“If You Were Gay, That’d Be OK.”

(Name that lyric from that song from that popular musical.)

I need to address something VERY important to me. I need to openly share my feelings in regard to this topic. I need to state that I believe ALL PEOPLE SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO MARRY WHOMEVER THEY DAMN WELL PLEASE. Love is the most beautiful, delicate, fascinating, special, soul-building emotion you can experience and it should be celebrated. Always celebrated.

Phew! That felt good. Thanks for listening to me, hive. I know that I am not alone in this sentiment. Bees before have shared similar feelings, and bees before me have shared how all love is not treated equal and how sad things can happen. But even though it was discussed before me and will be talked about after me, until everyone is given the same rights of legal marriage, we need to continue talking about it.

I also think it’s important that those of us who identify as both religious and pro-LGBT speak up even louder. I am one of those people, and because I don’t want to get into a huge political/religious rant right now because this isn’t the place for that,* I will stick to the reason this injustice pertains to my wedding.

In an effort of solidarity Mr. Sword and I are making a conscious effort to hire only those vendors that share our beliefs. Our aim is to hire only vendors who do not discriminate against working for same-sex couples and weddings. I’m happy to report so far so good with the vendors we’ve hired up to this point, and once it comes time to print our programs I want to include something in them about the universal awesomeness of all our vendors. :)

And because I have a huge obsession with quotes, I leave you with one:

“What is straight? A line can be straight, or a street, but the human heart, oh, no, it’s curved like a road through mountains.”

—Tennessee Williams, A Streetcar Named Desire, 1947

Are you recognizing anything in particular in your wedding? (I figure that is a safe question, but other positive comments welcome!)

*Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. That said, could we all enter from a place of respect and grace when commenting here on the hive? Thank you kindly!

BLOGGER

Mrs. Sword

Location:
Chicago
Wedding Date:
March 2013

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:16 pm

    Good on you for stating your beliefs! I think thats good of you!

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    archer 551 posts, Busy bee @ 9:41 pm

    Preach, sister!! I agree one million percent. We’ll be having our officiant mention our feelings on marriage equality during the ceremony, as well as mentioning it in the program.

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 10:43 am

    You said something I’ve been saying on Facebook for forever: “But even though it was discussed before me and will be talked about after me, until everyone is given the same rights of legal marriage, we need to continue talking about it.” Thank you so much for expressing that sentiment, you’re so right.

    We also had the vendor rule and all of our vendors are wonderfully supportive. Our photographers recently shot a same-sex wedding, actually. We’ll definitely be going the acknowledgement route on the Day Of, as well, in both our programs and the Ceremony text.

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    Essa 124 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:16 am

    Being religious myself, I love that you said “I also think it’s important that those of us who identify as both religious and pro-LGBT speak up even louder. ”

    I totally agree! We had a big discussion in my young adults sunday school about this and it warms my heart to be around other Christians who are accepting and believe in marriage rights for all!

    Great post!!

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    Lady Bape 25 posts, Newbee @ 11:25 am

    TOTALLY Agreed! We’ll have a number of gay and lesbian guests, and we decided not to go with a destination wedding partially because so many ‘destinations’ commonly used are so anti-gay. We’re both deeply religious (different religions) and also want to be strong LGBTQI allies, so we jumped at the chance of having a non-religious ceremony in a non-religious venue. There’s a rainbow archway not far from our ceremony where I’d love to make sure to get in a few pictures in it!

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    RosaK 21 posts, Newbee @ 11:26 am

    Couldn’t agree more. Being a christian myself, I understand that others have decided that path is “wrong”. What I don’t understand is, more than anything, we are here to love everyone as thy neighbor and leave the judging to God. My favorite quote of all that I’ve seen floating around social network sites is “Claiming someone’s marriage is against your religion is like telling someone they can’t eat donuts because your’re on a diet.”

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    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:13 pm

    @StephK527: Thanks girl! Sounds like you are incorporating a lot as well!
    @Essa: love this!!
    @Lady Bape: sounds beautiful!
    @RosaK: Seriously, such a good point.

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    msfairy 976 posts, Busy bee @ 4:43 am

    What a great idea, I love that you did this! :)

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