll cover my thighs and will be tight enough to show a reasonably small waist line, the problem here is my arms. I guess I should start lifting some weights. Shake weight anyone?


Image via PRLOG

Man it’s so weird to put this on the internet.

How about you? What do you like about your body? Is there anything you want(ed) to change for your wedding? Have you made peace with what you can’t change or are you trying to do something about it?


Mrs. Toadstool

Obregon, Mexico
Wedding Date:
December 2012
We Do(e): Flowers With A Magical Touch
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    x0jlynn03 3392 posts, Sugar bee @ 10:17 am

    I actually bought the shake weight, maybe 2 years ago.. and I can honestly say, I think it works. No I don’t have bulging biceps and my arms still jiggle a lit.. but it definitely helps to tone things up. At one point I actually stopped using it, because I felt my triceps were looking too big. As my wedding gets closer I’ll start doing the shake weight every other day to help tone things up.

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    Heather, Guest @ 10:29 am

    Pushups are the easiest and most effective way to tone arms! They are difficult but they produce results.

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    FutureMrs.browneyes 1435 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:31 am

    Um you are soo not big!! You look good!! and my mom’s mom cursed us with big hips and jiggle arms! I can get everything in shape but then I look funny because I have big hips LOL. My mom used the shake weight and her arms look amazing! She went from flappy waving arms to alot tonner!

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    jpalm13 2964 posts, Sugar bee @ 10:44 am

    Right there with you girl! Funny thing- I have NEVER had a flat stomach either! I think its something about the build we have that it just won’t happen without some sort of extreme exercise or diet.

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    KYbride86 307 posts, Helper bee @ 10:45 am

    You look great! Rock your bod!

    I have a broad rib cage too! I never even thought about it until trying on wedding dresses and the consultant mentioned it. Makes sense why my bra size never changes even though I’ve lost 40 pounds.

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 11:06 am

    I had every intention of toning up for the wedding but then life got in the way. I’m at my happy weight right now (where my body naturally goes if I eat relatively well and move around a bit). I know I could be smaller, and I know if I don’t watch it I’ll keep getting bigger, but at this point I’m just forgetting about it!

    You look great, BTW. :)

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    MissCanyon 212 posts, Helper bee @ 11:14 am

    I wrote a post about body image yesterday and maybe you’ll find something useful in it? Our culture doesn’t exactly encourage healthy eating or positive body images so it’s important to do what feels right for YOU. Stay strong!


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    Michelle, Guest @ 11:15 am

    I was never much of an exercise person either but I started using myfitnesspal and it’s been a huge help in helping me “tame” some of my curviness. If you’re interested, def check it out. I recommend it to everyone :)

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 11:25 am

    I think that you look great, but even more than that, you have a positive body image which is beyond great :)

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    ImperialBride 28 posts, Newbee @ 11:34 am

    I’m probably going to get engaged in the next year and I’m starting to freak out about my body even now. If you want a tool to help you focus on your diet, seriously check out http://www.MyFitnessPal.com. You can track online and through their mobile apps. You can literally find just about any and every food available and what’s not on there, you can add.

    If you put in ALL your information (it was scary for me lol) and put in the commitment, it really really helps.

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    tonejis 73 posts, Worker bee @ 11:48 am

    Same problem here I’m 5.7 (1.70 M) but i used to be a swimmer so .. i came to terms that i never going to be super skinny
    For my wedding i been eating super healthy , and doing the jillian’s 30 day shred and definitely works!, also like ImperialBride said use my fitness pal, this app helps you to make healthy choices in your food
    good luck
    PD: i dont think your body is great they way it is =)

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    MarieandIkeWedding 53 posts, Worker bee @ 12:11 pm

    First, I think you look great. I also think we see ourselves much differently than others see us. I have huge thighs thanks to my grandfather and when I read you did, I said, “Really?”. Our thighs may be the same size but I think mine are about 3 times the size of your thighs, haha. :) But I am trying to get in shape before the wedding (hello P90X). I’d like to slim down and do something about my horrible looking upper arms. Exercising, focusing on food choices, and looking at portion size are the biggest things for me. Also, realizing that inches lost will come before pounds is the biggest motivator. Stepping on the scale and seeing I lost 3 pounds after 2 weeks vs. losing 1 inch in my hips…well, I felt a whole lot better after the measurements.

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    anemonie 1578 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:37 pm

    Ugh, FI and I just started doing P90X together, and it’s kicking my ass. We’re not particularly active people.

    I can deal with the little pooch of fat on my stomach (this is normal for women, as estrogen causes you to store fat there), but I’m really self conscious about the bit of fat right below my boobs that sits on top of my ribs. I need to wear a pretty taut bra band to get the support I need, and it only emphasizes the problem.

    I know my wedding dress will hold all of that in on my wedding day, but I am also really worried about back fat. I realized that it made a cameo in photos where I was shopping for my dress. I haven’t quite mastered the art of working out my back, so anyone with any tips, please share. Aaaaand now I feel petty for being self conscious.

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    Jenniphyr 3426 posts, Sugar bee @ 1:50 pm

    I think you wrote your height wrong. 5’12” would be 6 feet tall. 154cm is 5′ 1 1/2″.

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    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:23 pm

    YOU LOOK AMAZING WOMAN! That said, you need to feel comfortable on your wedding day. I’d like to shed another 10ish before my special day and I agree on the big boobs, ribcage, and arms, they all make me look bigger than I really am!

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    RoseTylerWannabee 182 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:03 pm

    I think you look perfect!!!

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    msfairy 976 posts, Busy bee @ 7:21 pm

    You’re such a beautiful girl!! :)

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    www.sorrentoweddings.com.au, Guest @ 7:01 am

    You look amazing !especially ina wedding dress !

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    MrsN2Be 590 posts, Busy bee @ 9:17 pm

    YOU are beautiful! I’d kill to have a body like yours!

    I have a large ribcage as well + big boobs (DD’s, almost DDD/E cup) and I’m overweight but even when I was “skinny” I wasn’t model thin, I was always curvy (I have big hips as well, all the females on my dad’s side have it & that’s where I get it), I wore a size 11/12 pants when I was 140lbs (I’m 5’6 1/2).
    Right now I’m working on losing weight to be healthy (it’s a bonus to look good for the wedding) & I am considering a shake weight because I DO have chicken wings for arms!!!

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:58 am

    @MissCanyon: Great post, right on he spot.
    @MarieandIkeWedding: You’re right, I’m actually very heavy but it’s cause I am lots of bones and muscle, I rarely lose weight but losing inches is a blessing.
    @anemonie: mThat fat below the boobs, exactly. My torso looks so weird cause I’m lucky enough to have a defined waist line but then I get big under and up the waist and I look like an odd shaped hourglass. Lol
    @Jenniphyr: Oops, sorrry, I actually googled it cause I work in International System.

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 10:08 am

    @MrsN2Be: I recently bougt it an am loving it so far, you don’t feel sore but do feel it is working and I’ve got great reviews. I’ll let you know in a month or two.

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 10:16 am

    You have an amazing figure! If you want to tone (based on that photo, you don’t need to), you should try pilates. It really develops lean muscle tone.

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    jennicole01 371 posts, Helper bee @ 11:27 am

    Ditto on pushups! My husband and I did about four weeks or so of the One Hundred Push Ups program before our wedding (http://hundredpushups.com/), and the difference was AMAZING. I got back muscles! It’s not impossible, either — I started with only four pushups in a row and ended up at 22 consecutive/over 70 done at intervals! :)

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