One element of wedding planning that people always bring up is how stressful it is. It’s what turns sane women into raving lunatics like the ones you see on Bridezillas. For the first 13 months of our engagement, I was happy that I didn’t really experience much wedding stress. Mr. T and I did a good job effectively managing the to-do list and keeping things in perspective.

This last month, I have not been as good at it. I think it’s just the time crunch, but wedding planning has taken over my life. Planning a wedding means dealing with a never-ending to-do list. As soon as I complete a task, another one seems to pop up in its place. I am currently unemployed, which means that I have lots of time to spend on completing wedding tasks, but also means that I’m doing the vast majority of the work. I’ve had the pleasure of tracking down RSVPs and coordinating logistics with guests. I’ve taken countless trips to craft stores. Our apartment has been taken over by things I’ve made or bought. (Lord knows what we’re going to do with everything when we get home from our honeymoon.) Unfortunately, all this has led me to fight with Mr. T about stupid things that don’t matter.

Everyone keeps asking if I’m excited, and I am. I really am looking forward to the wedding, and I don’t regret our decision to have one. But I’m also really looking forward to it all being done.

Does/did anyone else feel this way?


Mrs. Treasure

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September 2012
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    tankgirl 988 posts, Busy bee @ 9:25 am

    Completely. I’m in a similar position in terms of employment and responsibilities, and it really has become overwhelming to be the go-to person for everything wedding. But at the same time, I know no one else really can, let alone will, step in to fill those shoes no matter how much I delegate (and delegated tasks coming back to haunt me is a whole other rant) so there seems to come a point where there’s no way out but through!

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    mcginger 2 posts, Wannabee @ 9:33 am

    that is exactly how i feel today. just retyped our wedding to do list and have 76 things to plow through before the wedding day. I can’t feel my legs.

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    Dela2012 133 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:47 am


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    elizabeth2004 596 posts, Busy bee @ 10:04 am

    I think the day before my wedding was the most stressful day of my life. Hang in there!

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    raspberry bride 407 posts, Helper bee @ 10:09 am

    I am completely on the same page as you. I am doing the bulk of the work (and by bulk, I mean that my FI has probably spent a maximum of 5 hours doing wedding related tasks). However, I don’t have much time. I work twelve hour days and have activities/exercise 3 nights a week. My stress level has been over the moon lately and I have been waking up in the middle of the night with wedding nightmares. I am excited – but I am excited for it to be over as well!

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    misssparkler 488 posts, Helper bee @ 10:21 am

    Oh my gosh, YES. The last month of planning was the worst and I spent a lot of time curled up in the corner of our couch crying. It really does start to get to you. I was so happy when the rehearsal day arrived and everything was planned and done and nothing could be changed. I mean I was just ecstatic. I keep telling Sparks that I will never get married again haha 😉

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    nkaujyi 64 posts, Worker bee @ 10:41 am

    YES! For the last month now I’ve been saying that I am most looking forward to the having the whole day be over so we can get back to our regularly scheduled lives!

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    mrsjjc 246 posts, Helper bee @ 10:45 am

    I wasn’t so much looking forward to the wedding being over as just having it actually BE the wedding day! I was so excited to not have to plan or decide anything and just get to enjoy myself!

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    39bride, Guest @ 10:50 am

    Totally. Fortunately, by the time I’d absolutely had enough, it was a week before the wedding and my mother had taken the week off to help. The last two days were just too much, though. I completely lost it two days before and had an emotional meltdown. And about that time is when family swooped into town and made it all happen. I could’ve kissed each and every one of them. Just hang in there!

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    genie 723 posts, Busy bee @ 11:29 am

    Yeah, that last month is a rough one. Everyone wants you to put on a smiling face, but all you can think about are the details all coming together finally, and seating charts, and schedule making. It’s exciting, but it’s hard, and little things can set you off. I was totally there too, getting irritated with Mr. G really easily. We’re better now and that time seems like years ago.

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    nativedesires 4382 posts, Honey bee @ 1:07 pm

    I feel exactly the same way in fact I could have written that post word for word. Everyone keeps saying relax things will go wrong and you will just need tO roll with it. No one will know except you. I guess that’s what part of the problem is I can be my own worst enemy in being a perfectionist and wanting everything to go as planned. After all the months and time planning and making things I just want to make sure everything is used now. People ask me the same thing are you excited and I feel bad saying yes but I just can’t wait for it to be over now.

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    phoenixandstars 565 posts, Busy bee @ 2:06 pm

    I am soooooooooo right there with you. I am ready to be done with the planning and just get back to normal life. I can’t wait and I am excited but with three weeks to go I feel stressed out 24/7. Cannot wait for our honeymoon!

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    Tina, Guest @ 2:44 pm

    Same here, unemployed 6 weeks now in the midst of planning and ready for it to be over with. I have to do the bulk of this DIY so yep I feel your pain. The local Michaels stores are so use to seeing me in, the cashiers know my face right away…. 6 months to go, come on wedding day :-)

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    Mrs. Bracelet 279 posts, Helper bee @ 4:44 pm

    I am/was in a very similar position – I did fine for most of the wedding planning, but that last week was bad.. in particular the 2 days before I drove across the state to get to our wedding when I was trying to finish all remaining projects & pack them in the car!
    You’ll make it!

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    Miss ABC 208 posts, Helper bee @ 5:20 pm

    Well put! It is a very stressful time. Best of luck getting everything done!

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    Crindy 319 posts, Helper bee @ 6:48 am

    Yes! I am so excited for the wedding to be here, and I’m also so excited for it to be OVER.

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    Cookie, Guest @ 10:13 am

    Thank you, Mrs. Treasure for being honest and admitting this is hard. I put so much pressure on myself for everything to be perfect, for everyone to have the best time and be awed and amazed by all our hardwork. I want it to be perfect for him, too! And he doesn’t give a damn if the candy for our candy buffet is displayed in the gorgeous apothecary jars I’ve been drooling over for years. Oh, how many times we’ve fought over the candy buffet of all things! I am also unemployed and it seems lately that life has been sucking all the fun out of our wedding. I can’t wait until its over and we can be us again. We survived 2 years of LDR, illness, family issues, etc. The wedding planning, by far, is the worst. It will all be worth it to be married to him but if I had it to do all over, I would’ve campaigned harder to elope.

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    mglem89 171 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:58 pm

    I completely feel the same way …. it really wasn’t even until about a week ago that I started to get over the top stressed out! And now that the wedding is a week away the wonderful wedding nightmares have begun … I actually woke up last night crying from a nightmare that everything was happening a day early and nobody showed up lol …. my poor subconscious can’t take any more wedding planning!! But it will all be worth it and all over soon! Good luck!!!

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    msfairy 976 posts, Busy bee @ 6:06 am

    I completely understand this post! I was so anxious/excited/stressed over the wedding beforehand, and now that it’s over, it was an amazing day, but it’s so nice to have those memories and enjoy the small parts of everyday life that I neglected beforehand!

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    coyote 1963 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:53 am

    UGH yes!! The last week before our wedding was complete insanity and Mr. Coyote and I fought more than we had ever fought in our 7 years together. It was ugly, but we made it through and it was deff worth it.

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    Cindy, Guest @ 10:44 am

    Today, I yelled at my mother because she made a joke about the number of guests to invite…maybe I will see the humor after the wedding but now, I am full of stress!!

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