Venue hunting was definitely the hardest decision we made. We knew we wanted to be in the city, which was great, because that meant there were a LOT of possible wedding venues. It was also hard because…there were a LOT of possible wedding venues. Just narrowing down the options was, frankly, pretty exhausting. I didn’t realize until we started searching in earnest that our needs were somewhat weird…and most venues we contacted or visited had one or more of these issues:
So, it was tough not only to meet these criteria, but also to make sure the venue met my “vision.” The problem was…I couldn’t really articulate that vision. I kept changing my idea of what our wedding should be depending on what venue we were looking at. I wanted a chic modern wedding…or did I want lots of vintage touches? An ornate mansion or a bare gallery? A large open space or lots of rooms to move around in? My ideas were somewhat schizophrenic—there wasn’t just one wedding I was picturing, there were dozens. I had to force myself to step back and think about what I actually wanted. Wolfman thankfully went along with this entire inner struggle and encouraged me to not only really consider those practical bullet points, but also think about exactly what I wanted our venue to do.
Finally, the answer was to incorporate our adopted city. Once I decided that, the choice was easy…and somewhat ironically, we went with one of the first venues we visited: the Whittemore House.
(Image via the Woman’s National Democratic Club)
It’s a 19th century mansion with a lot of amazing DC history (more pictures to come!). It actually also functions as the museum for the Woman’s National Democratic Club. Finding a modern space in the city wasn’t impossible, but in the end having our wedding in a house and neighborhood with its own rich history slowly gained more appeal that hosting in a blank gallery space. I mean…Eleanor Roosevelt used to give radio talks from there—how much more DC can you get? I also love that it was formerly a home, because we really want to use the combination of our venue, the season, and our wedding size for a cozy, intimate gathering.
What about you? Did you have one wedding vision…or a ton, like me?