I’m at a total loss. I have no idea what readings I should include in our ceremony and I’ve searched the web one too many times. It’s time to ask for help.
Here’s the goal: two readings, one religious (could be from the Bible or not) and one more unique and atypical. The religious one is proving difficult because a lot of the traditional readings from the Bible do not fit our values (I’m not interested in submissive wife or hetero-focused readings), and the unique reading? Well, that’s proving difficult because I’m being super picky!
I have scoured Offbeat Bride and A Practical Wedding as well as kept up to date with what my fellow bees have included in their ceremonies! I’ve considered the cutesy and simple readings from childhood books, I’ve Googled “unique wedding readings” but seem to find the same things over and over again, and I’ve looked at the classics waiting to get inspired. I guess I’m hoping for that “A-HA” moment, like when I found my dress, but what if it never comes? As a lover of words, poems, and quotes, I really want to be invested in my readings and I want them to be just perfect for Mr. Sword and me. Wow, nothing like putting the pressure on, huh?
I love when couples have readings that are personal to them, like a reading from Dungeons and Dragons…
My plea is this—if you have any readings or poems or whatever and you would be so kind as to pass them on, I would greatly appreciate it! I’m open to reading anything, and I think this is such a diverse group that I’m hoping someone has something I haven’t seen before!
And, just because, here are some passages we are considering but haven’t fallen in love with quite yet!
“The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking a fool for love,
for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are square in your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow,
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed down from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving, to hide it, fade it, or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true yourself;
if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty even when it is not pretty every day, and if you can source your life on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the moon in God’s presence.
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after a night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done for the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know, or how you came here.
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself, and if you truly like the company you keep in empty moments.
Song of Solomon 2:10-13
My beloved responded and said to me,
“Arise, my darling, my beautiful one,
And come along.
“For behold, the winter is past,
The rain is over and gone.
“The flowers have already appeared in the land;
The time has arrived for pruning the vines,
And the voice of the turtledove has been heard in our land.
“The fig tree has ripened its figs,
And the vines in blossom have given forth their fragrance.
Arise, my darling, my beautiful one,
And come along!”
“Magic” by Shel Silverstein
Sandra’s seen a leprechaun,
Eddie touched a troll,
Laurie danced with witches once,
Charlie found some goblins’ gold.
Donald heard a mermaid sing,
Susy spied an elf,
But all the magic I have known
I’ve had to make myself.
So, does anyone have a reading they’d like to share? If you are married, what readings did you have in your ceremony? I’m open to all suggestions!