(Name that lyric from that song from that popular musical.)
I need to address something VERY important to me. I need to openly share my feelings in regard to this topic. I need to state that I believe ALL PEOPLE SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO MARRY WHOMEVER THEY DAMN WELL PLEASE. Love is the most beautiful, delicate, fascinating, special, soul-building emotion you can experience and it should be celebrated. Always celebrated.
Phew! That felt good. Thanks for listening to me, hive. I know that I am not alone in this sentiment. Bees before have shared similar feelings, and bees before me have shared how all love is not treated equal and how sad things can happen. But even though it was discussed before me and will be talked about after me, until everyone is given the same rights of legal marriage, we need to continue talking about it.
I also think it’s important that those of us who identify as both religious and pro-LGBT speak up even louder. I am one of those people, and because I don’t want to get into a huge political/religious rant right now because this isn’t the place for that,* I will stick to the reason this injustice pertains to my wedding.
In an effort of solidarity Mr. Sword and I are making a conscious effort to hire only those vendors that share our beliefs. Our aim is to hire only vendors who do not discriminate against working for same-sex couples and weddings. I’m happy to report so far so good with the vendors we’ve hired up to this point, and once it comes time to print our programs I want to include something in them about the universal awesomeness of all our vendors. 
And because I have a huge obsession with quotes, I leave you with one:
“What is straight? A line can be straight, or a street, but the human heart, oh, no, it’s curved like a road through mountains.”
—Tennessee Williams, A Streetcar Named Desire, 1947
Are you recognizing anything in particular in your wedding? (I figure that is a safe question, but other positive comments welcome!)
*Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. That said, could we all enter from a place of respect and grace when commenting here on the hive? Thank you kindly!
Here, here! I agree that no one should be denied the right to marry whom consents to marry them in return. =)
word, sister!
Yay Avenue Q! Man, I love that show. And yay marriage equality!
1. I LOVE Avenue Q. LOVE IT. It’s my favorite musical.
2. Preaching to the choir with me, girl 
And thanks for saying it! I fully, completely agree. I actually really would love to make some sort of statement at my wedding…like have a bowl of white knots or something…but I have many VERY conservative relatives that are very close-minded, and I know their minds will never be changed–and I don’t want to start unneccessary drama at my wedding, especially because that drama would make our somewhat-closetedly-gay best man very uncomfortable.
Thanks for standing up for equality Miss S. Means a lot to all of us and especially me 
Nicely put. We had a reader read an excerpt from Plato’s Symposium as a nod to same-sex couples. I wish we had known about the white knots–that would’ve been a really cool way to acknowledge marriage inequality. Your vendor idea is a great one & I wish I would’ve thought of it!
It indeed means so very much when many voices and perspectives stand up for equality! Thank you!
Ooooh, and our nod was ummm we are lesbians and had an excerpt from the Massachusetts Ruling included in our ceremony…
I feel the same – after a long hiatus from religion, it became important to me to get married in a church. But my husband and I consciously chose to support same-sex marriage by selecting readings that were the most ambiguous as to sex and focused more on love and connection than anything else. That was our little ‘nod’ to all of our wonderful gay friends, past and present, saying that we support them whole-heartedly.
I had never heard that Tennessee Williams quote before, love it.
Awesome.
I definitely want to include an acknowledgment that we stand for marriage equality and that FI and I look forward to the day when all couples will be able to share in the beautiful and meaningful institution of Marriage.
Originally we were going to print a statement in our program, but we’ve since decided to forgo programs. Any other ideas for how we can make a statement?
Also, I know some of my more conservative relatives might be offended, and as much as I dont think that that should scare me away from doing it, It is still a very real fear. How do the rest of you approach it?
I really really really wanted to have white knots at the reception for everyone to take. Sadly, FI’s family is composed mainly by the daughters of a pastor and are NOT going to share my beliefs. My family is fully composed of Roman Catholics who are not rude but will not share in my opinion. I can offer them but they will remain unused and both families will probably HATE it. I just can’t bring another bump into our day although my bff and bridesmaid will stand next to me being lesbian and all
@radishtime: You know, I think that although it is very sweet to put some sort of statement supporting gay rights in your program or do the white knots, a way you can make a bit of a bigger difference is to donate money or volunteer. It doesn’t have to be a big public display at your wedding to make a difference. Google around and see what they have in your area. I know in my area, we have gay/straight alliances that you can donate to, and there are also groups that provide housing and support to gay teenagers who have been kicked out of their homes that take donations of food, money and time.
I missed something. What are white knots and what do they represent?
Ok I googled it – love the concept. What a nice way to show solidarity with all loving couples.
I want to do something to support marriage equality but am not sure what yet…the idea of a reading or the white knots are on my mind currently. Perhaps a tree near the ceremony site covered in teeny cute white knots.
@Mrs. Eagle: hugs.
Thanks everybody! The white knots are a great idea as well as donating money to your local community. SO happy to see all this openness here on the hive!
Mrs. Sword, Chicago Age and Occupation: 28, Nanny/Actress Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Software Engineer Engagement Date: February 19, 2012 Wedding Date: March 2013 Venue: Embassy Suites Bloomington West in Bloomington, MN About Me: I am a true girly-girl originally from the great state of Minnesota and my fiancé hails from the beautiful country of Scotland. We met and fell in love in our favorite city, Chicago, and are having a blast blending our cultures for "A Highland Fairy Tale" wedding! We are truly a case of opposites attract in that he’s a world traveling introvert and I’m a social butterfly who is never too far from home. We both love hanging out with family and friends, fine dining, and laughing at ourselves. He drinks a lot of beer and I talk too much. We wouldn’t have it any other way!
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